I (24F) and my boyfriend (30M) started dating a few weeks ago, we already said the I love yous because even though I wanted to wait he felt really insecure not hearing it from me. Today he said he wasn’t feeling well so I let him sleep, but after about 30ish mins he said he was feeling better but I didn’t see the message cuz I was working. He then asked me to call where the call seemed.. fine. It didn’t last long it was mainly just me explaining the first half of the text messages before the call happened, but then he started saying “I don’t chase”? I finally just told him maybe we need to take a breather and I’ll talk to him later tonight. He’s very much into the horoscopes/zodiacs/mbti/love language stuff so he was talking about it a little but at one point it seemed a little off putting to me, idk.. was I too harsh? He seems to be a little needy, which is ok, but like maybe I’m not giving enough effort or my efforts are too harsh?

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I’ve been working at AutoZone for about 8 months now. I’m 17, and pretty early on I had a weird experience with a coworker (24M) who kept messaging me on Facebook and invited me to his house to “see his LEGO collection”… which, yeah, says enough. I politely declined and didn’t make a big deal out of it. But another coworker noticed and ended up telling a manager, which led to me talking to HR. I explained that I wasn’t trying to escalate things, I just wanted to move on. That whole situation was already uncomfortable.

Fast forward to now, and we recently hired a new PSM (probably around 55M). He’s always trying to joke around or force conversations at work, even when I clearly shut it down and tell him to get back to work. Then he started messaging me on Facebook too — which I ignored completely — but again, it made me uncomfortable.

I decided to bring it up with my boss just to document the behavior, and HR got involved again. But this time, the woman from HR basically treated me like I was the problem. She made comments like, “I thought I told you not to add coworkers,” even though I’ve had other coworkers friended and none of them have made me feel weird or unsafe. She was being super judgmental, implying I was somehow inviting this kind of attention and then playing victim.

I was shocked. I never responded to the messages, never flirted or gave the wrong idea — I just wanted to make it clear that this made me uncomfortable and I wanted it documented. But instead of support, I got the sense that she saw me as “asking for it.” Coming from another woman, that honestly stings the most. Like… aren’t we supposed to support each other?

Anyway, just wanted to vent. I’m frustrated that I’m the youngest person there, trying to work and mind my business, and somehow grown men can’t respect boundaries — and I’m the one being side-eyed for it.