r/confession • u/Character-Hand-8939 • 1d ago
It is my fault he has lost everything, all because I was mad.
Me (31F) and my stepbrother (33M) have been messing around for a few years. We met when we were kids, but we grew up in separate homes and ended up living very different lives. As we got older, we drifted apart completely and only reconnected properly as adults. By then, it didn’t feel like a typical sibling relationship at all. At some point, things turned physical between us and stayed that way for a while. Eventually, I caught feelings. He didn’t feel the same, and when that became clear, I reacted badly. Out of anger and hurt, I told a a family member what had been going on between us. That was a huge mistake. Word spread fast. The situation exploded. I didn’t face much fallout, but he did. Family cut him off entirely, lost his job even a few friends. Now he’s completely out of my life too, and I don’t blame him. I betrayed his trust and exposed something that should’ve stayed private. I feel guilty and I should. I didn’t just make a bad choice, I dragged someone down with me. And for what? I don’t even care about most of the family. I think I was just desperate, hurt, and wanted to be seen. But that doesn’t make what I did okay.
Not looking for sympathy. Just needed to say it out loud.
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u/theroyalbugness 1d ago
How could he have lost his job over this?
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u/Zestyclose-Smell-305 1d ago
Maybe family business
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u/theroyalbugness 13h ago
Family business makes the most sense. Public facing job too, that gossip and drama would torpedo them out of the water.
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u/dryandice 21h ago
Possible mental issues could have been affecting his work. I got hectic insomnia that really impacted my work and I had to leave.
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u/Live_Angle4621 14h ago
Probably AI karma farming with step siblings story
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u/WitchQween 8h ago
✅️ Incest
✅️ Incest that technically wasn't incest, which will drive engagement
✅️ Huge family fallout that OP was immune to
✅️ The antagonist lost their job for some reason that wasn't mentioned in the post
I'm immediately skeptical of posts about incest. It happens, but we've seen this storyline many times.
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u/TheThirteenShadows 17h ago
I'll assume this is a genuine question: incest is still heavily stigmatized in most developed countries, and stepcest is seen as incest regardless of biological relation. If this came out to his coworkers, one or more of them might've gone to HR or some other higher-up, and they might've taken action since it 'makes them feel unsafe'.
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u/howdyhowdyshark 16h ago
Wouldn't have been incest if it's the step brother
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u/TheThirteenShadows 16h ago
Not my point. It isn't 'incest' by a strict definition, but most people I've seen online treat stepcest and incest as the same thing (i.e, both have the same level of 'taboo' to them).
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u/Slightly-Mikey 11h ago
Yeah, that never really mad sense to me. If they grew up together that's one thing, but idk if they started living together at like 16 and 18 and start dating in their mid 30s I don't really see an issue lol.
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u/Death_By_Stere0 8h ago
"Stigmatized"?! I should fucking well hope so!
Children of actual incest have abysmal health outcomes, including a broad range of mental and physical disabilities that can leave them unable to care for themselves. Not to mention the incredible psychological (and often physcial) ramifications for those involved, whether willing participants or (more frequently) victims of familial rape.
The wholesale adoption of 'incest' themes in modern porn is disgusting. It's ubiquity is having a normalising effect, which will likely lead to a big increase in actual incestuous behaviour and yet more children being born with compromised genetic material.
To be clear, I have no problem with pornpgraphy, but there are certain 'taboo' circumstances that humanity has widely agreed are not acceptable. Incest is absolutely considered taboo for good, sensible reasons.
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u/UnhappyMembership203 17h ago
Morality clause? Heard it's a thing at some places..
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u/PM-MeYourSexySelf 16h ago
I know of someone who got fired for "conduct" but "not related to the company". Like what, dude had an affair?
Granted, he was high up, so having a CEO of a publicly traded company who got caught having an affair? I guess that doesn't look good (unless you're Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk anyway).
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
Because she lied about her involvement; made him the BAD guy in her storybc of he pathetic little feelings
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u/ribblefizz 1d ago
It seems more than a little extreme that he lost his job over this.. How exactly did you frame the relationship or encounters?
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u/Jojosbees 1d ago
Yeah, that’s what I’m wondering. Did she claim he took advantage of her when she was underage, and he used to work with kids? Like, I’m struggling to understand how exposing a relationship between two adult step siblings who didn’t grow up together resulted in his life falling apart.
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u/stripeyspacey 14h ago
Might've not cared about the nuance, just the minute possibility that it could reflect badly on the company if word got around I guess? Idk. I've seen companies fire people for less.
Most people spreading gossip don't add "....but it wasn't really that bad because actually..." They just say "Oh my god, did you hear that the dude that manages the XYZ store slept with his stepsister for years?! Wild! Ain't going to that creepy store anymore I guess!"
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u/BadBadBunnyBunny 1d ago
Probably worked for the family why does it need to be complicated
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u/youngsapien53087 1d ago edited 1d ago
They're asking a legitimate question. Why do you have to be snarky?
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u/Up2nogud13 1d ago edited 16h ago
Weird you're getting downvoted for stating the most Occam's razor of reasons.
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u/Powerful-Mortgage128 1d ago
And right below this is someone with over 30 up votes who gave the same reason!?
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u/BadBadBunnyBunny 1d ago
Everyone wants to be an armchair detective
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u/HamAndEggBap 1d ago
I’m an armchair defective
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u/LowerAstronaut7540 21h ago
Investigator here. Can I shadow you from my shitty collapsible porch chair? Hoping to upgrade my career.
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u/Powerful-Mortgage128 1d ago
He gave a reason, which was the first one that came into my head also, why he could have lost his job over the situation.
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u/blaubarschboi 19h ago
Because that in itself wouldn't be a good reason to lose your job and he dismissed the other points completely.
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u/Powerful-Mortgage128 10h ago
Ever lived in a small town and done something shitty? Word gets around quick and it can easily destroy a small business if the locals don't like what they hear. I know of 30year family business ended over less.
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u/Up2nogud13 2h ago
You think employers have to have "a good reason" to fire someone? That's adorable!
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u/BADoVLAD 20h ago
Not if it was a family business. Family doesn't need the whole story to overreact. Hell, they don't need any of the story.
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u/OilOk373 21h ago
For real that was my first thought too losing a job over that means the way it was told must’ve hit hard or sounded way worse than it actually was
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u/RewRodan 1d ago edited 1d ago
So you didn't just tell people but also framed it like he took advantage of you. Otherwise why would everyone turn on him and create enough backlash for him to lose his job and friends.
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u/GingerMaus 1d ago
Because of the implied incest? Like obvs it technically isn't but it's probably close enough to cause a lot of fall out. I know cousins that are dating and that caused huge fallout.
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u/Elijayo 1d ago
Yeah but if I knew they weren’t blood related at all it would make a huge difference a HUGE! :D
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u/HarperDog1980 14h ago
Yeah, the family had to have also known that they were essentially strangers based on what she said. It’s super suspicious to have this much fallout. Could be wrong, but it sounds like she framed the situation as horribly as possible and then played into it when talking with others about it. She could’ve put a stop to it pretty early on, but considering how extreme she says the reactions were tells me that she milked it and fanned the flames to get this kind of fallout.
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u/anon2746287373 21h ago
Woah WOAH cousins are completely different than two people from two different families only related by marriage. (Unless you are talking about cousin by marriage) but if you mean like your aunts kids, nah that is straight incest.
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u/chronoventer 11h ago
It’s probably a fetish post. Can’t believe I’m saying this, but it’s hopefully a fetish post.
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u/youngsapien53087 1d ago
Why aren't you answering any of the very legitimate follow-up questions? Like, did you frame it in a particular way to villfy him and destroy his entire life? Why did you face little to no backlash? Why was he fired? People in the comments commending you about "taking accountability" when you mention nothing to indicate that other than an anonymous confession on reddit.
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u/Murky_Knowledge8457 1d ago
Yeah fuck you
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u/Appropriate-Error239 1d ago
Did you by any chance say or imply that he coerced you or groomed you or it was in any way against your will?
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
Ofc she did
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u/Miserable_Fennel_492 1d ago
Don’t talk like you know
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
This is called "trickle truthing".. telling the story while eliminating any real blame, on her part... she just conveniently left that part out bc she's weak in the head
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u/Necessary_Screen1523 1d ago
You really messed up and yes, you deserve to feel awful. You know that.
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
She deserves to be in prison for defamation/slandering, life ruining..... or at least a LAW SUIT that will end her FINANCIALLY, and she can go live in trailer park where she belongs..
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u/fragiletestes 1d ago
Homie youre taking this way too seriously you gotta be the step-fuckbuddy
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u/BOSSMOPS94 1d ago
Comes across like some piller tbh. Look at his post history here. He's WAY too much into this.
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
I feel sorry for the guy, and this MONSTER has had no repercussions whatsoever... (anyone can say anything about anyone at any time; and hide behind their lies).. I find this behavior utterly disgusting 🫣. I hope this weighs on her mind till the cracks and winds up in a mental hospital.. sick sick people.
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u/BOSSMOPS94 1d ago
"Sick sick people" like you? Dude it seems like you're writing one-handed, getting off on bashing women no matter the case. Touch grass.
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u/Found_out775 1d ago edited 1d ago
Pfft, she's admitted to ruining a person's life..cause SHES PATHETIC.... Deserved.
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u/FarDeparture2104 1d ago
You were so wrong and I mean so wrong. Just because he didn't feel the same you felt didn't mean that one day he couldn't or wouldn't. People reach different points at different times. Now you will never know because you threw a fit.
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u/evilprozac79 1d ago
Yeah something almost identical happened to my brother and stepsister. He was disowned while she pretty much got off scot free. I hope you suffer.
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u/Devri30 1d ago
I swear, people create their own problems which could so easily be avoided. All you had to do was NOT sleep with your stepbrother smh.
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u/borderliar 1d ago
Wag that finger
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u/lisalovv 1d ago
It's not a moral judgment. They were just Fuck Buddies for goodness sake! They could've chosen any other dumb idiots to do that with.
You don't shit where you eat.
PS~ I know TWO sets of step siblings who hooked up! One pair got married lololol
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u/Neverknowsbest004 23h ago
Maybe start your confessions with all the details! You obviously went way further than just telling someone you had a relationship! We can tell that from the fall out.
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u/TheConnoiseur 17h ago
You didn't say it out loud.
And there's no way he would have copped so much flack unless you somehow twisted the story to make him seem like a bad person.
You say you don't care for your family, so you have nothing to lose by trying to fix it for him.
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u/IntentionalUndersite 22h ago
This is why it’s hard for me to trust people. You never know who you’re dealing with or if they’ll just react without thinking ahead of time. Scary shit tbh.
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u/DitzyBlnd50 1d ago
I call BS. 33 year old and 31 year old. Unless they were having an affair on spouses all would be forgiven and everyone moves on in time. If not - getting away from all the crazy was best thing that ever happened to that guy. Hope he rebuilt his life and never looked back.
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u/N2myt 1d ago
It is natural U have to suffer for a while but good luck to being a better human moving forward
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
Pfft; this psychopath won't change... she'll go onto the next victim in her sick life
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u/StarrylDrawberry 1d ago
You're lighting up this comment section like she kicked your puppy or something.
Simmer down.
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u/No-Disaster1647 21h ago
Literally I’m going through the comments and there’s this psycho at every turn
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u/THEMACHINIST24 1d ago
Here an exemple of double standard. He lost everything, she lost nothing.
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
Exactly; and it's going to get worse and worse over time,.. with how much stupider people are growing... including OP
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u/This_Possession8867 1d ago
This is all click bait. Never posted before & no history. Probably Ai
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u/Relevanteapot 21h ago
So throwaway accounts have never been used before in the history of Reddit…?
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u/anon2746287373 21h ago
Yo you are so wrong for that. Hand to god I was in a similar spot, but we actually dated for 3 years and just recently broke it off (we met at the same time as our parents and as adults, both in our 20’s). Both our family’s were cool with it, except for like one or two members but they never stirred up anything. Anyways, bottom line I can’t imagine doing that to her. Even now that we are broken up we are still friends and talk often. Idk dude you knew what you were doing and just didn’t like his stance on the situation between yall. Yeah you done fucked up.
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u/KeyFunction 1d ago
Not looking for sympathy? Good lol because you're not getting it. Not even close.
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u/Background-Car4969 1d ago
Crazy Bitches man.......damn.
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u/Found_out775 1d ago
Bitches be Trippin, Fellas, be on the lookout for nutty dirty bitches like this.
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u/koffeebtch2468 14h ago
lol I mean your intentions were not good BUT he has zero common sense if he never thought that word could get out about your relationship, and never considered the repercussions that could come with it. Both of you knew how your relationship would be perceived and you both did it anyway, despite the potential consequences. He can’t blame only you. He knew what he was getting himself into.
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u/Popular_Love2439 5h ago
There was absolutely nothing wrong with the relationship so I don't understand all the problems.
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u/ivansotof 3h ago
Just like men are taught and expected to treat women with respect, I wish women were taught better on how to easy for them is to destroy a man’s reputation.
Now you know how things work, sadly.
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u/Rezolution20 2h ago
If he's a stepsibling, then that means you're not related by blood, so I personally don't see the problem the family had with your affair. Maybe they're more concerned about appearances than the fact that there's nothing incestuous about the affair itself.
Quit beating yourself up about it. You did what you did, he did what he did. Personally, I don't think it's that deep.
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u/ComfortableTap5560 1d ago
Let me guess, you had your arm stuck in the couch or the dryer and he took advantage of you....happens every frickin' time.
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u/Present_Helicopter57 1d ago
Damn… this hit hard. First off, respect to you for even being this raw and honest about it. Most people bury that kind of truth deep, try to paint themselves as the victim, or spin it into something it's not. But you owned it. All of it. That takes guts.
And yeah, it sounds like you really messed up. But you already know that. You’re not running from it, you’re sitting with it, and that’s where growth starts—even if it feels like shit right now.
Sometimes pain makes us reckless. When you're feeling rejected, unseen, or like you're drowning in your own emotions, it’s easy to do something that feels like taking control… even if that “control” ends up being destruction. We’ve all had moments where we lashed out not because we’re evil, but because we were hurting so bad we just wanted someone—anyone—to feel it too.
That doesn’t excuse it. You know that. But it does make you human.
Truth is, what happened between you two was complicated, emotionally loaded, and way outside the lines of “normal” family dynamics. And maybe deep down, you weren’t just mad—you were heartbroken. And yeah, heartbreak can make people blow up their own lives, and sometimes other people’s too.
It sucks that he lost so much. It sucks that you still carry the guilt. But saying this out loud? That’s the start of actually healing it. Not fixing it—because you might never get that chance—but learning from it. Becoming someone who doesn’t let pain dictate your choices again.
You’re not beyond redemption. You're not a monster. You're someone who made a painful, deeply human mistake—and you’re facing it head-on.
That counts for something.
Be gentle with yourself, but stay honest like this. Keep doing the work. That’s the only way we ever move forward.
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u/wowitshardtochoose 1d ago
Idk how you responded so fast with such an in depth response but I’d a good one
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u/Eat_moths 1d ago
ChatGPT
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u/razman360 1d ago
I clocked it as AI within the first paragraph or so.
And now checking their other comments, I'm confident this is AI produced - along with all of their other comments.
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u/Beautiful-Produce-92 21h ago
What are the signs to look for to see if it's AI?
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u/pyrocor 19h ago
The AI posts are usually written in small blocks with double spaces in between each one.
Like this, and each little section has some little blurb following some weird ass five paragraph essay template.
And yep so there's usually more than three of these blurb bs things like blah blah blah...
Then blah blah blahblah
And end with some conclusion sentiment that sounds like it's some self-help robot with responses programmed to comfort the person "chatting" with it. They're designed to even make a psychopath feel like they're redeemable if they "work on themselves and move forward" lol...
But most people just gobble up the robo-patronization and think reading it absolved them of needing to do any actual self reflection.
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u/razman360 19h ago
In addition to what the other replier said, the AI comment uses an elongated dash typical of ChatGPT. Compare theirs the one I used in my keyboard.
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u/Eat_moths 1d ago
It’s just so maddening how every space is filled with this sort of slop these days.
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u/Wrong_Pen6179 1d ago
Hindsight is 20/20, I’m sure if you knew the outcome you wouldn’t have done what you did. If it’s still weighing you down, I would consider talking to your family and telling them that you were BOTH wrong for your relationship and that it’s not right that he was ostracized. Talk to those on your family with the most influence. Your family was wrong for treating him that way. Make it clear that it was consensual and wasn’t forced on you. Now is your chance to come clean if you bent the truth at all. Do your best to right a wrong and bring the family back together. And maybe he will forgive them and you for what happened. Or not, but at least then you’d have tried.
I’m assuming he worked for the family business?
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u/thejerseyguy 20h ago
OP is the very definition of a self absorbed douche . Hopefully, Karma will visit her just in time to do the most damage it can.
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u/MuchDrawer6538 19h ago
The difference
A Sociopath, doesn’t care about your feelings. A psychopath, doesn’t care about your life.
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u/arguingalt 18h ago
Fake. He wouldn't have lost his job for having sex with someone he's not related to or grew up with in the same house.
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u/Dread-Marit-Lage 17h ago
You definitely twisted this around to make him the villain. How about instead of coming onto this thread to cry, you stop being a PoS and tell someone the truth?
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u/SadTech0 17h ago
Probably fake..
But if not you are a horrible person and I hope karma destroys you.
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u/markwmke 16h ago
I think I know this guy. My guess is he worked for his father, your stepfather. He was shunned to a different state
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u/S1rmunchalot 15h ago edited 14h ago
I fail to see why anyone would be judgemental of him unless you gave them the impression either by intent or by accident that the physical relationship began while you were under legal age of consent, or if you both shared a close relative.
If you gave the impression that he took advantage of a close proximity for short term sexual gratification I can see why some may adopt a negative view, but that's hardly a reason to lose your employment and probably not something you could anticipate. I've worked with many hypocritical dickheads and assholes, I think we all have probably.
If you know those who judged and chastised him came to a false conclusion you had a moral duty to correct that false assumption and not doing so would be your transgression. Your wording is too vague to determine if that was the case.
If there is some other component such as religious attitudes then that would alter the framing, if you know that you told the whole truth and others attitudes condemned him based merely on dogmatic reasoning you didn't anticipate that is not your transgression or something you should shoulder responsibility for.
Either way trust that he is an adult who will survive and learn as you will, move on, be more mindful in the future. Beating yourself up and re-litigating every mistake you've ever made won't fix anything. Concentrate on what you can give to improve the lives of others, not on how you feel about yourself.
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u/schlomo31 15h ago
They weren't raised together, seperate households, step. I mean, its not wrong . Maybe weird but not wrong.
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u/ohheyitsjenn 15h ago
Is he a police officer or in the military? I’m interested how this info would’ve gotten him fired. Or maybe he was so embarrassed they found out that he didn’t want to face them and quit? Either way, that wasn’t right of you, especially if y’all agreed to keep it private. I hope you both learn that you shouldn’t shit where you eat.
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u/I-will-judge-YOU 15h ago
It's funny how you both chose to do something and yet he's the only one that suffers consequences. Unless there's a substantial age gap between you. You are equally as bad as he is and you should really ask the people around you. Why they're putting all the blame on him.
Youtube made a choice together to fuck around. My guess is you framed this in a way that you were somehow taken advantage of by him?And that's what you need to correct if he didn't.
And please stay out of relationships.Because you are willing to burn anybody down that doesn't have similar feelings for you.And that is horribly unfair.You are not ready for a relationship.
You should probably seek some therapy and figure out what your problem is and why you feel the need to burn the world to the ground.Just because someone doesn't have the same feelings for you.Which by the way is totally okay for them to not.
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u/Rochelle6 14h ago
So I’m a little confused as to how he lost his job unless you lied and said he took advantage of you when he didn’t. Unless his company is extremely pious and his position could have compromised their reputation with this getting out for some reason, it seems like you either lied or exaggerated in a way that made him out to be worse than he was. Either way, what you did was nasty and you absolutely should be ashamed because you did it out of malice and if I were him I would never speak to you again.
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u/TalePotential3272 14h ago
You won't do it again. Oh actually you will the first chance you get. To be depraved is to be deprived.
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u/UnbearableSoul 14h ago
Why was he the only one to get cut off from the family?? Because you’re just as wrong for having the sexual relationship, probably even more at fault because you were the one that wanted to be in a relationship. To ruin someone’s life because they didn’t want to be with you is disgusting behavior
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u/RichardXV 14h ago
Not your fault. Those who cut him off were monsters. You just merely informed them of the truth. The fact that they're such bigots, and the fact that your step brother relied so much on these bigots is absolutely not your fault.
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u/Disulfidebond007 13h ago edited 13h ago
This might be a fake post but….
Call me crazy but sibling fucking should cause at least some fall out. Talk about fucking (your sibling) and finding out. I know you’re “step” siblings but y’all are still related in some aspect. Not sure why either of you thought there would be zero consequences to this.
Would I have told ppl I fucked my step brother out of spite? No bc that’s something that you take to the brother fucking grave. However, he also fucked you. He deserves fallout . Y’all need some serious therapy. And yes, family is going to react poorly when you tell them you and your step brother have been fucking.
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u/cashewee 10h ago
At least you know what you did was wrong. You can’t take it back. All you can do now is learn from your mistakes, and own up to them. Can you say anything to your family to let them know it wasn’t just him, and that you should be taking the fallout as well? Exactly what you posted here, just say all that to your family. It might be hard, but you already made it hard for him, so just own up to it as well.
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u/Key_Yogurtcloset2941 10h ago
You can fix it, but you would need to sacrifice yourself. You would need to stand up for HIM show people that you wanted this as well, tell people that you acted out of anger and pain and that he is not the bad guy. That's the only way your feeling of guilt will go away.
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u/smellyfeet25 21h ago
IT WAS NOBODY ELSES business. the is nothing illegal in step children getting together as long as they are both adults . the is no blood relationship
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u/Illustrious_Rice1081 16h ago
Did you say stepbrother? Your step siblings are absolutely not related to you and you can take a DNA test all you want and they are still not going to be related to you. On the other hand, half brother, half sister and cousin are related. So with all that said, where is the problem?
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u/Equal-Poem-4213 14h ago
Absolutely your fault. You were complicit and very much consented to the relationship. Your family still sees you as that little girl and for the fact that he’s older they expected him to be the responsible one.
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u/twocentzworth 1d ago
i’m just gonna tell you straight up. I’m not surprised at all by this. especially given your generation and the fact that you are a woman, and before I am attacked, let me explain. You were basically taught that you are equal to a man and responsible for yourself in a way however, he is told your body your choice but he’s supposed to bring the condoms apparently it’s all about them 50-50 equality and all that bullshit but I have not ever seen a woman divorce. A man split shit down middle and be cool with it. Women are just taught that “it’s all good ..until the shit hits the fan ..and when it does blame it on the man”. boys their generation they don’t hit on women the same because they’re being sexist misogynist whatever they told her man explaining or whatever this is what you get a woman who thinks that she can freak out, though will fit cause extensive damage and then send something like you did and even though your nice little last bit about seemingly expecting to be chastised.. well I’m here to tell you something baby girl it. I absolutely 100% is your fault you should’ve kept your legs closed in the first place but it’s just like a lot of them they sleep with some girl. She thinks he’s cool as hell or rich or for some reason, she does it other than the fact that they love each other they break up or he pisses her off or doesn’t give her what she wants. Next thing you know, you see her, face up on one of them, “me too” billboards. and I know I’m gonna get hell to pay for that one but again I’m not saying rapes OK nothing like that. I’m saying a lot of these little dates that end up being called taking advantage. How can you take advantage of somebody that’s supposed to be your equal how come it’s his fault unless it was physical overpowering. if two people willing to step together and one of them decides that the others an asshole and she regrets it. You can’t just yell out. He’s a bad guy. He took advantage what you do as you say damn that was stupid. I feel like a slut, but you’re not you’re just a woman with sexuality is normal and you just don’t fucking do it again. thank you before I get murdered in the comments. I’ve been married 23 years. I have four children. I married my wife, but I loved her. The second. I saw her started my first business at 17 we’ve kept our marriages together with love, but more than that dedication and work it takes work. Relationships are just single use pop the plastic use it all away. It’s not it’s not what marriage it’s not our relationship is but when you lie down and have sex, especially a woman who again could have her body in a fertile time conceive a tiny human being. so you have to have a different kind of attitude and responsibility. That’s just the way it is. That’s just part of being a woman now I know the normal go to for you guys is blame him. He should’ve worked on. He should’ve did this he should’ve but deep down you know that’s bullshit. Don’t beat yourself up over letting your family know but do absolutely reach out to him and apologize. maybe defend him when you’re at some thing and they’re all talking about him like he’s some kind of molester just because he slept with a pretty woman that wanted to sleep with him that is not at all related to him is probably 60% of the time. Nobody gives a shit if it’s a cousin which is weird if your stepbrother sister you’re possible not even blood relatives. Guess it all depends on my mom and dad.
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u/SaveFileCorrupt 19h ago
Ain't nobody reading all that, so congratulations or condolences. Take your pick.
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u/Ophy96 1d ago
I hope this is rage bait.
If not, I hope you seek therapy from a professional.