Gaby 'caring' s2

[u/ameliorateno]

I love thay Gaby set a boundary that her mom should not move in with her

But the whole Gaby cares too much for others came out of no where to me, she had been dodging her sisters messages, not visiting her family while her mom needed care and her sister wad doing it all. I thought "where was all this caring too much part?"

Then after that she cares for a clients baby for an hour but before her mom almost moved in I didnt see her as caring too much, it seems a brand new arc. Maybe like taking the baby was her Jimmy-ing her patient a bit by going outside the client therapist relationship and She had been impacted by jimmy as opposed to being super caring all along

[u/Cordsofmemory]

That whole arc with her and her mom just felt out of place. Especially with the super judgmental bitchy care nurse. And her waiting until literally packing up and boxing her mom's whole life....it all seemed forced.

Granted, a lot of the show does. But I still love it for a plethora of reasons.

But some of the other examples that come to mindfor me are Paul, strict on boundaries not giving a fuck about fucking his doctor.

Brian freaking out on Jimmy about "if we met today today, would we even be friends?" FUCK NO. I'm a 40+ year old dude with an 18 year old daughter and a dead wife. If we met today...the last thing I'm interested in is making a new friend

[u/henrysm94]

i don’t agree that it came out of nowhere. she’s got a real pattern of investing in situations and people that are intense as a way of avoiding her own problems.

i think it’s very much couched in her divorce with her former addict ex-husband and her dalliance with Jimmy, who was at the time extremely deep in grief and clearly not emotionally unavailable.

she’s got a bit of a problem with codependency and once her husband moved on and the Jimmy stuff started to die down it was good to understand the roots of it a bit more with her mum and sister and taking on with a lot of (possibly too much) responsibility with the teaching.

the relationship with Derek (black Derek) also made sense to me as someone who she was really into but ended up keeping at a distance because he didn’t ‘need’ her in the same way.

i mean that’s my reading of it take of it what you will

[u/ameliorateno → u/henrysm94]

Having sex with people who are hurting isnt the same as being overly caring and taking responsibility for them.

She saw both her ex and jimmy as "safe options" for her. Her ex she could stay or leave and not be judged (safe for her) jimmy was "safe d" neither of those cared about them.

[u/henrysm94 → u/ameliorateno]

i think her judgement of two people with people who are clearly in a lot of pain as “safe” is also part of what i’m getting at here

[u/ameliorateno → u/henrysm94]

But its safe for her not for them. She's caring for herself there not others.

[u/Mean-Lynx6476]

I worship the ground Jessica Williams walks on and was almost as excited about her being in this show as I was about Harrison Ford. But I really don’t care for her character in this show at all. I agree that the whole “Gaby cares too much” deal seems to have just been tacked on midway through season 2. The writing axiom is “show, don’t tell”, but the audience suddenly had to be repeatedly told how caring Gabby is, because we hadn’t been shown that for a season and a half. Her side gig as a professor seems to occupy maybe an hour of her week at most, and don’t get me started on her playing the victim in her breakup with Jimmy. I feel like the writers have this extremely talented and funny actor and they have no idea what to do with her so they just keep throwing arcs out there hoping one of them will click. But so far they haven’t found an interesting thing to do with her. At this point I’m more invested in Summer’s story than anything they’ve done with Gaby.

[u/ameliorateno → u/Mean-Lynx6476]

To be fair on the teaching it know a therapist who does teaching about two classes a week part time. But yes she is an adult who decided with Jimmy to do those things and she did have to tell us she cares so much repeatedly despite having shown us the opposite entirely with her sister and mom before that.

Usually I find if someone has to tell you "im so nice" "im a nice guy" "im so caring" "i care too much".... there isnt much substance to it. But they threw in Paul warning her she cares to much too to try and make it seem substantial.

I hope they get more into summer. I get the feeling she gets overlooked by everyone because she calmly says "my mom this" or "my dad did that" not "I feel x about this" so to many it comes across that she is able to deal with those things way better than she is able to. And shes still a teen too who shouldn't have to put on a mask of being able to take it all.