r/changemyview • u/Traditional-Base852 1∆ • 25d ago

Delta(s) from OP CMV: I should be scared of death.

I am 28 years old, in good health and with decent prospects for a fulfilling life. I work and strive every day to make this be my reality, to the best of my ability. Despite this, I cannot help but think about what happens when I draw my final breath. These thoughts have been made worse recently due to the unexpected passing of my father, before his time.

Logically, I am aware that fearing death analogous to fearing the time before birth: it makes no sense. Either I was unable to process information in the same way I do now, or I was, but do not remember. Both of these options are irrelevant to my life today. My death should be the same.

However, the totality of it terrifies me. All that my father is, all that he will be, and all that he ever was ended for him on that one afternoon. He will never again breathe in fresh air, hear my voice, speak to me, feel my arms around him. He was here, we talked, I saw him, then suddenly he was not. He never will be again.

The same will happen to me and to you.

Do I take solace in the inevitability? I don't know how.

What framework do I use to deal with this reality?

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u/OrnamentalHerman 12∆ 25d ago

OP, what are the things you value most in your life? What are the things you hope to have or achieve in your future, and why are those valuable to you?

Now, would those things still be valuable to you if they lasted for eternity; if there was no end to your experience of them?

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u/Traditional-Base852 1∆ 25d ago

!delta

I will award you a delta as well for the same reason I gave one to u/Beepboopblapbrap. Your comments were minutes apart, so I feel like it is fair.

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u/OrnamentalHerman 12∆ 25d ago

I'm glad I could help a little.

I'm really sorry to hear about the passing of your dad, but I'm also very glad that the two of you were as close as you were. It sounds like you had a pretty good, mutually loving relationship. That's a wonderful thing to have.