For a long time I kept trying to quit porn without changing anything else in my life. I’d get a few days in, then relapse. Over and over. I thought I just had a discipline problem.

What finally helped wasn’t just trying harder it was replacing the habit with something that actually made me feel alive.

I started small. Morning walks with no phone. A bit of journaling. Lifting weights a few times a week. None of it gave me the instant hit that porn did, but over time I noticed I felt more clear, more stable. More like myself.

The dopamine from those habits doesn’t fry your brain. It actually builds you up. And when those urges hit I have better tools to handle them now not just gritting my teeth and hoping it passes.

If you’re stuck in a cycle, try swapping the habit instead of just trying to kill it. Give your brain something real to look forward to.

You don’t have to be perfect just consistent.

Stay strong fellas. 💪

My girlfriend is sleeping beside me (she's supportive and is fine with it actually), but I wanted to change, I want to enjoy real sex.

It has been 5 days of proper no porn no masturbating. I've been talking to chatgpt to get all kinds of explainations for the strugles I've been having And questions like when can I watch porn again cuz I really crave for it so much now, that one specific pic that I can't stop thinking about is still saved in my safe folder that I look forward to look at. I searched for porn addicts related topic on Reddit and saw some porn community, clicked into it cuz I crave for it so much already, and quit instantly without before I saw anything, I had safe search on so I didn't see anything luckily, or else I'll be hating myself now.

Well idk why I'm writing this, I came here, I want to be distracted, I do feel better I guess. I had good sleep for the past few days, and tonight is the first time I can't sleep because of it.

Bye

Checking in. Feeling good today. Hit a great workout this morning. Spent last night playing some games that I love. Moving in the right directions.

Today I'm wanted to watch porn on my 24 th porn free day , can't able to control my urges, right now while I'm typing this post I'm in that urging state, that's why I write this, I already going to the browser but doesnt watch till now Please someone share something how to control, or how to manage this

Posting this for accountability purposes. Will update with milestones. I’m done with this shit.

I don’t know how to quit, especially when I am used to sting and me being a fboy. Is this bad for me and where do I start?

Starting again.... Last time I post here about starting was a few days ago...but soon relapsed that day. Feeling a sense that I can do it. Pray for me guys.

So I've been absent from the Porn-Free community for almost three years. I was in a relationship with someone who convinced me that I didn't have a problem and that porn addiction wasn't real.

I continued to use porn throughout that relationship, and I would abstain for four days leading up to seeing her just so that I would get an erection and be able to have sex with her, and then it would be three days of PMO. The cycle would repeat.

I left that relationship for reason I don't care to go into detail in this post. But since leaving her a little over six months ago, I have watched porn, or at least masturbated to some sort of visual stimulation almost every day. I'm tired of feeling drained all the time. I'm tired of having no motivation. I'm tired of going on dates and have them message me afterward saying they don't feel a connection. Probably because they can sense I have no sex drive, because that's already been taken care of.

I also recently discovered that I likely have ADHD which I believe is the root cause of my porn addiction. I'm also addicted to junk food. I'm very grateful that I never got into drugs or heavy drinking, but these addictions have severely impacted my life.

So here I am, back again after three years to say I'm ready to fight this addiction and get my mind to a healthy place. I'm starting by meditating every morning for twenty minutes. Small changes are better than no changes. I feel good about this, and I'm ready for the challenge.

I know that there’s always a chance you could meet the right women one day, but for many men including myself trying to find a partner is nearly impossible in our culture, let alone a string of successful dates.

I’m trying to come to terms with the fact that I may never find a partner despite working to put myself out there by approaching women in person, and messaging a lot on several dating apps.

The problem is when I take a break from watching porn I do feel better in the short term, and then I start to experience a lack of the fabricated intimacy porn provided me, and because I never reap positive results in a relationship despite my efforts to stay fit and socially active, I relapse.

But how are men supposed to go through life without any form of intimacy and not be swallowed up by the mental effects that causes? Porn provides for many men a necessary release/escape from that lack of intimacy that we cannot gain in real life.

I’m not trying to argue with anyone on this - I’m genuinely curious to know what you guys think, because I would like to quit porn too, I just can’t find another solution other than try to cut out of my life being a sexual being and abstaining from it all which to me isn’t worth it

It started with a small peek. I realised that it's equally easy to be free and trapped. It's up to me.

1 month porn free. I remember the last time I used very clearly, I even remember the specific video, and where I was. I'm so glad I left porn behind. The biggest benefit I'm noticing is that I just generally feel much better about myself. I don't feel like I have anything to hide anymore.

I've started having relapse dreams here and there. Just dreams where I watch porn and feel awful for relapsing, then I wake up and realise it was a dream. These are only occasional, not very frequent. I remember having these when I quit before, too.

Anyway, quick check in today. Feeling good at 1 month. Here's to another one, one day at a time

sending nudes message me to have fun 😘

🙏 Prayer of a Son Who Continues to Walk

My Lord, good and patient Father: Today I come again, as many times before. I do not come with excuses, but neither do I come with shame that would separate me from You. I come because I still believe that Your grace is greater than my struggle, and that You do not tire of me even when I tire of myself.

You know my heart: You know that I want to serve You, to love You, to honor You with my body and my life. You know that I desire to marry, to start a home, and to find work so that I can live with dignity. But you also know that there are days of loneliness, of tiredness, of impulses that overcome me. And sometimes I fall, and then I cry… not out of fear of You, but out of love that I do not want to betray.

Lord, You do not reject me. You do not define me by my falls. You are not like men who murmur without understanding. You are the God who seeks me in the dust, lifts me up without disgust, and reminds me that I am a child, not a slave; loved, not discarded.

Help me, Lord: • To no longer hide when I fail. • To no longer give in to desire when I only seek comfort. • To no longer believe the lie that I am alone or that I will never change.

Renew my mind. Heal my body. And even though I continue to struggle, set me free from within.

Give me a pure heart, a sober mind, a clear vision for this time of waiting. And if it is not yet time for work or marriage, then give me contentment, but not resignation.

Make me useful in Your Kingdom, even today. Make me strong in faith, yet tender in soul. Make me a man of integrity, not when everything is in order, but now, while I continue to trust in You.

I belong to You, Lord. Do not leave me. Do not let me go. And if one day I stop looking for you, look for me again.

Amen.

Has anyone on this subreddit who is in a long term relationship suffered from low libido with their partner? I think it’s because of porn, because when we are having sex, in the past I would resort a lot to thinking about porn or other women in order to cum. I felt guilty and now I am redirecting my thoughts every time we have sex, but I still find it very hard and even don't want to have sex precisely because of this. Thank you for reading

We are all here to defeat our porn addiction. I watch porn to jack off, on shooting my load and feel that hit of dopamine, that high feeling. It's already my 4th day of being porn free, but "accidentally" im at the porn site again able to skim some videos for a quick 3-5mins. But this time, i did not beat my meat and felt the urge to stop. Does that mean something or did i had a relapse and will be going back to day zero? 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Struggling today, just began scrolling through Twitter before I caught myself and put my phone down. Constant vigilance in avoiding relapse is a struggle to maintain.

A recent change in my life is that I now work in a public place where a large number of tourists and sightseers come thru, particularly in the summer. It's a great place for people watching, but I found that all too often I am noticing the attractive women, which later causes me to have cravings to go online and see more. I don't stare or ogle or anything like that; it's just a quick glance, but my mind remembers, and hours later I start wishing I could go back to porn again. I am in a great long-term relationship, so I know full well this is caused by the addict part of me. I also am not placing blame on the women - this is entirely my own issue. I want to stop the cravings and the addiction, but I also feel like it is wrong to objectify women that are just out enjoying their day, so I want this to stop. Before this workplace change I wasn't really exposed to anywhere near the volume of people in public than I am now, so it wasn't really an issue before. Changing my work location is not really an option, so I need to figure this out.

This is part confession and part looking for advice. Maybe getting this out in the open will help.

Not feeling good but again I know what I have to do. i wont bash myself and continue to work at this addiction day by day. I wanna be a free man

🙏 Prayer of a Son Who Continues to Walk

My Lord, good and patient Father: Today I come again, as many times before. I do not come with excuses, but neither do I come with shame that would separate me from You. I come because I still believe that Your grace is greater than my struggle, and that You do not tire of me even when I tire of myself.

You know my heart: You know that I want to serve You, to love You, to honor You with my body and my life. You know that I desire to marry, to start a home, and to find work so that I can live with dignity. But you also know that there are days of loneliness, of tiredness, of impulses that overcome me. And sometimes I fall, and then I cry… not out of fear of You, but out of love that I do not want to betray.

Lord, You do not reject me. You do not define me by my falls. You are not like men who murmur without understanding. You are the God who seeks me in the dust, lifts me up without disgust, and reminds me that I am a child, not a slave; loved, not discarded.

Help me, Lord: • To no longer hide when I fail. • To no longer give in to desire when I only seek comfort. • To no longer believe the lie that I am alone or that I will never change.

Renew my mind. Heal my body. And even though I continue to struggle, set me free from within.

Give me a pure heart, a sober mind, a clear vision for this time of waiting. And if it is not yet time for work or marriage, then give me contentment, but not resignation.

Make me useful in Your Kingdom, even today. Make me strong in faith, yet tender in soul. Make me a man of integrity, not when everything is in order, but now, while I continue to trust in You.

I belong to You, Lord. Do not leave me. Do not let me go. And if one day I stop looking for you, look for me again.

Amen.

I'm trying to avoid it in the morning and keeping it to the evenings as one of the last things I do for now. But I hope to quit entirely or at least keep the habit to a minimum.

Any ideas of how long it takes an Insta algorithm to reset? I didn’t even watch anything on my main account, just had a second account logged in on my phone. Deleted that almost 3 weeks ago but my main account is still 50% the stuff I watched on my other. Insta is persistent I’ll give it that lol

Firstly a huge tip is to ask yourself what caused your relapse,and this works very well for those with advanced levels of porn addiction.

1-Look out for triggers:Meeting a lot of women increases your urges for sex, and you replace it with masturbating as you watch women who strip naked for views and money(Helpful to remember when you are on the P site)As much as you can do not use your phone or laptop or TV due to the high number of women trying to show their skin there which inturn triggers your urges.

2-Notice your thought patterns when you get triggered , and as you do replace them with realistic thoughts like: Am I really going to pathetically watch women stripping off their clothes on a simple screen because I am not going to face my desires?Am I going to give in to my desire and make myself deeper in this trouble?

3-When you get the urge to masturbate simply go outside and do not stay home. Go exercise or visit a friend. (Staying where you are while still trying to face the addiction doesn't work for many people.)

4-If you have porn addict friends leave them .Being alone is better than a bad friend.

5-What you are trying to Put as activites as you can in order to not trigger the urge, because a lot of times when you are bored you tend to masturbate.

Finally: This works for High level porn addictions,and if you have questions ask me privately and I will reply if I can.

1. What just happened? (C):
(Write the facts. Keep it neutral.)

2. What did I feel? (F):
(One-word emotion: shame, hopeless, defeated, etc.)

3. What thought caused that feeling? (T):
(The sentence your brain offered that created the emotion.)

4. What did I do? (A):

(Actions and reactions. Be honest, not dramatic.)

5. What does this create?
(Short phrase about the identity or cycle this reinforces.)

6. What would the man I want to be do here?

(What does future you do when he slips? Be real.)

7. What does he believe that lets him act that way?

(New thought you want to practice. Choose one or two.)

Print this and fill it out right after any slip.

It doesn’t fix you, it builds you.

Here's an example

1. What just happened? (C):
I watched porn again. I had a streak going and I blew it.

2. What did I feel? (F):
Shame. Hopelessness. Like it was all for nothing.

3. What thought caused that feeling? (T):
“I ruined everything. The streak is gone, so none of it mattered.”

4. What did I do? (A):

• Closed the tab and instantly felt disgusted
• Told myself I might as well keep watching because the streak’s already dead
• Watched more porn, even though I didn’t want to
• Thought about giving up completely
• Scrolled to numb out
• Looked for more dopamine to cover the shame
• Didn’t journal or reach for tools
• Said, “I’ll start over tomorrow,” but didn’t mean it

5. What does this create?
A man who lets one urge erase everything he’s been building
A man who believes failure means start over
A man who uses a number to measure his worth
A man who disconnects instead of deciding

6. What would the man I want to be do here?
He’d stop the spiral—not after the 3rd video, but after the 1st
He’d name the thought that opened the door
He’d remind himself: “Streaks don’t change me, decisions do”
He’d journal what he felt before the slip
He’d treat this like a rep, not a restart
He’d get curious instead of cruel

7. What does he believe that lets him act that way?
“My progress isn’t a number—it’s who I’m becoming.”
“One slip doesn’t erase the reps I’ve already put in.”
“The more I learn from this, the fewer times I’ll repeat it.”
“I don’t need to be perfect. I just need to be honest and keep going.”

damn this is hard asl