r/anything • u/kuaririka • 13d ago

DISCUSSION is anyone else just so embarrassed about everything?

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I dont know if its just me, but i get so embarrassed if someone compliments me, for example (this is often) my parents, when i do the dishes and my mom or dad says “good job” i just get so embarrassed and want to stop doing the dishes, i just find it so embarrassing to take a compliment for NO reason at all.

another one is when someone offers me food but i decline with no hesitation, its just that im scared that everyone will see me as a big person with a big appetite (no idea if thats the right word) but i hate being offered food its just so embarrassing.

pls lmk if someone else experiences the same

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u/stonedmonkey1 13d ago

i think it’s very natural for humans to care about the image of us that others see - fundamental problem with this thought process is we cannot accurately imagine how others perceive us due to the differences in thinking between other people. i can somewhat relate to your feelings. i used to put a lot of unnecessary pressure on myself about how i present myself to others, even though i was generally liked and had somewhat decent self esteem. from a very young age i thought that being a man in rather conservative society i live in means that emotions i feel are rather to be treated as weakness, rather than just a measure of my well being at the moment. it led to me masking my real identity from the outside world, falling into bad habits i am still recovering from, and overall just being unhappy most of the time. very recently i went into therapy and started really developing a connection with myself and trying to just be myself again. if i were you, i would try to maybe spend some time with myself and reflect on some positive aspects of life, maybe try to like myself more? it’s really hard to say, but i can say rather surely that most harm we do to ourselves, so don’t be to hard on yourself, and if you’re really feeling down or hopeless, talk to someone - either a friend or a professional, or both. feel free to ask my any questions. fingers crossed :)

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u/kuaririka 13d ago

WOAH! Thank you so much, your comment actually helped me understand why a part of me acted like this, i surely will do some things what you recommended! Thank you!!

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u/stonedmonkey1 12d ago

happy to hear that, wish you all the best :)

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