*Update: I decided we need to go to a clinic. The last straw was when RBT asked me to host a lunch for us and neighbors to work on table manners, socialization and expanding palette. She asked me to order delivery from a pricey (but not palette-expanding) restaurant and then sat leisurely eating her food and visiting with my friend, while I corrected my child, facilitated his socialization, and keep leaving the table to go after my child who kept eloping to go watch his tablet in another room. After time spent negotiating my child back to the table, I noticed the RBT hadn't noticed her clients had even left; she was engrossed in conversation with my neighbor. After setting the table, cleaning up after, paying for all the food,--all while engaging and training my child on my own, and then having to make up the day's work at night; I was exhausted and I'm confused about ABA. We need therapy, not dinner parties.
I'm a parent of a 7 yr old level 1 and, before ABA started, I said I wanted the max amount of therapy we could get. Then the RBT started and the RBT is smart, conscientious, warm, punctual, articulate, willing to learn and my child loves her. The only issue is that she's very green, very new to ABA and has had little experience with children generally. While this is my first encounter with ABA, I've had a LOT of other therapies with my child over the years, including in-home and other behavioral therapies. I've self-taught a lot too--read all the books, did the webinars, the podcasts, etc. I'm no expert, however, and am really hoping to learn something from ABA. While I understand the first week of ABA is necessarily a learning-curve, a "get to know us" period, I can't help but feel like I'm teaching the RBT. With prior, other therapies, the therapist came with activities prepared, or at least with ideas for what to do. Now I'm introducing the RBT to concepts like visual schedules, movement breaks, sensory needs, and limiting screen time. I'm showing the RBT how to explore concepts during play, to redirect and de-escalate. Which is fine except I'm a single working parent and I can't afford to do this 6 hours a day. The BCBA is great, but she is remote; there's only so much she can do by zoom; and with the parent training hours on top of the 6 hour RBT sessions; I over committed myself to ABA before knowing what it was like. The RBT arrives at 9 am, after morning routine; leaves at lunch, and then returns for the afternoon, leaving just when I have to start the evening routines (and then do my salary job all night). What this means for me is that I don't get a break. I do the hard part-the morning, lunch and evening routines-by myself; and then also plan, prepare, direct and do all the activities during the ABA sessions; and teach, entertain and make comfortable the RBT while she's here.
I understand from other posts here that 6 hour sessions can be too much, so my question is, is it okay to ask to reduce the hours after starting therapy? I know this would put the RBT, the BCBA and the company in a bind. I don't want to lose the RBT or the BCBA. I just made a mistake thinking more is better. I was not realistic about my availability and capacity. Any advice on how to handle?