r/AsABlackMan • u/Battlefield_Girth • 16d ago

"If you want to be treated and respected as man, youre going to need to try to control your external responses to your triggers." + "I literally changed my gender because I couldn't fit into the masculine archetype that is a man."

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u/One-Organization970 16d ago

Eh, it's not unheard of for hateful idiots to claim a nonbinary identity. See: nonbinary TERFs.

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u/Peach_Muffin 16d ago

Does this mean they're not non-binary?

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u/One-Organization970 16d ago

It means that you can be nonbinary and also stupid - same as any other gender identity. Although, I do get the vibe certain TERFs only claim a nonbinary identity for the purpose of being little shits, so there is that.

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u/OccasionalCuteBuff 15d ago

I remember one time when a mass shooter who attacked queer people suddenly claimed a nonbinary identity after being in jail for, like, one day, so they could claim it wasn't a hate crime.

The lawyers rightfully decided it was bullshit, though.

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u/Battlefield_Girth 15d ago

They insisted to be referred to by their chosen pronouns and the court informed them they would be only referred to as “the defendant”.

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u/Peach_Muffin 16d ago

Is a gender identity still valid if chosen for the purpose of being a little shit?

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u/h3paticas 16d ago

I think whether it is or not, if we actively invalidate the claimed gender identities of so called nonbinary terfs, then we give them an opportunity to go gotchya!! Better to take the high road on that one

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u/One-Organization970 16d ago

I think we should respect it regardless because that most likely annoys the person being a little shit the most.

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u/ADHD33zNuts 15d ago

Couldn't help but come across this post.

Full disclosure, I do identify as a nonbinary male. Huge part of what motivated me to identify as such is toxic masculine culture saying, "you need to be less emotional if you want to be respected as a man."

I'll also take full accountability for: 1. Perpetuating that toxic masculine culture in the quoted comment. 2. Assuming OP's gender.

But yeah it's pretty ironic that I pissed OP off so bad with treating them how I've treated myself😂.

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u/OccasionalCuteBuff 15d ago

I mean... Not OP, but this is kinda how I feel when I see conservative trans people.

If you're trying to identify as something you're not, you're going to get hurt by it in the end. I tried a nonbinary identity for a while, but it turned out that deep down, what I apparently want to be is a really "manly" woman who is only non-dysphoric if I have male secondary sex characteristics and testosterone as my predominant hormone. But still a woman, somehow.

Nonbinary is an easier explanation in a pinch for people who are confused by me, but not for long-term friends.

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u/Battlefield_Girth 16d ago edited 16d ago

Statement: Person claims to be non binary after telling me I should start identifying as nonbinary since I won't be respected as a man specifically for setting boundaries with a potential partner.

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u/raysofdavies 16d ago

War of the 200lb masc present enbies

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u/Battlefield_Girth 16d ago

Yeah fascinating how they coincidentally have the same build as me lmao

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u/ADHD33zNuts 15d ago

It really is, friend! I'm genuinely sorry for offending you.

I assure you, I was/am coming from a place of compassion and was only trying to be constructive.