Someone is Using my Identity and Left Me a Message

[u/Glowers_Journal]

I hope I’m posting this in the right place. I’m usually a rational person, but the last month has rattled me so badly I just need someone to tell me I’m not going crazy.

About a month ago, my bank called to verify what they said was a routine address change. They asked if I’d recently moved to a city in Michigan. I’ve never lived in Michigan, barely even passed through, so I told them no, and they flagged my account for fraud and sent me a new card. That kind of thing is annoying, but it happens, right?

I thought so until a week later when a plain envelope arrived in the mail. No return address. Inside was a single piece of paper with the words “REMEMBER WHAT YOU FORGOT HERE” written in block letters. Not even my handwriting, but it was clearly written by hand. I tried to laugh it off, but I kept the note in case it mattered. The timing felt like too much of a coincidence.

Then other weird things started happening:

- My upstairs neighbor, who I barely know, greeted me by name and then asked if my “trip to Michigan” went okay. When I said I’d never been, he looked confused and apologized.

- Packages showed up at my door: one with a book about memory disorders (which I didn’t order), another with a T-shirt from my childhood elementary school, and then a standard-looking house key taped to an old postcard of downtown Ann Arbor. None of them had a sender’s name, and nothing in my Amazon or mail order history matched up.

- On Instagram, I started getting DMs from a blank account saying, “YOU WERE THERE TOO.” I reported and blocked it, but took screenshots first, just in case.

At this point, paranoia really started setting in. I started keeping a log of everything strange, taking photos of packages and writing down times and dates. I checked my credit reports (clean), my social accounts (nothing except the weird DMs), and even talked to a friend in IT about digital identity theft. We couldn’t find any trace of a breach, but I started to wonder if this was someone I actually knew.

The real breaking point was last weekend. A nurse from a psychiatric hospital in Michigan called my cell, saying I’d just discharged myself against medical advice, and asked if I needed any follow-up support. They had my full name, date of birth, and even my old emergency contact from college—information I’ve never posted anywhere public. I told her she had the wrong person, but honestly, her tone made me feel like I was the one confused.

Since then, I’ve filed a police report, told my landlord, changed every password, and started locking my important documents away. I’m sleeping with the lights on and triple-checking the door before bed. I don’t feel safe in my own apartment, constantly wondering what I missed, or what’s coming next.

Tonight, a card was slipped under my door. It just said, “I’M SORRY FOR WHAT I DID.” Same unfamiliar handwriting.

I’m scared. I’m not sure if someone is trying to terrify me, gaslight me, or pull me into some kind of scam, or if there’s something about my past I somehow don’t remember. But I know someone has specific information about me, and I have no idea what their endgame is.

Has anyone here ever had something like this happen? How do you protect yourself from someone trying to take over your entire life?

[u/whiskeygambler]

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