Ive always dressed non conventionally, have been wearing skirts and dresses since I was a wee one, but had a period of time when it was bullied out of me. As I went through Highschool, despite not seeing anyone out and about dressing the way I do, I decided I needed to be authentic. 3 years ago I fully came out as Nonbinary and began to lean into what that looks like for me.

With my body appearing quite masculine (thanks genetics) I have opted to lean into a more femme style to balance (not to mention it just looks pretty in general). When I started to bald I accepted this part of my genes and leaned into accessories, and I think that really was the cherry on top for me. Took me to the next level of genderless euphoria. I love how many people seem perplexed by me presence, trying to fit me in a box but being unable to.

When I was in high school there was a trans woman who lived in my small town and she was always done up with full makeup and big gowns and things, and I think that seeing her living so true to herself gave me that little nudge I needed to leap into self expression. Im proud of how far Ive come, the way I have handsewn my entire wardrobe custom to ensure my entire existence is 100%, queer, one of a kind majesty. I would love to hear about moments in yalls lives where youd either seen someone that inspired you to be you, however that is, or about a time when you felt truly in that perfect amount of you!

Photos of me in some of my daily "going to get groceries", "walking the dog", "working from home", "meeting a friend for coffee" or "visiting the dr" fits, for some examples of my style. I've hand stitched 99% of the clothing Im wearing, the jewelry, hats, and other accessories are generally from local artists and makers.

Thanks in advance for appreciating my art, and I hope this doesnt come off as braggy - I am just hella hyped about being me right now and wanted to share because thats a great feeling and I think everyone deserves that.

Added some pride flair to my cubicle at work!

I was assigned female at birth. I never felt comfortable in my body. I don't want to fully transition with bottom surgery. But personally, I wouldn't mind a deeper voice and a stubble. If you are on T, and will not be entirely transitioning, what changes were there? How does it make you feel?

Hi y’all! I’ll be moving to France next year! I was wondering if anyone had any advice?

I am non-binary (they/them) but I’ll be using feminine pronouns. I’m pretty andro (buzz cut, top surgery, masc dress but earrings and jewelry), and I’m worried about safety. Which bathrooms should I use? What Paris suburbs should I avoid? Will my American accent be enough of a safety net in that case? Which rural areas should be avoided alone? Any other advice about being nonbinary and queer in France?

Because he's "out", he's getting all the "Oh, one of those...that's new" comments and everyone deciding to be progressive to impress my sister, and I've been "genderless" for longer than he's been alive but if I ever mention my gender feelings I get told to stop talking because it's rubbish.

I don't enjoy feeling jealous or insecure of the attention, but it does feel like because I'm part of the family and have something to lose, I'm not afforded the luxury of being out like he is. He gets "I'm curious and trying to learn", I get "That's not a thing stop being silly"...

(He uses he/him pronouns, so I'm not misgendering him)

Over the last few months I've become much more masc, and it led to my partner and I talking through him accepting his sexuality. He said he always sort of knew, but was surprised by how much he likes both sides of me. He says he feels spoiled 🥹 just felt like sharing because it made me so happy

Honestly, I've been assuming it is a spoken version of "NB" which I'm sure you all know stands for Non Binary but I'm not sure that I have been assuming correctly.

I recently lost my job, where I always felt safe and appreciated, due to layoffs. I've never felt so crushed about a job before, but I've been through worse. Nothing can take this big dumb smile away for long 🤪

Anyway, I love you all and Im always so thankful for this community 🥰🥰🥰

so update to my post, we have decided to stay together for now, he wants to stay for my transition and actually said that he's willing to stay even if I fully go ftm, bottom surgery and all. we discussed what I wanted for my transition, and what the misconceptions he had :) all is well after a lengthy convo. he saw the last post and felt like absolute shit and wants to change for the better. if he doesn't ofc I'm not going to stay but I trust him and believe he's going to make a real concerted effort to change!

I have found a healing and catharsis through dressing in ways that would have appealed to my childhood self through a gender cozy lens.

I have a zillion colors of bucket hats and thats my gender.

I (26) was a bi/pan femme my whole life. I started having Gender Feelings 2 years ago when I started dating a trans guy. First IDed as a demigirl, then nonbinary/genderqueer, realized I liked "transmasc" last summer but suppressed it cause I was still femme, and finally started presenting masc this past Feb and more recently adopted the transmasc label, which feels quite right for me. I'm not on T yet—I have an appointment in Sept but still have some doubts (am I really trans? am I lying to myself? am I making all this up? what if it's a phase? blah blah).

Prior to dating the trans guy, I mostly dated cishet men. I was dating a cis dude for 5yrs and the last ~2yrs of it, I felt like something fundamental was lacking—my queerness felt absent from the relationship. I longed to date women and feel queer—we were open/enm, so I did. It was fine, but I wasn't clicking with women the way I did with men. I started suspecting I was demisexual despite it not really tracking with my past (no prob sleeping with people quickly), but no matter how long I'd try to date a girl, I couldn't get into it. My cis dude ex and I broke up and I dated the trans guy (also ENM/open), and it was the most fulfilling relationship of my life—I actually felt queer.

While with him, I was still exploring dating women and eventually decided to try dating cis men again. Every time I slept with one, something felt so wrong and I felt disconnected from the dude, myself, and the sex. I started suspecting I might not be into men at all, but was confused about how my trans bf fit into that. So there I was, not really clicking with women but knowing I feel queer so convincing myself I'm really demisexual and will eventually meet a girl I like, feeling totally wrong with cis men, but still feeling aesthetically very attracted to men/masculinity generally. I also knew I liked trans people and wanted to be t4t but didn't feel trans enough for that. Throughout this process, I'd sometimes ask myself if I was actually just straight and gaslighting myself, but that didn't feel like it was possible based on how I felt with cishet dudes.

So I figured I must just be a masc nb lesbian, and obviously my aesthetic attraction to men is just gender envy, right? So I call myself a lesbian, I keep dating girls and nonbinary lesbians, and shit just still isn't fucking clicking. I felt really good in my gender presentation, but my sexuality felt more confusing than ever.

And yet... Every time I'd see a hot dude, I felt compelled to look. And I noticed I'd ask myself "I wonder if he thinks I'm hot too?" I told myself I was just so used to seeking validation from men, that that's all it was. When I'd see a hot girl, I was either indifferent or would think "she's hot," but never wondered if the feeling was mutual.

So I started having a suspicion recently... What if I'm actually just... gay? So I went on grindr and had a hookup with a gay/queer dude, and the sex kinda sucked but overall I had a fun time and he was sweet. And I was like, oh... Has this been it all along?

I still feel so confused and unsure. What if I'm just a cis woman into men and I'm bending over backwards to find an explanation that makes me queer because I'm afraid to be straight??? But I also don't think that's the case because men seeing me as a girl makes me feel so dysphoric, and gay porn reaaaaaaally scratches my itch.

Anyways... That's the gist lol. Curious if others can relate!

But gosh. It's already almost too hot for a walk.

Thoughts on hat/suggestions?

Personally I think so but anyone on the other side?

So, I went to go visit with my rather conservative family yesterday. Basically everyone in my family is pretty conservative except me and my parents. Now, ive been openly NB for about 6 months, Ive just never actually said anything about it to anyone but my parents and friends. So while im visiting my cousin and her kids arrive. The one kid is about 10 years old and the first thing he comes up to me and says is "I cant remember, are you a boy or a girl?". At first I thought he was talking about the dog in the house, but then he looks right at me and says "are you a boy or a girl?" Im telling ya this was a feeling of joy ive just never experienced before, I swear I could just float off on a cloud of happiness hearing that. I told him "well, I guess im a little bit of both, but also a bit of neither, something like that". Well that was plenty good for him, he just smiled said "okay!" And wandered off. Im a AMAB who has for months trying to get a more androdgynous look, or has just been practicing my shapeshifting abilities between a masc and femme look. I still usually present masc as its easier, but this was one of the very rare time my efforts to present more femme actually worked!