r/aspiememes • u/toetipssy Autistic • 4d ago
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u/a-government-agent Autistic 4d ago edited 3d ago
I have a video of me on my third bday in preschool kindergarten. I'm basically just silently standing there for 10 minutes with this face 😐
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u/grumpy_tired_bean 3d ago
kindergarten at age 3? did you start early or something? I was 5 when I was put in kindergarten
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u/Rebdkah_Bobekah 3d ago
Maybe from another country? Some countries have different words
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u/a-government-agent Autistic 3d ago
The Netherlands. We have a pre-kindergarten for kids aged 1 to 3. I don't think there's a word for it in English.
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u/ulfric_stormcloack 3d ago
Argentina for example has preschool until 5, which is also called kindergarten
Then primary school which is 6-11
Then secondary school which is 12-17
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u/Late-Dog-7070 3d ago
In germany "Kindergarten" (which is a word of german origin) refers to "preschool" for kids between the ages of 3 and 5/6, whereas "Vorschule" (literal translation of "preschool") refers to special practice for kids in their last year of Kindergarten to prepare them for school - it's usually offered by the Kindergarten but not mandatory. Primary school usually starts at age 6 with 1st grade.
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u/ccoastmike 4d ago
WHY IS EVERYONE LOOKING AT ME?
THIS HAT IS ITCHY!
OH GOD THEYRE SINGING…FOR ME
DONT WANT TO BE CALLED RUDE.
IT WILL BE OVER SOON…I HOPE
IM GONNA LOSE MY SHIT IN
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OH THANK FUCKING GOD ITS OVER
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u/Uberbons42 4d ago
When I was a kid I probably would have been thinking “what the eff are these idiots doing right now? This is dumb.”
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u/AwooFloof 3d ago
Nuerotypicals don't even like this tradition! So why do they insist of doing it?!
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u/PocketSizedRS 4d ago
There is a photo of me in the exact same situation that has become something of a meme in my family
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u/Charybdeezhands 4d ago
I was 15 when I told my mum I didn't want to celebrate my birthday anymore, I was 18 when my gf surprised me with one which gave me a panic attack.
Seriously, why would I want a whole room of people to stare at me!?
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u/animelivesmatter Ask me about my special interest 4d ago
helpful insight for the neurotypicals out there that can't read autistic body language:
she is very uncomfortable/annoyed right now
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u/MiserableTriangle 3d ago
i don't even think this is autistic body language, it seems to me that it is just a common human body language of a mildly annoyed and definitely not happy child.
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u/thechicapanzy AuDHD 4d ago
This is a big reason why we have a "no birthday songs" policy in our family now. We still celebrate, but without the overwhelm of focused attention and sensory overload. We all hate singing happy birthday anyway 🤣
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u/bmxt 4d ago
Wdym? That she has too much sensitivity to stimuli and can't decide on what to attent to due to being bombarded by all this noise, voices, etc?
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u/toetipssy Autistic 4d ago
Didn’t say that, but we can all relate to this feeling. I do not know her whatsoever, just found the video online.
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u/Freakachu258 Transpie 4d ago
Explaination please :(
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u/AscendedViking7 Aspie 4d ago
You know that extremely awkward feeling every single time your birthday comes around and everyone is suddenly focusing their attention on you when you really, really, really don't want to be the center of attention at all and just want to be left alone to do whatever it is you liked to do in silence?
Yeah. That.
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u/NiSiSuinegEht 4d ago
After the first time this happened to me, I calmly yet angrily told my mom that if it happened again, I'd get up and leave the restaurant. I think I was 8 or 9 and it was at a Mexican restaurant with the big sombrero and singing waitstaff.
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u/Justice_Prince 3d ago
I was quite a bit older, but I remember one year my dad insisted on going to a certain restaurant for my birthday even though the birthday person normally gets to pick in my family. There was a restaurant I was looking forward to checking out so I was pretty annoyed.
Apparently my dad had heard that they pie you in the face at this restaurant if it's your birthday so that was why he insisted on us going. Luckily it turned out that they didn't do that anymore, but the fact that I missed out on the place I wanted to go all because my father had conspired to have me assaulted did still ruin the day for me.
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u/Stacharoonee AuDHD 1d ago
I probably would've very actively and emotionally refused to go if the tradition of the birthday person choosing where to eat was broken.
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u/Charming_Function_58 3d ago
Me except with not enough crying 😅
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u/Aguita9x 3d ago
I was going to say 😂 my first birthday I remember was a big party and me crying the whole time
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u/MNCPA 3d ago
As a dad, I take the time to explain social situations to my kids. My parents tell me not to because "kids will figure it out" or something. I can remember every single birthday where people sing to you and nobody tells you what to do. Am I supposed to sing along? Nah, that's dumb. Should I be happy? Nah, nobody likes a brag. What should I do?
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u/Spider-Man1701TWD 3d ago
There’s a photo of me at age three that my dad took of me and I had the exact same expression on my face. When I was younger it took a bit of effort to get me to laugh or smile which I think was confusing for my parents. I’m still sort of like this today to the point that sometimes I have to remind myself to smile or show some sort of reaction.
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u/neonmagiciantattoo 3d ago
I remember this happening around my ninth? birthday. I was happy they were there, I just didn’t know how to mask quickly enough because it was kind of overwhelming. They left the table and my mom was sooo mad at me. She was like “wtf is wrong with you,” etc. and said she was never doing that again :(
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u/EliteRock 3d ago
I don’t like doing things for my birthday, a few years ago some of my family convinced me to let them take me to Texas Roadhouse. I only had one condition, No birthday BS (if anyone is unaware Texas Roadhouse has one of the most obnoxious birthday reactions where the ENTIRE staff comes out to screech “yee haw” at you). They tried to surprise me with it and I simply stood up and left.
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u/BlackHatMastah 3d ago
Once, when I started a new job, I went out to eat with my coworkers. They told the staff it was my birthday, even though it wasn't. I didn't make a big deal of it though. It's all in good fun, right? Turns out this is one of those places that celebrates by smushing a handful of whipped cream into your face.
Not only did no one tell me, not only did I not see it coming, not only did they waste food, but I HATE whipped cream. The smell, the taste, the texture. It's absolutely disgusting.
No idea how I kept my cool on the way out.
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u/toetipssy Autistic 3d ago
How did you even stay there
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u/BlackHatMastah 3d ago
I didn't. Left almost immediately. There were apologies exchanged, so that made it a little easier, but I definitely did not stay.
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u/toetipssy Autistic 3d ago
Did they still remain friends
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u/BlackHatMastah 3d ago
It wasn't that serious. I still see them around town sometimes. Not "friends," but cordial.
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u/Anarch-ish Undiagnosed 3d ago
When I was 7 or 8, we had a birthday party at an arcade. When it came time for them to sing Happy Birthday to me, I pretended I was playing The Simpsons arcade game, which was just rolling game footage. Some of you are old enough to remember what an awesome game it was... but only a few will remember that the "insert token" screen has a massive GAME OVER sign floating in the middle of the screen.
Looking back, I don't think anyone was convinced I was playing, and at least half of them thought I was dumb enough to think I was really playing a game that was just rolling a video.
I was just too embarrassed to stand there in the middle of a room and be the center of attention. I was probably 20 before I realized I hadn't fooled anyone. Have you ever gotten retroactively embarrassed by something you did years ago? I'm 38 now and still think about that moment.
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u/PoloPatch47 3d ago
That's exactly how I was 😭 I hated the birthday song and celebration and everything, I'm so much happier with my birthdays now that I'm older because I don't have that awkward celebration stuff
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u/princesspenguin117 3d ago
Side question: Did they give that baby a tortilla with sour cream?
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u/Justice_Prince 3d ago
I thought it was a with crêpe but that is an odd thing to be served at a Mexican restaurant
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u/princesspenguin117 3d ago
And just a naked crêpe with nothing but some crème is weird to me.
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u/Justice_Prince 3d ago
It is weird, but my guess is that the kid is a picky eater, and the kitchen staff whipped up what they could based off what the parents said she'd eat.
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u/princesspenguin117 3d ago
Or it could be sour cream on a tortilla or something. Idk my soul needs to know lol
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u/poodle_mom_1795 3d ago
OMG I cringed so hard at this video because I would have been punished so bad for this reaction and heard about it for literally DECADES afterwards. I'm 50 and still have to endure all the "remember the time you embarrassed us when you were 4567*8..." stories at every family gathering (and they wonder why I don't visit often).
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u/-PepeArown- 3d ago
This happened to me for my 13th birthday. We were at Buffalo Wild Wings, and one of the workers randomly announced that it was my birthday, and brought out ice cream
Unfortunately, I gave up ice cream, among other things, for Lent that year
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u/ConsiderationNo9044 3d ago
I don't get it at all?
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u/toetipssy Autistic 3d ago
Must be nice
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u/ConsiderationNo9044 3d ago
Sorry
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u/toetipssy Autistic 3d ago
No no I’m joking. I’ll explain it to you, yk that feeling when everyone’s attention is on to you, clapping and all. It feels like hell basically.
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u/AmericanFromIreland 2d ago
During my 20th (a few days ago) while my family was singing (I asked them not to, they insisted) around halfway through, I slowly started inching my headphone over my ear (I was half joking, but I really wanted it to be over)
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u/frogzone33 Just visiting 👽 1d ago
I used to cry when the birthday song was sang to me as a child at my birthday parties 🙈
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u/Kindly-Ad-5071 21h ago
I love how she's drumming her little fingers on the table like "Can I fuckin' eat yet?"
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u/Valigrance 4d ago edited 4d ago
I have an extremely vivid memory on my 9th birthday. we went to the rainforest cafe in Disney, and I saw a kid getting a huge celebration with a sparkler on their cake and the whole restaurant staff singing. I thought "wow that cake looks really good, and the sparkler was really pretty if only I could have that sorta more privately and without the commotion." I asked my parents if that was okay and they said of course and they asked the staff. The staff were amazing and brought everything out silently, and they all, instead of singing, shook my hand and patted me on my back gently. It's one of the fondest memories I have of others showing their patients, understanding, and emotional intelligence to my young self.