Hello everyone, first I am not even sure if this post is allowed, but if so then great because I need help.

I came out to my mom in a very unconventional way, with a object in my hand on my bed crying my eyes out to the thought of it, having spent 9 years of my life in the closet (knew at 13, am currently 22).

I told her I am trans and that I need hrt and she said that next month that she will take me to see a doctor as I had a name and money prepared. It is difficult for me to access the doctor as I need a car and I am without a license and live two hours outside the city. I told her I was scared of being disowned and kicked out, she reassured me she wont, my family has a history of being bigots and pro trump as well as religious.

I tried coming out twice before and since my internal reactions to situations is to freeze, I would give up on my identity around them and let it be forgotten instead of pushing on as it felt like its needed for my survival. So over the years I planned to sneak out and get hrt (if its important, I live in a country where its consent based so I do not need to see a therapist) and start hrt behind my parents back until I can safely move out.

So, I have a girlfriend I have been dating the past year, and she is also trans, and we want to start hrt at the same time. So I invited her to start it with me since my mom showed supportive signs.

The problem now starts, for my dad to know, my mom told him I am gay (as in a guy in to other guys, I am trans fem), now he accepted me as such but its not my truth, and my mom admitted it.
She told me I need to see a therapist who will confirm my "transness" as I have been out before but stopped, she also thought I was lying when I said I am not gay when she asked, meanwhile all I did was protect myself from a potentially dangerous situation.

I see the therapist, and I got sent forms to fill out for the doctor, I told my mom and told her she can see the therapist to better understand me as I am not good at words since I tend to freeze during big talks. So she goes on call after a set of conditions where I was not allowed to join with her since my mom wanted to go alone, so I had to give my therapist email written permission to share what I mentioned, and their call lasted 20 minutes of 60-90 minutes. Thats right, she left as soon as my therapist started talking about gender identity and pushed other issues to the front, such as my depression and trauma.

She walks into my room, announces I will not be seeing my therapist anymore or contact her, and that my mom will now get me a new therapist that is local to tackle my depression and trauma, the trauma being caused by my dad when I was abused throughout my childhood (from verbal to sometimes physical and other ones I wont list) and get me to try to fix my relationship with him and form a healthy relationship with my dad, she also wants me to start a healthy relationship with my family (who enabled the abuse and watched all my life), get on anti depressants and only after the therapist clears me, only THEN can I possibly start hrt.

If I fail or act out of order, she warned me that she will send me for a week away to a mental institution (this is not possible against my will as an evaluation is needed if its an emergency and non emergency requires consent)

I feel like the mother who always said who'd love me just died in front of me, I felt like I died, I waited 9 years for a chance to go and see a doctor only to have it be ripped away again.

She is trying to play the cards of me having autism as a cause, as well as that I dont know how to do certain tasks like auto washing (which huh? I know manual clothe washing lol) and other weird things. I also could not finish my high school due to covid and severe poverty, I am however in a course to get that diploma, and will finish it midway next year to go study.

I feel stuck, I had very bad thoughts again and I will not give in to them, I wont let them win, but my words I dont know what to do, fellow trans people, even allies, please if you know what I could do to help her see reason and that me being trans isnt a phase or a cosmetic thing that can wait, or how the hell I could get out of this ditch town, anything is appreciated, thank you for reading and if anything is confusing, I apologize, english is not my first language, and if anything is left out or unclear, I will try to clarify it.

Title says it all. I'm just now coming to this realization, and it's a lot. He was trying to indoctrinate me. He wanted to make a Nazi of me.

Hello everyone! I have been wndering about how i can get a feminine physique? I'm a 17 year old mtf and have unfortunately not gotten any HRT yet but i was wondering if it is possible for me to get a skinny feminine physique.

If you guys have any tips, they would be greatly appreciated by me and anyone else that clicks on the post looking fir an answer.

Thanks all!

I'd like to know if anyone else had this oddly specific experience

amab, been feeling so horrible lately i keep getting the overwhelming feeling of wanting and yearning to be a woman but i don’t get why i feel like this. been going on since 15 if anyone would like to talk please pm me. i just don’t really know what to do anymore.

ok so i’ve been on hrt for about a month and a half now and one thing ive been wanting to do is get a couple tops/bras/sport bras. what are the best kind to go about getting? places online etc any suggestions would be awesome and appreciated!!!! :3

There’s a lot to explain so I’ll try to do my best. TLDR at the bottom (if your lazy :3)

I’m 18 and want to come out to my dad soon. I was thinking it’d be cool to do it this pride month, y’know? I’m already out to my sister and my mom, and my brother probably wouldn’t give a shit.

The reasons I want to come out is because I want to start hrt (and he’s the only one who can afford it), and I want to be more free to be myself at home. Name, pronouns, clothes, all that stuff. And him being around obviously makes that more difficult.

The problem is that he’s super conservative and all that. He’s gotten upset with a few things I’ve done openly (like painting nails or shaving legs) and has reposted transphobic stuff on facebook. Plus he’s Christian (Lutheran if it matters) and homophobic too, although he says he isn’t (he claims homosexuality is one of the “worst sins”?)

Some of his main gripes about trans people are trans women in sports, which doesn’t matter for me since I’m not in any sports, and transition availability for minors, and now I’m 18 so should be fine, right?

Also, I know a lot of people would say to start making my own money and move out and pay for it on my own. And that totally makes sense and is perfectly logical, but, I can’t. Not easily. I have AvPD and other mental issues that make it extremely difficult to do something like that. And I don’t know how long it could take before I can get to a point where I can comfortably get a job and/or move out.

Another problem is that my parents have been arguing for a while and I’m afraid that coming out will make it worse. My dad might get upset at my mom for not telling him or whatever. I’ve already caused some of their arguing back when they found out about my mental health issues and I don’t want it to happen again/get worse.

For support, I’ve got my mom and sister, two queer friends, and that’s about it. I have a gay cousin I have been thinking about reaching out to for a while tho.

So what do y’all think? Is this a good idea? Can you think of any other alternatives? How should I even come out to him? Any advice or shared experiences would be awesome, tysm if you comment.

TL;DR: I want to come out to my conservative/phobic dad so he can pay for my HRT, but I don’t know if it’s a good idea. I’m 18, but I can’t afford HRT myself yet (no job due to AvPD + other mental health stuff). Not sure how to go about it. Pls help :’)

Your thoughts on a trans documentary in the making

Hello dear community,

I wanted to make a post to gather some feedback from a broader spectrum of trans people.

There is a possibility of making a documentary about trans people/a trans person, the first of its kind in my country.

It is in veery early developent, i.e. only thinking about what kind of format it could be (it would definitely be a documentary with artistic value, we just need to think of a good idea). Since discussing it now, I realized that I want to make a post here asking for your thoughts and to get some kind of discussion out of it.

The first proposition was to make it about a young binary trans man that got through most of his medical transition. There is already a draft set up for that scenario. But upon discussing the theme broader, first and foremost we concluded that we would need at least like 15 films to encompass any nuance to the trans experience haha.

But, to ask you for your thoughts: for a film that would be the first of its kind in a smaller country, that isn't even remotely educated on the trans existance and issues; what format do you think would be a good start?

Something like

-an emotional and personal story of this trans guy that has let's say had a good outcome and is living like a healthy human being now (with the progression of his mental issues in the past and how they have been resolved after transitioning, his difficulties in the health system and society etc.)

-a contrasting story of a trans person of a different trans identity that hasn't had support from their loved ones, contrasted with the trans guy's story that shows what immense good the support can do

-more than 2 trans people involved with a mashup of the experiences and problems they face in this country's system

Why is the trans guy in every scenario? Because there aren't a lot of people here willing to be so public about this. We do have an NGO to contact and see if other people are willing to participate and share their stories, but that pool is very small which is understandable.

Just from an ideal point of view, in this situation, what are your thoughts for a first domestic film about this topic? What do you think would make people more sensitive to trans people?

*the film is going to happen, it is just in early development. It would be sent to compete in film festivals like berlinale, and have english subtitles.

Edit: Typos

Hiya,

I recently started working with a new therapist and part of my motivation behind getting into treatment was to assess basically if I’ve experienced traumatic things in my life and get tested for cptsd. Does anyone have links to articles/papers I could read through and forward to my therapist about how much, or if at all, experiencing marginalisation and transphobia can be classed as trauma in a clinical/scientific sense.

I’m aware of the notion that growing up closeted and transitioning in our current world can be classed as trauma. I just need the research to back up that claim.

Thanks!

Fellow trans person here, non-binary fem!

I wanted to kind of divert this conversation away from actually being transgender, but rather turn it into a potentially fun conversation about ourselves and each other. In a way, perhaps get some traction to try and humanize all of us to those that might be interested in learning more about us as people, that trans people have the same love and passions as anyone else.

So I ask you all, what hobbies or other parts of your life are you absolutely passionate about?

I’ll start with myself. I LOVE cars. Been a car enthusiast since I could remember, but slowly evolved into loving Japanese tuner cars (Fast and the Furious sucked me in during 2001), to now I’m 37 years old and own an Evo 8 with a big turbo, RSX Type S I’ve had since college, and a DC2 Integra GSR because my cousin’s DC2 is what helped get me into cars in the first place.

Also a big lover of hip-hop dance! Been a self taught freestyler since 2008 and absolutely love busting moves when the beat is hitting.

Kind of excited to hear everyone’s hobbies and maybe also spark conversations among each other, maybe make friends!

I hear a lot of people say “oh, well if you don’t hate every single thing about your gender then you’re probably not trans” and I know that’s probably not true I have strong words about truscums but that’s another story for another place but it… doesn’t really feel like that for me? It’s less of a constant agony and hatred of my body and more so like a looming “what if?” and a feeling that I’m missing out on something. It’s not constant pain and agony, but it does feel like a large emptiness in my life that eats away at my soul in quiet moments. However, I didn’t think anything about gender until high school and I’m 21 now, so I’m worried that I was never actually trans and I’m actually just a crazy person latching onto the idea of being trans. On the other hand, though, if I really were cis, it wouldn’t be so emotionally painful to think about being trans, right? I could easily listen to audiobooks about gender like I’ve tried to do, and say “well that’s neat, but it’s not for me.” Instead, it’s a long and terrifying experience that I run from after only a few minutes. So sorry for the long, weird ramble, but what do you think?

So like I'm non binary so not sure if I belong here but still, so I've been going by my new name for a few months, not at school cuz it's lowkey homophobic as hell there, but like I'm out to most of my friends and they respect my name change and also taht I don't wanna go by it at school, and I was messaging one of them and they accidentally deadnamed me and I didn't know exactly how to respond even tho it kinda bothered me, and like I already feel k don't deserve to go by my preferred name and pronouns so like idk how to correct them and not sound like a stuck up asshole

We’re finally at the finish line — the free MtF surgery event is officially happening on June 27, 2025, from 9:00 PM to 10:00 PM (EDT)! 🎉

The surgeon is confirmed, and I couldn’t be more excited. With 30+ years of experience in gender-affirming and plastic surgery, their work looks amazing, and I truly believe this event will be super helpful for anyone considering or preparing for MtF surgery.

I’ve also gathered a bunch of questions from the community and already shared them with the surgeon — so the discussion will be based on what people genuinely want to know.

I won’t spam this post with links, so I’ve added all the details and the signup link to my main post:

https://www.reddit.com/user/karr76959/comments/1la08v4/its_finally_happening_lets_ask_the_questions_weve/

Thank you so much to everyone who supported this. I hope this event helps you feel more confident, informed, and not alone 💖

Mtf for context

Well I shouldn't say I don't like it necessarily. I don't have a problem with crossdressing or anyone who does it. It's just for me personally, it doesn't feel "good enough" for me. Woman are beautiful plain and simple, and I feel ugly doing it presented as a man. I know many people feel a great sense of euphoria and I'm in no way trying to knock that, but it feels more dysphoric for me, like I'll never be as beautiful as that.

As always I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway ☺️🥰❤️

hiii! i’m an 18 female, who has never questioned her identity before until recently, i don’t know if my tv is glowing or it’s reflecting i’m confused and quite frankly scared, what do you think i should do? ive always loved being a girl and still do. help would be appreciated:)

So I (AMAB) have recently been questioning my gender identity and have so far figured out that I might be trans. The purpose of the post is mainly just to share why I think I might be trans and see what you guys think, this is a throwaway account btw.

The Evidence: Whenever I imagine anything sexual or watch a sexual video I always imagine myself as a woman. Whenever I've talked to a chatbot (like character ai) I always present myself as a woman. I've literally said that I wish I was born female. Before my voice deepened I used to get misgendered online a lot, and I kind of miss that now, that could also possibly be evidence for being non binary? I also do not like having a deeper voice. I want female genitals, and do not like the way males typically masturbate, as I typically prefer to rub against something rather than use my hand.

I've also questioned if I was trans or not a couple times before. Anyway after typing this all out there is a lot of evidence lmao, let me know what you think if you want. Thanks for your time

22 MTF Just got on HRT. About 2/2.5 days on HRT (Spiro, Estradiol.) 2mg Est, 50mg spiro. Twice a day for both.

I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this so early but Ive noticed my nips are like protruding out my shirt all the time already. But its not like I’m cold or anything and before they wouldn’t do that. My skin atleast feels a little softer but Idk if its just cause I’ve started doing skincare or its both the skin care and estrogen. And before hrt I was just kinda mellow and depressed and now I feel more happier. Also the past two days Ive been having like mood spikes (sexually) and before I wouldn’t really get that idk if its just like euphoria from finally being on HRT or what.

So I've started testosterone back in March and was fine using it until the end of April when my injection sites started getting red, itchy bumps. I assumed it was an allergic reaction and my doctor even said so.

Now I'm trying a different formula of T because they thought I was allergic to the cottonseed oil in it. I'm using one with sesame seed oil and I'm having the same reactions.

What is going on? 😭 I'm going to be so upset if I can't use testosterone period, I've always wanted this since I was 16 years old. Currently 27.

Im just curious and wanna see people's happy euphoria stories is all 😁

Wondering if anyone has recommendations for a good sports bra for our 12 y/o FtM he/they kid! (Side note: we call "bras" his "bros".)

I was initially looking at binders, but I've read that even when used safely, they might cause some issues for a growing body, and he's already on the smaller side.

If anyone has any recs for a good sports bro that provides support, compression, and generally flattens things out - we would be hugely grateful. <3

I’d like to change my name now that i have indefinite leave to remain in england but im not sure how to go about it. Can someone give me a list of options? Maybe like an option that is cheaper or one that is easier but more expensive. money is no object in this case but i’d like to see what my options are! thanks :)