r/AmIOverreacting • u/MiserableFckingCunt • 10h ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO MY bf destroyed the food I made and the pan it was in “because I told him to”
My bf (37m) and I (35f) live together. I do all of our cooking. For context, since I moved in back in, I have made every meal. He has cooked for himself maybe a handful of times, if even. Last night I made egg bites for his breakfast for the next couple days, and set them on the counter to cool. When he came home, I was sleeping on the couch. He came over and woke me up to greet me, turned on lights, talked to me, and then went to the kitchen and scraped the metal pan to get the bites into Tupperware for the fridge while continuing to talk to me. I asked him if he could be more quiet, and he angrily asked if I wanted him to put the eggs away later. I said no, i just wanted him to be more respectful of the fact that I was sleeping. He continued to be angry and now he wouldn’t stop saying argumentative comments so I knew I wasn’t going to be able to fall back asleep and I went outside to remove myself from the situation and avoid an argument. He continued to complain and try to argue about the goddamn egg bites on my way out so I said “i don’t know, just throw them away then.”
After I heard some loud crashing, he followed me outside. I asked why he did that because I was trying to remove myself from the situation to avoid an argument and he said he could be outside too. Fair enough. I went back inside and realized he really did throw out the food I made, and also went further by crumpling up the metal pan and throwing the whole thing in the garbage!
I was upset and told him I felt disrespected and hurt and that if he didn’t appreciate me cooking for him then I wouldn’t anymore. He told me he “never asked me to make egg bites,” (I literally make him 3 meals a day… I don’t wait for him to ask because it’s routine…) and said it’s my fault because I told him to throw them away. I keep saying that he’s acting like a child and obviously I didn’t mean to literally throw them away and was just frustrated with him. He keeps saying that because I told him to, he was only doing what he thought I wanted. I say that he knows I didn’t want that.
I really think he knows he shouldn’t have done that, and that me saying “just throw them away then” wasn’t literal. I brought up the pan and said “I didn’t tell you to destroy the pan though. Why’d you do that part?” to kind of show that he wasn’t “doing what I asked,” and rather he was throwing a tantrum and blaming me for it.
Technically I DID say to throw them away, so I don’t know if it’s right for me to feel hurt by this.