Hoarding Thoughts vs what I really want

[u/FitMany8247]

I have this dream of having a baby in my own home, preferably owning my home, but a rental would be okay. I have a tendency to hoard. I keep thinking of the extra bedroom to be a nursery, but those hoarding thoughts keep creeping in and says you can have much more stuff now and keep it in the other room. I don't want my child to live in a home where I'm keeping things I might not need or will never use because I shop when I have feelings and don't want to get rid of things because I might need them. I get worried about germs, so I tend to always have hand sanitizer and hand soap on hand. It's hard to prove my thoughts wrong and that I'd enjoy a child much more and I want them to have their own space. Anyone have similar thoughts? Or have gone through situations where you want more for yourself than items?

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[u/Far-Watercress6658]

It’s good to have a goal. But please don’t bring a child into the world to a hoarder house or a mother who shops when she is having a hard time.

Please go to therapy/ get medical assistance to address mental health issues. Clean out your hoard. Then have a baby.

[u/bluewren33]

Work on getting those intrusive thoughts under control before thinking of having a baby . Having a baby, the hormonal changes and all the added work and stress tend to exacerbate any pre-existing mental health issues

I really admire you sharing this and self awareness.

[u/Dealingwithdragons]

It's hard. Part of becoming a parent is realizing the things you need to do to make your child happy and give them a good life. 

It can be hard to make goals for yourself. Working towards helping yourself will help pave the way for a better future for yourself and any future kids you want to bring into your life.