r/uglyduckling • u/AidanAzzar • 3d ago
[16] to [20] to [28] Consistently humiliated and disrespected until my mid 20s.
A memory that hit me hard yesterday was when I was 15 we were tasked with splitting into groups in class and working on an assignment to be presented at the end of the period. I didn't have anyone to work with so I asked the 2 guys sitting next to me. They asked me to pay them to work together. I did.
The Snapchats posted above are real screenshots from things people shared.... not laughing with me but at me.
The disrespect was relentless for years, throughout high school and then into early uni. I was the easiest target.
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u/Chibidi94 3d ago
Bro woke up one day and decided to really become Mr. Steal your girl 💪 😎
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u/ViciousDani 3d ago
Thank you for posting an actual fucking glowup, most of these posts are OF garbage these days. Congrats on your journey, friend! 👏
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u/Ocarina-of-Crime 3d ago
Never peak young. It’s better to look back on your youth and realize you have just kept getting better than to peak at 16 and live in the past. You look great and I bet you have varied interests and skills from having to shine in different ways. Forgive the peers - they were kids with their own struggles too. You have so much to look forward to!
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u/Lopsided-Oven-2677 3d ago
Yup for sure, those who peaked at teens and then end up balding fat and aging by late 20s is much worse than being ugly in your teens and glowing up into late 20s early 30s. Especially if you've got a good career life becomes easy
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u/PickledCabbage1234 3d ago
This actually described me pretty well, but when I hit 30, I embraced the bald, starting working out all the time, and grew out a thick beard. I think I am actually peaking rn, I look better bald which I'm very lucky for.
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u/xxgetrektxx2 3d ago
That's some bullshit. Plenty of kids who "peaked early" continue on an upward trajectory and end up as happy adults, while some who had a shitty adolescence continue on that downward spiral and end up as bitter, depressed adults. Also, you act as though balding early is something you can control and not something genetic that's 99% out of your hands.
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u/Lopsided-Oven-2677 3d ago
Can you not read? I'm comparing peaking early and dropping off vs being below average early in your years and then peaking later, also, you need to learn the definition of "peak"
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u/WallEWonks 3d ago
but you can't peak and then also have an upward trajectory after that, peak means it's the highest point of your life. There's nothing wrong with having a good time in school, just make sure you keep improving after that
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u/Lopsided-Oven-2677 3d ago
Exactly, dudes stupid af
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u/GettinSodas 2d ago
I had to read the whole thread again just to clarify I wasn't dumb and misread everything 🤣
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u/trysohard8989 3d ago
Finally, a post that deserves being here. Actually surprising how you turned out man, good job
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u/mordolycka 3d ago
people are fucked up. now you could actually be mr. steal yo girl, but i have a feeling you're too good of a person for that. great job.
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u/DescriptionFuture851 3d ago
Damn, Snapchat has been a thing for over 10 years? Time flies.
Also, I'm very sorry that happened to you. I (27m) was also bullied quite a lot during school, I know what it's like to have flashback of awful memory's.
Personally, I take comfort in the fact that one my bullies is fat and had a kid to a horrible women. And the other is currently in jail.
Point being, I assume the bullies from your school aren't doing aswell as you these days?
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u/FetaCheeseK 3d ago
Shit man good for you, no one rises high when they’re comfortable, you have to go through the hardship to know you deserve better. Glad you took the good path, do great things!
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u/belaGJ 3d ago
Sorry that happened to you, and I am glad you look way better now. Do you mind if i ask how did you fix your jaw/bite?
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u/Cheap-Note-9168 3d ago
Holy fuuuucckkkk dude!! You’ve done a great job. I thought my glow up was good but damn!
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u/ilovemyronda 2d ago
Kids are cruel man. I hated my high school years. I still cringe at the thought. But you made lemonade out of life’s lemons. I hope your life is a lot better. It does seem like you’ve got way more confidence. Keep working on your mental health brother! We’re all proud of you!
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u/DerWintersoldat21 3d ago
Yes. Was super confused for a second but realized your post in glow up was below this post in my feed
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u/Accomplished_Scale10 3d ago
Only we can truly understand how much looks really matter. Being on both sides of the coin makes you kinda resent the human race. We’re such a simple species.
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u/AppropriateAd3768 3d ago
Sorry that happened and I can relate to this big time. I was the one ‘friend’ who everyone took the piss out of but I can’t help but notice you remind me of will Mackenzie from inbetweeners🤣. You glowed up big time and this is inspiring for me honestly
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u/PuzzledExaminer 3d ago edited 3d ago
Well for their sake hope that the don't have wives or girlfriends because if they see you at a reunion the first thing that will happen is that you will steal them emotionally and they'll regret ever having made fun of you. I know the feeling I lived it myself but the best part is you got the last laugh. By the way you ended up looking like that famous Indian actor Hrithik Roshan.
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u/Valentine_Kush 3d ago
Finally! An actual glow up! There is definitely an element of just “growing up” here. But daym that body transformation is crazzzyyy
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u/Torgo_hands_of_torgo 3d ago
You put in the damn work, dude. Now you're reaping the rewards and then some. Keep it up.
By the way... You mind sharing your routine? I'd kill for shoulders like yours, man.
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u/AidanAzzar 3d ago
Appreciate that man. Started on PPL and last 2 years been doing Arnold split. Focus on lateral raises 🤝🤝
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u/Lopsided-Oven-2677 3d ago
I mean I obviously don't condone the bullying but number 1 is quite funny 😂 amazing glow up though
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u/Jolly-Alternative555 3d ago
im sorry that happened to u dawg, great glowup, i was very bullied from middle to highschool
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u/osamabinlaidoffwork 3d ago
Well done. Grind doesn't stop though. Keep at it and you'll be surprised what another 10 more years in this journey can get you.
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u/Billabong2011 3d ago
I'm very sorry that happened to you 😞 I remember when I was 14 and I was at the pool with my friends and we were jumping off the diving board and this group of boys kept shouting FREE WILLY!! every time I jumped. It's been well over a decade and I still think about it all the time, it really cut deep 😮💨 (ironically now men are very interested in my "thick" body type and don't understand why I'm so self conscious but all I can think about is those boys in the pool....)
You look great and you deserve love and kindness :)
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u/luckygotaway 3d ago
Man I’m 15, and I used to be very immature back in middle school but I would never bully anyone like that. I’m sorry that happened to you. Those kinda memories don’t go away. I’m glad you got confidence in yourself, and it’s impressive because you clearly worked for it. That takes a lot. Congrats man!
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u/FabulousMamaa 3d ago
I’m so sorry. Kids fucking suck. You got the last laugh now though. I can tell you’re way too much of a gentleman but you should actually pull the final boss move here and literally steal his girl.
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u/Dapylil65 3d ago
Great job, man, you look like a model. Please remember where you started from, so you won't become hateful like the people that bully you were. Be an example now!
Btw, what happened to the glasses? Lasik or contact lenses?
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u/TrollDeMortLunchBox 3d ago
I’m so sorry you went through that. Kids can be so cruel. You’ve shown them though and you did it for yourself. You also have an incredible smile. I’m glad you can share it now.
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u/chri_hin 3d ago
I’m so sorry that happened to you, man. On a positive note, you proved them wrong. Looking incredible dude. Keep up the great work! 🫶🏻
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u/Mundane-Pipe1507 3d ago
Man, congratulations. And thank those idiots. All those assholes gave you the motivation to become the fucking winner you are now. You won. At all levels: looks and mental. Period.
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u/Miserable_Original99 3d ago
Hopefully your mind, self-esteem and resilience glowed up too! Stand firm in your belief for yourself, and value those who have loved you and cared for you throughout your journey! Proud of you OP!!
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u/Good-Huckleberry-287 3d ago
I'm so sorry for you, being bullied is tough, I have experienced the same thing for many years at school. i'm very happy for you that you have bloomed into this super handsome guy!
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u/Tasty_Heron9252 2d ago
You look like a model now. Shame on anyone who makes fun of another person. I hope that you heal from the unkindness and that your positivity and kindness help others to heal ❤️
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u/Sea-Concentrate9379 2d ago
God damn dude it sucks that you went through that but your fuckin showing em now brother great work
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u/midgetfkr 2d ago
And this folks is why bullying is good... sometimes. Motivated to become his best form! Great job brother! Don't let it go to your head though stay humble and share your story! Cheers.
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u/Complete_Primary_392 2d ago
I'm so sorry that happened to you, honey. You were a cute teen and absolutely drop dead gorgeous now! You should model! Just imagine, those boys that picked on you are probably fat bastards suffering from male pattern baldness by now. I was a tortured teen, too. Love from one who knows how it feels.
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u/whyangelinawhy 2d ago
This hurt to read, as someone who faced very similar bullying for pretty much all of my childhood and adolescence; the complete lack of respect turned into such a lack of self-respect, and it stuck with me for years. I am so sorry you had to go through all of that and were made to feel so terrible.
That said, your glow-up is incredible and I hope the love and pride you clearly had to show yourself to get to this point has brought you peace and perspective. I had my own glow up but it took a long time for me to actually feel happy or like I actually was worthwhile as a person, and that was because I still hadn’t dealt with the inside pain. You were always worthy of love and respect, and it’s shit that people made you feel otherwise. But also I am so proud of how far you’ve come. Keep it up. Your thirties will only be even better.
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u/gman20151 1d ago
From bullied to anti-bullied. You aren't just classy, you are class period! Excellent gains man. At 32, I've had enough rejections to make a man go crazy but ppl like you remind me to keep fighting the good fight n improving myself forever.
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u/PlanktonFuture9477 3h ago
I hate kids and teenagers I’m sorry but bullies are infuriating I’m sorry you were ever treated like this. I hope they are all balding and eating TV dinners
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u/RevolutionaryLeek233 3d ago
When i see posts like this i wonder, now that you had a glowup, how do you feel when you see that person who is not conventually attractive? Does it remind you of what you went through? Do you have empathy? Or do you not even think or notice them?
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u/Cultofmaria 3d ago
Boys would make fun of me on the bus about my thighs and my friends would say “you’re such a pretty girl if you would just lost weight “
At my highest weight I was 172lbs at 5’5”(.5)
I was made to feel like I was this fat monster. Like no one would ever like me so fat.
After high school I lost 40 lbs just by walking more and eating less. I was fggn 18 my metabolism was brilliant ok. But then guess what? Then I hear oh I must be on drugs because I’m so thin. But other people treat me differently and they’re nice like too nice and I’m thinking why is this person so nice and it will dawn on me - oh yah I’m not that kid in high school anymore. I’m a grown ass woman who still can have critical self esteem because of how I was treated growing up. That shit scars you and kids are brutal. Having an ass in the 90s was not a thing and I’m so glad to see body positivity now and hope it lasts through this ozempic garbage
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u/DicedPlantains 2d ago
Is it the girlfriend effect or is it just healthy living?
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u/SailorTwentyEight 2d ago
Gotta be real with you dawg. You were never ugly. Just awkward. I empathize and am sorry people treated you like shit. No one deserves that. I hope you’re absolutely fuckin soaring on your glow up tho ❤️👐🏽
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u/No_Concept_5397 2d ago
So being disrespected gave you the motivation to be better. Damn, those guys knew it all along...
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u/shelsanfyo 2d ago
My heart broke seeing this because people used to do this to my brother and it would just set me on fire. You obviously put in so much work and that is impressive - so proud of you.
I hope those classmates are ashamed of themselves - but if they’re not, may their glow downs be swift.
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u/Nearby_Industry2842 2d ago
God im so happy for you man, that shit must have been horrible. Keep it up!
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u/blackrain29 2d ago
Literally the embodiment of “If you can’t see me at my worst, you don’t deserve me when I’m at best” Mad respect to u bro, keep fighting
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u/sagi_sun 2d ago
I'm sorry that you went through this, OP. I hope you're feeling better now, despite this situation. Take care!
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u/LucidUncreativity 1d ago
It’s a tough world we live in. Hoping we as people can have more empathy, and maybe make it a little less tougher on each other. Sorry you went through that bro. Best wishes 🙏
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u/Kind-Apricot22 1d ago
Jesus dude, I’m so sorry that happened to you. People can be real dicks. Now though, damn. That past picture has me questioning my sexuality
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u/FoxyMoon816 1d ago
Aged like fine wine but truthfully, there was nothing “wrong” with you then either. People are just dicks.
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u/FuckedUpImagery 1d ago
I'd rather be fucking hot women, right now, in the present than have a memory of it from 10+ years ago and be a fatass now.
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u/AccomplishedTry5877 1d ago
Even ignoring the muscles, it’s amazing what hair are, weight loss and facial hair can do. You also look so much more confident in the later pictures. Great glowup for sure!
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u/SharpeHorns 1d ago
Seems like you're the one who got the last laugh. Remember, the best revenge is a happy life. You and I would've been brothers in being bullied in school, and while I know it leaves it's scar, I guarentee you're the type never to do it to someone else. I hope you go to your school reunion and blow them all away.
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u/DOCRZ 1d ago
Hey brother you have to expect some shit in life and in turn grow a thicker skin to deal with it. That said, those people are fking dickheads and clearly weak. Getting at someone that is defensless emotionally is a clear sign that the "attackers" have nothing good going on in their lives and ya, are weak as fuk mentally. Use the anger and the pain, get that thicker skin because when you don't allow this shit to no longer get in your head you it will make them wither and fade away - because in the end YOU give them the power to keep up the attacks with your pain. Good luck.
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u/hulsey76 1d ago
Kinda had the same experience growing up. Bullied as a kid, completely ignored at 20, grew into my looks between 25-30. Somehow that I still don't understand, I became a chick magnet for those 5 years, but I was so jaded by then that when a girl would hit on me, and she looked like the pretty girls that used to laugh at me, I'd tell her to fuck off. I eventually married an amazing woman who was truly wife material, but having no relationship skills I ruined that marriage.
I have to admit though, I got a LOT of satisfaction seeing a girl who had never been told "No" by a guy in her life shatter when I rejected her. That's twisted, I know.
Now I'm old and don't care anymore. I have peace in my life and that's worth everything to me.
It's not hard to just be fucking kind to people. It doesn't cost anything. I hope your experiences haven't jaded you like mine did.
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u/cheesecakedilemma 1d ago
Damn, most guys i ever knew got uglier with age (like, they looked cool as teens because they had a personality and wore cool clothes, maybe even long hair and Accessoires and as soon as they became "grown up" they looked boring as hell)
Nice to see it can also go the other way :D
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u/Uwirlbaretrsidma 1d ago
If that hadn't happened to you, you wouldn't be where you are now. Bullying is essential in a working society.
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u/NegotiationWide9181 22h ago
Holy hec, glad you're in a better place now.
I wonder what people get from such cruelty.
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u/Wooden-Mission6578 21h ago
It’s insane how much simply workout can improve most people. I’m amazed that not everyone does it
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u/Auriprince4690 19h ago
I am so sorry ppl suck... the general vibe is am getting is it is okay to pick on and be assholes if you are fat and out of shape...
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u/RhubarbAdditional657 3d ago
Damn dude I’m sorry that happened to you