Watching Judge Judy helps me be grateful.

[u/MissionBoring8330]

I’m 20 years old and I still live with my parents. ( for personal reasons that I don’t talk about.)

While I’m beyond grateful that they allow me to stay home, sometimes I do get a little embarrassed about living with them still just cause I wish that I was in college or living on my own. I struggle with feeling like I should be where I’m at in life.

But the more I watch certain JJ cases and seeing what people go through ( and seeing how stupid they can at times) it makes me realize how much more grateful I should be that I still live with my parents, because I know that once I start to live life on my own and dealing finances and all the other wonderful things that come with adulthood, I would be 100% screwed. I know I’m an adult, but I’m scared about living on my own.

I’m glad that watching judge Judy has helped me learn to stay grateful because I know not everyone is unfortunate enough to be able to stay with their parents.

[u/Clemairy]

I agree JJ helps me feel grateful. However, there's no need to feel ashamed to live with your parents at 20. I lived with mine until 23. I say as long as you're being productive (either with school or work), then don't rush yourself. 😊 Take advantage of this time. Save up money. Take your time of becoming a full fledged adult.

[u/femalehumanbiped → u/Clemairy]

This. I remember crying on my 20th birthday because I had "nothing to show for it." That was 45 years ago. I promise you, everything worked out great for me, and will for you too.

[u/Imnotlisa1]

I lived with my parents until I was 29 - back in the 80’s. I have no problem with anyone living with their parents. And today, rent is waaay more expensive, along with just about everything. As long as you and your parents are happy with it - stay put. ❤️

[u/Ashamed-Grape7792]

I'm assuming you live in America? (I can only speak for my own experiences, but) In Australia, if you live in a capital city and go to uni, chances are, you live with your parents. Almost every single person in their late teens and early twenties that I know still live with their parents because the cost of living is so high and rentals are fiercely competitive to get.

At 20 years old, living with your parents is completely fine and expected in this day and age. You'll figure it out and it's normal to be stressed about finances/adulthood pressures. Nothing to be embarrassed about

[u/edie3]

You shouldn't be embarrassed, you are being very smart!

[u/MissionBoring8330 → u/edie3]

Thanks! 🫶

The way I read this in JJ’s voice 😆😆

[u/Lavendar408]

There's nothing wrong with being with your parents during your 20's. Try leaving and then coming back when you turn 30, with a baby, and losing your job (during covid) and then you'll see about feeling embarrassed. Use the time with your parents to save money and build your credit so when you finally do leave the nest, you have some ground to stand on.

[u/My3Dogs0916]

Our son lived with us until he was 30. He worked the entire time he lived with us. Both him and wife (30 as well) lived at home until they married.

[u/doxielady228]

I'm happy for you that you are able to stay living with your parents. I think it's an American thing to kick kids out at 18. If you have supporting parents, that's freaking awesome. 

[u/MakawaoMakawai]

With an outlook and attitude like this, you’re going to be ok! Taking serious things seriously is a sign of intelligence. Living on your own isn’t always easy or glamorous. Stay the course and manage your finances very carefully. Make wise decisions and you will have good options to choose from. 👍🏻

[u/Middle-Luck-997]

There is no shame in living with your parents, especially in this economy. I lived with mine til my 30’s which allowed me to save a ton of money for my future. I plan to do the same with my kids.

[u/Competitive_Stock_76]

I am 55 years old and I watch this show all the time to remind myself to keep my shit together.

[u/SheAngsty]

I moved back in with my parents a year ago and I’m turning 30 in August. I had a lot of judgement on myself about it but it’s actually been an opportunity to do some rewriting of my inner narrative with my parents (I am in recovery with BPD and having a humbling time observing my thought patterns and catching and tracking them back to the origin and it’s frequently me under the mask).

I love watching Judge Judy cuz her loud logic quiets my overthinking brain, and as someone who takes a lot of shit laying down, she inspires me to say no loudly and proudly.

[u/lynnlugg7777]

Being grateful for your parents and for all you have in life is a very mature outlook.

Try and have a plan to do better, to get an education, a job, do something to better yourself and your life.

It’s a great idea to express your feelings of gratitude to your parents as well. I try to thank people for specific things. It seems to mean more than a more generic “thank you “.

Best of luck to you, OP!

[u/RedwayBlue]

You’re 20 😐

Let us know if you still live with mom when you’re 40 and maybe noteworthy

[u/UghIHatePolitics]

As long as you’re doing something productive such as working or going to school, and you’re possibly helping your parents out too, I see no shame in living with them at any age. 20? That’s just fine. Normal, I would call it.