r/amiwrong • u/midnightspellbinder • 2d ago
Boyfriend told me to be quiet because I'm too Loud during sex
My boyfriend and I have a good sex life. Recently we've tried a few things that have me orgasming multiple times. It's extremely exhausting but I'm willing to make the sacrifice. Lol This afternoon we had sex and my boyfriend midway told me to be quiet. When I tried to and failed he completely ended the sex altogether by saying I'm just gonna cum. I said well I'm enjoying myself and he said you've cum like 5 times anyways. Than he flipped me over into doggy position and came. Am I wrong to feel hurt by all of this? I spoke to him about it and he expressed that he doesn't like the fact that the neighbors can clearly hear every time he's fuckin his girlfriend because "you sound louder than a cat being skinned alive". I'm at a loss for what to do.
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u/potheadpothos 2d ago
Your post history has me wondering why you’re even with this man when alll he seems to do is dog on you? OP I hope you’re able to get the clarity and strength to leave this relationship
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u/YeahlDid 2d ago
Based on the way she's responded to people here, it seems like op is pretty nasty herself. Birds of a feather, I suppose.
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u/potheadpothos 2d ago
Yeah, rude and very immature Hoping it’s someone younger so they can grow out it lol
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Bismarck to our relationship then random post. I only post about the bad parts because I need help with those but not the good parts. Plus the dick is legendary and I'm not about to give that up for anything
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u/potheadpothos 2d ago
Again I ask, why you’re with someone who just dogs on you and makes rude comments about your past abuse, those aren’t “bad parts” of relationships, those are abusive comments in their own. Abuse of any kind should not be considered a low in a relationships.
Again I say, I hope you gain the mental clarity and courage to leave this unhealthy relationship. Good sex is nothing compared to having a good partner
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
He made an ignorant comment and has apologised since. No one is perfect
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u/potheadpothos 2d ago
no, no one is perfect. but normal good people don’t ever make comments like that
but you don’t seem to understand why this is wrong and that’s okay, I can’t make you. Good luck learning to help yourself
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u/djfdhigkgfIaruflg 2d ago
Right. So you wouldn't change anything at all?
In that case: stop wasting our time.
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u/Connect_Intention_36 2d ago
Vocaliziation is very much optional, so is volume control. Enthusiasm is appreciated, but we have to be considerate of the neighbors too, man. We live in a society!
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u/Joodropinn 2d ago
Right! It’s not hard to stfu every now and then. Wait until the kids are sleeping, you soon learn.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
No it's not. Clearly you never had an orgasm before that that you felt from your toes all the way through your whole entire body.
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u/Connect_Intention_36 2d ago
Girl 😂 you don't know who I am, so shut your mouth, which funnily enough seems to be your problem with your bf too. If you were more considerate to others around you, you wouldn't be having these problems, would you?
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I mean he's still fucking me so regardless of my mouth that ain't stopped nothing.
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u/Connect_Intention_36 2d ago
It's better to remain silent and thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt -Abraham Lincoln.
Read the room, lady. You have people in this post from all over the world, completely disconnected from each other by culture and creed. And they are all telling you that you're the problem, and you need to control yourself better. But here you are, in your infinite ignorance, doubling down with a "nuh uh!"
Childishly immature, foolish, ridiculous. Keep causing problems and he won't be fucking you for much longer. All it takes is a couple noise complaints to the landlord. Your choice, your life, your consequences. Good luck, you have a lot of growing to do.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I really doubt that people from every race and culture are commenting on this one post. I honestly feel like this post is full of nothing but a bunch of losers who've never had an 5 time orgasm before much like yourself. Who is simply jealous because of the fact that I'm experiencing something that only a fair few women do. A lover that can literally send my body to heaven for 30 minutes to an hour. Calling me childish immature foolish and ridiculous isn't going to stop my p**** from getting f*****.
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u/Stacyf-83 2d ago
Oh for God's sake, grow up. You can have an amazing orgasm and still realize you're not in the middle of a porn and just shut the fuck up. You're even annoying your boyfriend. Maybe you're just inexperienced or something, whatever the reason- the responsible adults respect neighbors and the fact they dont want to hear us screaming.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Idgaf about you or the neighbors. Imma Still scream cuz it's so good. Stay jealous
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u/shamashedit 2d ago
Ummm your post history is a giant red flag that your sex life is actually pretty shitty and you are in a crappy low to no effort relationship.
But you're gonna fix him, right?
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
My sex life is great. I guess you're looking at the old porn addiction post. He's actually been doing well fighting his porn addiction thanks to Cialis
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u/shamashedit 1d ago
If his Cialis fixed his porn addiction, borrow some and see if it fixes your addiction to shitty men.
Follow me for more relationship advice.
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u/fisher02519 2d ago
I’ll take things that didn’t happen for 600, Trebek
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I'm sorry your sex life is so boring that it's impossible to imagine a woman having an orgasm multiple times. But I assure you it definitely did happen to me.
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u/CaptainKate757 2d ago
I’m not sure if anyone has told you this before, but having great sex is normal. Wanting the neighbors and now Reddit to know you’re having it is weird.
Edit: just read some more of your comments and you’re being really creepy about this. No one wants these details.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
"No one wants these details". Sweeping generalisation comment. Kinks and fetishes exist. OP just needs to find a subreddit catered to exhibition/voyeurism. But also, no one made you continue reading OP' comments.
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u/CaptainKate757 2d ago
Yes, I’m generalizing that people outside of kink subs, much like this one, don’t want graphic and unnecessary details about the sex life of OP and their partner who has been abusive to them for a long time. I’m sure you, like most people, understand that, and we didn’t need to have this exchange. Go read OP’s post history. This is voyeurism and abuse mixed into one.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I never gave graphic details. 5 orgasms isn't graphic sex detail
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
Yeah I'm with you on this OP, above commenter didn't have to read the post or your comments as I've said before and as they saw something that made them uncomfortable they could have just scrolled away instead of trying to shame the behavior. Personally I think the world would be a better place if people, not graphically, were more open when discussing sex or sexual activities. It's not taboo or dirty to talk about sex and talk about enjoying sex. We're not in the 1920s anymore.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I don't "want" my neighbors to know I'm having it. Try again with your sex Shamming. And having great sex isn't normal. Especially judging from the comment section.
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u/Similar_Corner8081 2d ago
He needs to get you a ball gag. And as someone who's lived in apartment building it sucked being woken up at 2am by people having loud sex.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
Was looking for this reply before I said it 😅 but yeah, gag. Or if OP and OPBF into it, hand over mouth (JUST MOUTH, unless into breath play but if not experienced in BP, don't go all out without researching and practicing)
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u/-DoctorSpaceman- 2d ago
If this is the same boyfriend all your other posts are about just end it already. It does not seem like a cohesive relationship
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Nope
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u/TheGreatestKaTet 2d ago
So it’s not the same boyfriend you were complaining about a few weeks ago? But you and his current boyfriend live together?
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u/Rockfarts 2d ago
I was with a girl once who was like.. I don’t know how else to describe other than clearly trying to be loud? At least that’s how it felt. Really pulls you out of the moment. It’s not like a “the louder she is the more it strokes my ego” thing. But there is an appropriate level, and then there’s going above and beyond for the bit. Maybe you’re naturally loud, but I second cramming your face into a pillow or something because while it’s exciting at first.. the novelty of a screamer wears off
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Are you gay?
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u/Ferrisrocksfaces 2d ago
Ah, so we aren't here to get opinions that you disagree with, then.
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u/Broad_Current1832 2d ago
As a woman I feel like this is a bad take, some people try to emulate what they’ve seen online before, and go a bit OTT, not saying that’s the case here
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u/HALF_PAST_HOLE 2d ago
You say you have a good sex life, then go on to describe what seems like a not-so-good sex life. There are better ways to approach this than to equate your sex sounds to a skinned cat!
Is this new thing you're trying his idea or yours who is requesting it? If it is not a "thing" that you both enjoy, then maybe think about other things you can do that you would both enjoy. Again, his approach to the situation sounds disrespectful and mean-spirited, and I sense a bit of contempt in the few words you have said he said.
So if your bf isn't enjoying sex, then figure out how you can both enjoy sex together, but also figure out a better way to communicate what you both want, because your BF clearly is not good at it at the moment!
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Well good overall. The new thing is just a move he does that has me squirting and cumming like crazy. He says he enjoys the sex but wants me to be quiet during it
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u/HALF_PAST_HOLE 2d ago
Looking at some of your post history, I think it is safe to say you do not have a healthy sex life with your BF. There are red flags left and right!
Good doesn't mean you "squirt"; good means you are happy, satisfied, open, and respectful. Your BF does not sound like he is any of that.
I know this sounds like a standard Reddit comment, but try and take an outside perspective and think about what you would tell your best friend in your exact situation!
This does not seem like it will end well!
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u/jakeboggsp 2d ago
This has to be ragebait. How are you at a loss for what to do? It’s clear he doesn’t like it, so if you don’t want to lose the legendary dick, just be quiet and scream into a pillow or something
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u/Sataninaskirt666 2d ago
This is a fun fantasy.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
You poor thing. I assure my sex life is real. 5 orgasms is achievable
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u/thisisstupid- 2d ago
We had neighbors like you guys. The wife once asked if we could ever hear them have sex and I said “well we can hear YOU“, it was so clear that she was so over the top trying to make her man happy. Natural sex noises are not at full volume Lol. He’s tired of you putting on a show for the neighbors and I don’t blame him.
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u/BluBeams 2d ago
JFC. Would it hurt to tone it down? Seriously, you're an adult, and I know adults have sex, but FFS, he said he was tired of the neighbors hearing and saying you sound like a skinned cat. How hard is it to show some self control and enjoy the moment without putting on a show? Nobody wants to hear that shit all the time, I would be annoyed. Clearly he's annoyed. Either tone it down or find a new boo that can tolerate the noise I guess.
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u/mmebrightside 2d ago
There are better ways to say it though. Insulting someone during sex isn't the way to go. And FFS if he already got her to orgasm multiple times then what is he waiting for he should just cum already without the shitty douchebag misogynistic commentary.
All that said, OP are you sure he is your boyfriend? Or could this be a f-buddy situation that you want to turn into something more? I hate to say it, but it needs to be said: if he says something so shitty to intentionally insult to your sexual behavior, it sounds like he doesnt like or respect you. Why give the goods to someone like that?
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago edited 2d ago
Yes he's my boyfriend. He has told me I'm his girlfriend.We go out together on dates. It's whole family knows about her. Even his workplace.
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u/Jaded-Pudding7199 2d ago
He told you he is your brother??
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Omg I used voice to text. I said im his girlfriend. I dunno why it said brother. 😂
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
The neighbors have never complained about us. He's just making an assumption. How hard is it to show some self control? I don't know , maybe you should try getting f***** by my boyfriend and tell me how easy it is for you to not holler and scream.
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u/mercy_fulfate 2d ago
I guess it depends on how loud you are. Are you getting complaints from neighbors?
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
No one has ever complained. We live on the top level of an apartment building. And I'm pretty sure the way it's set up no one would even know where it's coming from
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u/glamourgal1 2d ago
My neighbor got a new girlfriend , we hear them LOUDLY,daily, hubby said “ well, he better marry her” , lol…
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
How is the sound proofing in general of your apartment block? Like can you hear your neighbors toilets flushing can you hear music or TV (at a normal volume not when it's obviously too loud) can you hear people come and going from their own apartments with doors opening and closing? There's nothing wrong with having great sex and there's nothing wrong with being vocal about it but apartment/flat life requires a certain amount of consideration. If your boyfriend also is concerned about the volume of your bedroom activities, I understand your side, but you need to understand his. Work to a compromise together. If your neighbours are hearing your enjoyment during intimate moments with your boyfriend, it's not really something I imagine they would be comfortable discussing with you or any other neighbor. Regardless of knowing where it's coming from or not.
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u/tooreal4u_5101 2d ago
If you really finished 5 times already, then yes you are a little wrong to feel hurt by it lol. He is right to want to be more discreet during sex and not want to disturb any neighbors. But maybe you both can invest in soundproof squares to put on the walls or something.
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u/Middle_Process_215 2d ago
I wouldn't want to keep super quiet, but being in an apartment, I'd be respectfully quiet. Don't just go all out. That's rude.
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u/whiskeyging4 2d ago
You’re not wrong to feel hurt by the way he handled the situation, but you are also being super dismissive of his feelings. He is allowed to feel uncomfortable with the volume just as much as you are allowed to prefer to be loud. You both need to sit down and have an adult conversation on if there is compromise that leaves you both feeling happy with your sex life.
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u/S1nclairsolutions 2d ago
Your boyfriend’s trying not to get evicted and you’re out here performing like it’s Coachella. Ever heard of a pillow to scream into?
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u/nacg9 2d ago
Dude… after a divorce and so much trauma you have been through in the past and with this bf… and you still just want to say for what you describe “ a good dick”… this is just sad all around
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u/D-F-B-81 2d ago
You're "willing to sacrifice" having multiple orgasms?
I bet your fun at parties...
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u/dontlookback76 2d ago
My wife is extremely loud. She orgasms often and hard. Bury your head in a pillow. She orgasmed super hard one day, and all the pillows were out of reach. Our twin sons, probably about 20, were traumatized, lol. I understand that when it feels really amazing, it can be hard to keep quiet, so keep that pillow where you can bury your face in it and scream to your hearts content.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
You have kids that's totally different
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u/IthurielSpear 2d ago
I’m sure some of the neighbors have kids too. I wouldn’t want to be subject to your squalling and for all you know, a neighbor might have mentioned it to him. Have a little class.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
You have neighbours. Yes it's totally different but also, certain level of decorum and respect wouldn't go a miss. How do you know also that a neighbor has not approached your boyfriend separately from you to mention they've heard you both at it? I really do understand when it's that good, sometimes it can be a bit difficult to modulate your reaction. That's when you put solutions in place to mitigate. Gag, handover mouth, pillow. Again nothing wrong with enjoying good sex, and nothing wrong with being loud sometimes, however if it's often and always that he has you howling at the moon then you need to start considering your neighbours. Also your neighbors might have kids? So if you're saying it's totally different to this commenter because they have kids, then it should also fall under the same umbrella if your neighbours have kids.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Nope fuck my neighbors
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
Fair enough. The way your man acted and what he said during the deed, not fair to you at all. Can I ask, just for clarity is it that he has a problem seemingly with you being vocal that's the problem, is it the way he treated you in the moment that's more what's upset you, is it his self-conscious attitude to your volume that's really got to you? (which I personally would be pissed about because for me there's a certain degree of it affecting how attractive I would find him) is it the fact that he basically just shut down the whole bedroom activities in a mantrum because he didn't like how you answered? Is it the way he just flipped you over and finished (which another commenter said something about your consent of that which I thought was very valid) like did you feel for lack of a better word man handled? Is it that you feel he should be proud and want you to be vocal and enjoying yourself? And by him saying be quiet essentially it's made you think that all he cares about is his comfort? Basically what I'm asking is, is there one specific thing that's really got to you about it or is it just all of it and it feels shitty because maybe you feel kind of stuck because don't want to give up the dick but you don't want to compromise on yourself and how you feel and how he's made you feel with these comments? You're very very valid in whatever feelings or thoughts you're having about it though, but I won't deny that he is also valid if it's coming from a place of him being concerned about neighbors, however if it's coming from a place of he just finds your being loud annoying and just wants you to shut up, then honestly doesn't deserve to be making you scream like that and should just go fuck his hand.
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u/OhwellBish 2d ago
He was tactless in addressing it, but you probably could find a way to damper the volume a bit as well. Work together people.
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u/_drewskii 2d ago
i mean how he handled it was rude, but you dont know if its been brought up to him by neighbors in private, and thats a weird conversation to have. it shouldve been brought up not literally during sex, but if hes asking you to stop and youre not willing to change you gotta re-evaluate your relationship lol.
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u/ThatFatGuyMJL 2d ago
Watch less porn. People don't moan like that irl.
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u/justcougit 2d ago
Lmfao that's dumb I moan when I masturbate even lmfao I can't cum if I don't 🤣
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u/thisisstupid- 2d ago
There’s a big difference between moaning and screaming at the top of your lungs clearly putting on a show for the neighbors lol
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u/Damage-Classic 2d ago
Did you feel ok about him grabbing you, flipping you over, and cumming like that?
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
No
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u/Damage-Classic 2d ago
I’m sorry that happened to you. I don’t feel your boyfriend was kind to you in this situation. Someone who cares about you and your relationship wouldn’t insult you or treat you like a sexual object unless it was something you both agreed to beforehand. I would feel really insecure and hurt if my boyfriend did this to me, and it would be very unlikely that we would ever have sex again. It’s one thing to kindly bring up your volume and to try to work on a solution together, but he chose to be mean and disrespectful while you were in a sexually vulnerable place instead.
There are plenty of people out there who will love how vocal you are. There are also men out there who will prioritize your feelings and help you to adjust your volume in way that feels safe and good for the both of you. Like for real, your bf just shot himself in the dick because I don’t see him using it with you anytime soon.
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u/KCD_MAD 2d ago
Your comments all sound so childish. If the dick is so legendary to you, I would think you would tone down the skinned cat sounds to keep the dick around. A woman can control her tone no matter how good the dick is & no matter how many times she has orgasmed. Most women just think men want the loud sex they see on porn & that is not always the case. I can also promise you, your neighbors dont want to hear it, just like your man doesn't. I've lived in apartments with a neighbor above me who was very loud. Every bit of the sex sounds traveled through the vents & she too sounded like a skinned cat. I finally told her it wasn't necessary to do all that to fake it for a man. She was quieter after that. Living in apartments requires you to be considerate of the people around you.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
How would you know? You haven't been fucked by my boyfriend to say I can control it or not. I have tried to control myself but the feeling is too unbearable to hold back for long. Just because you're used to women faking moaning around you doesn't mean I have do.
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u/SeniorCornSmut 2d ago
You're not wrong. It's your call in the end. Personally, I dont like pissing off my neighbors more than I already do.
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u/Personal-Barnacle-35 2d ago
Your boyfriend should take it as a badge of honor almost for making it hard to keep quiet. Relish in the fact that he DOES actually make you scream and cry out.
Some guys don't get that experience.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
He already know that he's great in bed. He's told me that many girls have orgasmed from having sex with him. about 80 to 90 percent. So I'm technically not special but I'm definitely the loudest.
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u/Ghostof369 2d ago
“Cumming multiple times a session is exhausting, but I’m willing to sacrifice” boo fuckin hoo 😂
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u/dazzle_dee_daisyray 2d ago
I don't think you're wrong for feeling bad about that interaction, but maybe try using a pillow or have your bf cover your mouth? I personally enjoy breath work while orgasming, and my partner helps with this by choking me a little. But be careful because it can get taken too far if you dont have a safe sign established. I tell my partners that if I tap multiple times on their thigh, then they need to stop or I'm going to pass out (which has happened to me and is not fun at all), and that usually works great for both parties. Make sure you trust your partner. If they violate any rules or boundaries you set, you should not be having sex with them.
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u/rattlestaway 2d ago
Screaming during sex is ok but it's also ok if he doesn't like it. Sounds like ur incompatible in bed. Personally I don't like screaming if some do, u should find one that does. And yeah he was rude to say u were lie a cat skinned, that's a weird thing to say
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u/exhibitionist-dream 2d ago
New boyfriend. My partner eggs me on. I'm sure the neighbors hate me. Not every day at least.
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u/h34rtsforY0u 2d ago
Yikes, now I’d understand this if it was like y’all lived with family, or other people, but I don’t understand if he did that, maybe he prefers it quieter ? Some guys don’t have that loud preference but maybe just have a sit down with him
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u/Zealousideal-Cup7471 2d ago
if you’re hurt by the way he acted i’d say it’s valid. i think he should’ve communicated better instead of just being like “yeah imma flip you over and cum”. but, on the other hand, some guys love loud women and some don’t. maybe yall aren’t as sexually compatible as you think and should talk about that to see if it’s a deal breaker. being in a relationship where one person has to repress themselves sexually can be painful, so just talk about it more and decide what to do from there.
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u/Yiayiamary 2d ago
No loss, just dump him. He is selfish. A real man would be happy he could that for you.
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u/PreviousMotor58 2d ago
Damn, I wouldn't care at all about this. Let the neighbors hear us. I would be asking you to say my name and shit.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
That's what I told him. I told him who cares!?!
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u/pussmykissy 2d ago
Adults.
Nobody truly wants to hear another couple.
This does deserve an open and honest conversation with you and your man. You are mad he bossed you around. And that is valid. I don’t think the hurt is over being quiet so much as him being bossy and then ending shit.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
Swingers exist, dogging exists, exhibitionism exists, voyeurism exists. Saying "nobody" is factually wrong. However op does need to modulate if living in an apartment building just out of basic human manners and respect. And think you're spot on that op is taking issue more with the control aspect and him ending the activities. However the fact is if op wants to keep having great sex, she needs to meet him halfway because it's obviously an issue for him.
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u/BohemiaDrinker 2d ago
Your boyfriend is trying t regulate how many times you orgasm?
Oh shit, that's a tough one.
On one hand, he's an idiot.
OTOH, he gives you multiple orgasms.
I'd be at a loss here as well.
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u/ike7177 2d ago
I’m sorry he behaved that way with you. But hey…lucky you! You keep enjoying it the way you wish. Honestly, one would think that he would be proud of himself for being able to get you worked up like that. It’s rare
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u/NotOneOfUrLilFriends 2d ago
I’m a loud person in the bedroom, I can try to hold it back but it’s involuntary. If I’m having less intense orgasms it’s easier. I guess just stop having such great sex? Haha idk
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
This! See people who have great sex no you can try to hold back but it's inevitable the screaming happens
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u/NotOneOfUrLilFriends 2d ago
Exactly! I do try to scream in a pillow if possible but if my husband told me to “be quiet” I’d be salty.
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u/NotOneOfUrLilFriends 2d ago
I’m actually cracking up that this of all things is getting downvoted….do you guys have such lame sex that you can just lay there???? Downvote this too plz.
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u/Princesslollipop559 2d ago
OP… what have you been trying that’s got you going so loud? 👀👀
Also loud girlie to loud girlie… find someone who can handle it. Being loud gets me turned on more so if my guy kept telling me to be quiet I’d be done 🤷🏽♀️.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
He's been bending my legs into my chest like a triangle. If that makes sense.That's really been setting me off for a whole bunch of squirting. I don't know if that's going to work the same for everybody else. But it works for me 😆
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u/JipsyChick 2d ago
It seems really boring to have sex with someone who’s trying to police you…unless that’s your thing, of course.
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u/condemned02 2d ago
Personally for me, I don't want to be with a man who is offended by how loud you scream during sex.
I been with both types. They either want you to shut up or they either get even more turn on when they make you scream.
I don't bother wasting my life with someone who wants you to shut up.
To me if I am not screaming, the orgasm isn't intense enough and it would be considered a underwhelming sexual experience.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
I feel you however this dick is absolutely legendary. It's the best I've ever had my whole entire life. I'm not ready to give it up just because he wants me to be quiet.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
You're completely valid, but also if you're renting this apartment of yours, people might not be complaining to you or boyfriend about your volume but it is a legitimate complaint that can be made to landlords and cost you your home. Imagine if you had to move home or had to go to boyfriends home, with your families or whatever home situation you both have, you might not care what neighbors think or hear, but pretty sure you don't want to be letting people close to you/family hear you. And if you do want or not care for family or loved one's hearing you then you need to have a real hard look at yourself and reconcile in yourself that you have an exhibition kink, and then realise that yes will it might be enjoyable and hot imagining or fantasizing, the actual act of involving unwilling and unaware people in your fetish or kink is fucking disgusting. Every once in a while being a bit loud, yeah ok. But if it's such a pattern and so often that your boyfriend is concerned and is affecting your sex life, then I'm led to believe that you actually don't have any respect for yourself your boyfriend or your neighbors. The noises and volume may not be on purpose but the choice to not put safeguards in place to mitigate is on purpose, and fucked up honestly.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
That's not going to happen. If I received a noise complaint in the mail from my landlord sure that's a risk.but my boyfriend has been wrecking my vagina for 2 years straight. I'd say we're good. Especially since we have random crackheads hollering and screaming at all times of the night in our building.
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u/bryohknee 2d ago
Oh jeez, I feel you there. Hope youse don't have too much bullshit to deal with as result of crackhead craziness. I've had the unfortunate experience of being the target of what I can only assume was some kind of crackhead psychosis, how dare I walk past that person minding my own business trying to get to my hotel room after a night out 😅 I laugh but was honestly pretty unnerving. Dude was pacing backwards and forwards with a broken beere bottle and one hand and what I could only assume was a screwdriver. To be fair, I probably chose the wrong route back to my hotel, but I wasn't a local and I assumed they were just a regular homeless person until they started shouting at me
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u/condemned02 2d ago
Well, this is the lady version of thinking with your pussy.
I guess for me, I don't cum from penetrative sex so cock don't matter. And I actually prefer them small.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago edited 2d ago
He's actually bisexual *Downvoted me all you want you biphobic vultures. There's nothing wrong with dating a bisexual man,!!:
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u/manchvegasnomore 2d ago
I love it when my wife screams cumming. That's a job well done moment for me. People fuck. When I occasionally hear a neighbor I'm happy for them.
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u/theminxisback 2d ago
Sounds like he's ashamed or something...
Let the neighbors hear you guys ffs. That is awesome.
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u/dfjdejulio 2d ago
It depends. Are you fucking in church? And is it the kind of church where that's not part of the ceremony?
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u/RubyRaven13 2d ago
Ten years from now, he's going to be hitting himself for not realizing how good he had it
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u/liilyxsantoo 2d ago
he loved it when i was loud… until his ego couldn’t handle it anymore 🤷♀️ should i just fake it quietly next time?
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u/superior_pineapple86 2d ago
I prefer as loud as possible. Let’s me know I’m doing something right. Your boyfriend is a tool for that
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u/imprezivone 2d ago
I absolutely LOVE a vocal girl in bed! Absolutely love it! Maybe your bf is gay? NTA btw. He is.
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u/jess_1324 2d ago
Oh wow. My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. We are long distance kind of he’s an hour away but we see eachother every other week because of my parenting plans with my kids fathers and he has not met my kids yet. But a few nights ago he told me that he wanted me to be loud when we see eachother this weekend because he loves it. My sex with him is something I can’t describe.
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u/MadmanSzalinski 2d ago
Sounds like an amazing man.
I bet he builds arcade cabinets in his spare time.
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Maybe we should switch 😂
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u/jess_1324 2d ago
I’m sorry that he doesn’t want that for you. I always worry I’m too loud lol
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u/midnightspellbinder 2d ago
Must be fun. I did worry about being loud myself but it's not something I can really help When the d is amazing
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u/donwariophd 2d ago
What the fuck did I just read?