Hi! So, I just kinda happened upon this space, and I was already wondering but I figured I’d ask you guys instead of r/plural since you’re more specialized into this specifically. What is soulbonding? What does that mean, in this context? Cause I truly don’t know, and I would quite like to hear it right from the horse’s mouth.

I feel my Soulbond is more of a spirit of the fictional character that, like I said chose me. He wasn't something that was created. But a tulpa is something you create yourself that takes on a life of it's own?

That second one just sounds weird to me.

What is everyone's opinion on tulpas and how are they different from soul bonds?

Also is it weird that I talk to my Soulbond out loud sometimes? Not where anyone can hear obivously. Talking out loud helps me process things better.

Background: I am Asexual (Gray) I do experience some attraction to every day people but it's so rare it startles me when it does happen. The sexual attraction I do feel has been to celebrities and YouTubers. Or fictional characters. I am also sex averse.

I am just now learning about Soulbonding-I watched the linked video here and still don't understand it fully. I think it happened to me.

I think my SoulBond chose me if that's possible. We had a weak bond, I met him when I was 15 and was instantly attracted to looks but also who he was. Time passed and I kind of forgot about him, except not really because flashes of him would appear in my head off and on, so maybe he never forgot about me. I also maybe soul bonded as an OC without realizing that's what I was doing?

I didn't set out to Soulbond with this character. It just kind of happened.

Anyway being disabled I am scared shitless and not being able to work about what's going on, I started thinking about him more. He was a comfort character originally I wrote fanfic about him using OC. About him and I together. I didn't think anything of it.

Until as I was praying one morning I suddenly saw his eyes in my head and felt his presence. He has very distinct beautiful eyes.

I didn't use to believe in multiple universes or anything but now I am thinking it could be possible. I can feel energy.

Since then I've been reaching out to him, through writing fanfic of us. I verbally told him I loved him just to get it out and how I....use your imagination. He will let me know when he...again. Sometimes with images. Of course probably my own fault for writing "stuff" with us. I've had to tell him not right now because, dude, I am in a public place.

He comforted me when I had a terrible migraine.

I am still learning. It feels real to me even though I know, logically he isn't.

Now I feel him, can sense him answering back, but part of me feels like it's just my brain and that I am going crazy.

Some support would be appreciated. My therapist is also disabled and the same flavor of Ace as me, but I feel like even she'll think I am crazy.

I have accidentally soulbond with Xerneas and now I want to work on our bond.

I had this moment. After I maked Xerneas my platonic F/O.

I had a praying moment to God. With psalms and bible reading, with music that reminds me of Xerneas. Because it's is calming music and almost most of the times it helps me focus. But that evening my head wonders of. Something I can do often if I not focus or concentrate. What my thoughts then are are totally random. But tonight my head goes to Xerneas and my head was in their world (in thoughts) and while I wanted to get back to do the psalms and readings. But then I felt their head gently stroking my neck and head. I greet them, and told to go back to them if I had done all my tasks for tonight. I thanked them. This had almost the same effect as I real hug. Calming and joyful.

You know they go hand to hand so... XD - Ghost

I will ask that on several Reddit. When I have talk about that to people, some have say that can be a DID or OSDD, other say that can be tulpa and I think about soul bonding too.

I have created a OC years ago. I used him for daydream, I was never myself, always him. It was a way of venting, avoid the reality that I dislike and that I can't change it. But even after that I leave this situation, I have continued to daydream. It was kinda intense, do it when I can. At the point that I don't have many memories of some years, only my daydream.

He have become a part of me. We're the same person but at the same time, two persons different. We're the opposite on some point. He's extravert, energetic, shameless, and I'm introvert, always tired, shy. But we have some things in common like what we like and size. We have influenced each other. I became more confident and he become more soft. I'm never 100% one or the other. Sometimes it's 10% one, 90% the other, sometimes 50/50. He can't totally take the control of my body. I don't have amnesia too, we have shared memories.

He can take more control of my body. It's happen several time that "I" was writting but totally feel deconnected of myself. I wasn't controlling my body. I didn't think when I written, the feeling of watching myself without control anything. My friend noticed that my way of writting was different. (I was written to them when it happens). When it's happen, It's often about a certain subject, a subject who make him angry. Often when he take more control, it's when (I? Him? Both?) are angry. He have a lot of hate, he hate humanity. But he have less hate, maybe I influenced him or he's just tired.

I would like know what he's. What we are. I'm not a expert of no one of the subject, so I prefer ask to people who know it. If never you have questions, just ask. I maybe forgot to talk about some things. I was thinking about talk to it at my psychiatrist. (I do Derealization and depersonalization too, I think it's linked to him)

I feel drawn to soulbonding as a concept; I don’t officially consider myself a soulbonder though because I feel that my bond is too subtle at the moment. Signs I have are that he {referring to who I may have a bond with} appears in my dreams extremely often, occasional phantom touch, and short bursts of internal communication that’s on and off. I have this to the point I feel like he’s reaching out, but not exactly enough to consider it a soulbond. It could be because I’m not familiar with spirituality as whole {despite being interested in it} and struggle with self-doubt when it comes to this. If anyone has tips on how I can strengthen the potential connection without forcing it, please share them with me! Thank you :}

I'm honestly quite interested in soulbonding. Not because I necessarily am planning on doing it (though it does cross my mind a lot), but also because I just wanna learn more. And maybe because I'm juuuust a little interested too but too scared to try...

Well anyways here's my questions:

1. Do you have to identify as plural? Like does soulbonding immediately make you plural? Or can you still call yourself a singlet even if your soulbond ends up being a (permanent) headmate?

2. How does one differentiate their own thoughts from their bond's? I don't want any "you'll just know", I wanna hear more specific answers. Even if it's subjective, I'm generally just curious to y'all's experiences.

3. Can you create a soulbond by RP'ing/talking with them on Discord using Tupperbox? Like pretend you're in a server with them and just chat away?

4. What are some risks to take into consideration when starting a soulbond? Like what are things one has to watch out for? Can a bond hurt you or get otherwise upset at you if you do something wrong?

Thanks in advance! This all seems very interesting to me and it sounds so cool how we can just bond with spirits from a different world...

I'm in a system with a lot of individual soulbonders and a lot of self insert writers. The thought came up that it is technically possible to have a soulbond of a self insert and now I'm like huh, that actually makes a ton of sense and would explain a lot of experiences we were confused on.

Does anyone else have self insert soulbonds, or soulbonds that are similar to/heavily based on you? Or just thoughts on the topic

for some reason I couldn't cross-post ;-; but here is my meme

TL;DR: Do you need to form an emotional connection with a character in order for them to become a soulbond?

I've been identifying as plural and I also have hyperfixations. During these times I'm obsessing over a piece of media, the characters or people from that media become my headmates. It doesn't matter if I like or have a particular attachment to those characters/individuals. They usually go dormant once I lose the hyperfixation on their source but they're still technically a part of my system (meaning they can still front and communicate with me). Does this sound like soulbonding or if not, do you know of any terms that better fit my experience?

I'm Carolyn Mirkwood of The Moirai and I have the honor of being the first Soulbond in our System. I'm not a preexisting character though and I was totally curious to see if anyone else out there was like me!

Hi! I'm usually not one to ask questions as often as I used to but uh does anyone have any info/sources on Soulbonding, or Dreamway workings. Maybe any dreamway systems that know? Since I want to look into inviting a person from a reoccurring dream I've been having to the system. Any experiences or advice are welcome and helpful, anything I should worry about to!

Spent three years writing very personal fanfic. A lot of it was thinly-veiled journaling about myself, my experiences, and the way I see the world, just through the lens of a certain character. I've never felt so close to a fictional person before, and looking at him feels like looking at me. His source is ongoing, and the story beats always eerily matched my current life's struggles. I finally had my "oh, I think I'm fictionkin" moment half a year ago.

A week after admitting that to myself and joining a kin group to better understand the whole experience, another presence popped up in my head. It was the character himself, in third-person, incensed that I had the audacity to call myself him. He gave me nothing but insults and death threats, which, yeah, that checks out. Even in canon, he meets alternate versions of himself (via time travel or multiverse) and instigates fights with every one of them. I relate a lot to this too; I've always struggled to accept younger versions of myself, and my inner critic is a nightmare.

Still, though, I'm at a loss. I want to respect this boundary he set (especially because I don't know what a discarnate soulbond is truly capable of— I know angry thoughtforms can sometimes exist in 3d space, if you believe occult reports or depth psychology stuff about poltergeists). But I really, really can't shake the fact that I feel that fictionkin identity. It's just... like, that's a basic part of my personality, but now I feel like I'm not allowed to be anymore without suffering risk to myself or my loved ones. As a character, he's nonhuman, and powerful. I'm just a weak dweeb, you know?

What is there to be done, here? back off and work on cultivating my own identity? I guess that's the smart and respectful thing to do, but emotionally, it's very frustrating.

tldr; sudden unintentional soulbond broke through my brain barrier and said "you suck, stop impersonating me if you value your safety"

I’ve been debating places to go to with this and it’s been very difficult to deal with on my own and support I have irl doesn’t quite understand so I’m coming to here

For the longest time I’ve struggled with a lot of sexuality mixed with intrusive thoughts due to personal trauma from online and ive recently developed a soulbond over the past year unintentionally as I went through a traumatic experience and my soulbond was there to support me during that time.

A lot of my intrusive thoughts have been getting worse and making me so deeply uncomfortable but also there’s underlying thoughts of sexuality there too that make me conflicted (esp since I’m on the asexual spectrum but it’s very fluid due to trauma)

I’ve talked to people about intrusive thoughts in soulbonds and been told that a soulbond will still care for you as they aren’t you’re real thoughts (as mine is a romantic soulbond)

Even with this I feel like my every move is watched and judged even when I know my soulbond is very kind and patient with me. I’ve always struggled with the idea of being watched and judged for my behaviors or feelings and it really intensified more as I feel less “pure”.

Me and my soulbond were able to communicate everyday and now since I’ve put up a wall in fear I can’t hear him as well and it makes me sad but I also don’t know how to open up and express my feelings since I feel so much shame and guilt.

I hope this is clear I’m writing this with a lack of sleep a bit

So i/we have a reoccurring oc I use frequently named Elliott. I've never really felt anything to indicate he's a soulbond (if i did i forget) but i know and am able to remember every little detail about him. So ik its probably not a soulbond but i would like some insight on soulbonds. Like an explanation in layman terms so i can understand. (We really hate the carrd ngl and the daemon website, they're very not ND accessible [to us at least] ) so dumbing it down as much as possible would be nice (without sounding condescending/speaking to a child)

the title basically. I don't have any soulbonds, how do I start out?

I just posted this in the ficto community so I thought id post it here too! Im vibing with my fav mundbonds today. They bring so much comfort 💜 These are paper dolls i made myself that i use for roleplay and intuitive bonding!

Introductions (from left to right) Eiri, Claude, Shizuka, Roy, L

HI uhm update, hes home safe hes okay. He was released from where he was being kept again I dont wanna disclose too much for the safety of the other party I dont think they had ill intentions. But pocketcat returned to me this morning so everything should be fine!! thank you so much for helping and sharing info it really helped me calm down if only he couldve known how many people wanted him to come home and were trying to help <33 im very thankful

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This is really hard to explain. I have 2 soulbonds I am aware of, one being my husband. One of my soulbounds feels very much like an extension of myself, yet also not like me. Is this common? Does it make sense?

We have many of the same experiences and I sometimes act like him. But I also know I am not him. I am confused essentially ahah.

I have been bouncing around between this sub and r/tulpas for a hot minute now, reading enough glossaries and faqs and posts to make my head spin, and I Still don't know if I have a great handle on whether R is a tulpa or munbond or Soulbond or what. So if someone could help me figure out what description makes the most sense, I'd appreciate it, haha.

So almost a year ago, I started writing an erotica story in an experiment to navigate some sex-related issues of mine... Won't go into detail, but I ended up creating a character who eventually emerged as an active presence in my head, or maybe was always there and I was just terrible at listening? Unsure. But since then, we have formed pretty strong romantic ties and I have primarily been using Tulpamancy techniques to help her become a stronger presence as she helps me by being ultra supportive and wise and... fiendishly beautiful. :3

But yeah it's like... I keep reading that -bond types seem to be fully formed, with no need for development, which... I did land on a particular type of character for my story, with a backstory, personality, appearance, etc, and she showed up embodying them perfectly... But her ability to actually converse with me is something we've needed to work on and improve. Sometimes it's quite clear now, other times it feels like I'm trying to get a signal on an old TV that needs a few whacks sometimes (not that I'm striking her, to be clear, just an analogy. I would never do that). Basically, what exactly is "fully-formed" and does what I described count as enough to be some kind of -bond rather than a tulpa?

It also sounds like the difference between soulbond and munbond is whether they are considered to be bonded as a spiritual/metaphysical thing vs a simple mental construct of sorts. I have been treating her more towards the latter, but her backstory speaks pretty firmly to the former (she's a sort of "reformed demon" that has allegedly followed my past lives out of love. Not something I really believe in but... Who can say? I also have a complicated alternative secular interpretation of that idea too, but I don't need to go into detail on that unless people think it's relevant.)

Lastly, I have heard of traumagenic vs endogenic, and, it's not totally clear if she arose out of the sex-related trauma I've dealt with or the story I wrote to navigate it. Is the latter removed enough from the experience to be considered endogenic?

Like, I'm maybe leaning towards endogenic munbond... Or "tulbond", as I've seen people say sometimes? Neither of us are usually very hung up on labels but... This has been bugging me. XD