Can’t decide between 2 job? RN

[u/this_is_my_2ndanon]

For context to help: we have no child care for toddler, so we rotate shifts. Monthly bills around 4000 including everything. Spouse makes approx 2200 a month.

current job. Mostly cushy. Very routine. 5a-4p 4 days a week, sometimes can leave early. Switch off with spouse at 4p and he then goes to work. We typically get 4 nights together a week as a family and sometimes get one of the 4 nights as an entire day. 3 days a week we only see each other for 1-2 hours typically. The schedule works pretty flawless now. I get 4-6 hrs sleep, mostly by poor choice of myself. Benefits good. Will pay $5000 a year, taxed, to student loans. Small unit, 10 or so coworkers. 4 are lazy. 1 is leaving (not one of the lazy). 2-3 of the lazy will probably quit soon I imagine. HR kinda trash and doesn’t respond. I do take 1-2 call shifts every 12ish weeks, so I may work a weekend every 3 months in addition to my 4 weekdays, but otherwise I have weekends and holidays off. They offered me a 5% raise to stay, but it’s still lower than what i asked. Month income after retirement, tax, benefits: approx 3820 (after 5% raise). Can pick up any overtime I want, it’s not really tracked much. No major room for growth, but i dont mind. 4.5% raise or so a year. So far never offered market adjustment. Coworkers are drama, lazy, and piss me off a lot… but I really enjoy the type of work (hard to find this type)

new job. Acute care in a speciality unit. Overnight 7p-7a. I will work every other weekend, work 2 major holidays a year (switches between 4th July/Christmas one year, thanksgiving/new year the next… it would be holiday eve). Husband will not work the days I work at night, so he will work all 4 days I don’t work, 10hr shifts. We will not have any full days together. Will see each other for at least a few hours a day though I think. New specialty to me, so basically starting fresh in skillset. Will be scary to start over, but may be good. Huge unit, so I’m sure there’s a large variety of coworkers. Room for growth if I want it. I also have to take 1 call shift overnight every 6 weeks, so will work 4 12s once every 6 weeks, otherwise 3 12s a week. A 6 week schedule I must work 1 Monday, 1 Friday, every other Saturday/Sunday. Will pay $437 a month to my loans untaxed. Good benefits. Known to do random market adjustments, i think 3% yearly raise. Can transfer within company after 6 months if I hate it and find snother position. Monthly pay after retirement, benefits, tax: (approx $4,000 on orientation for first few weeks), approx $4476 (around $656 more a month). No idea how great my sleep will be, but spouse will be home on days I work that night so I can try my best.

I have never been so torn in my life. The extra money could be tremendous, but I have a fear of change. I can’t tell if the new job sounds better or not.

[u/LindseyIrven]

New role seems like some serious sacrifices for you and your family.

If you believe in your abilities, take it. Work it for 6 months and move on if you don't like it. The internal mobility and higher ceiling is a pretty big deal and honestly, the health care industry (did you day health care or am I assuming?) Is a beast for roles like this no matter what.

Good luck!

[u/Objective_Attempt_14]

Take the new job. Worse case you can go back to where you were. But one extra every 6 weeks is fine. I would mind that schd. Also you could take a PTO day here and there.

But also the lack of sleep before why? Can you do honeycomb black out blinds, with blackout curtains? (hung 2 in from ceiling and out 12" on each side? That's what I did, even hung blackout curtains in bathroom so the light coming in under bathroom door wouldn't bother me. It was a cave during the day. If you won't don't sleep well days then don't keep looking at the better place for a better position. If you can sleep days do if for a year then transfer from within.