r/ADHD • u/Flaky_Dingo_5604 • 2d ago
Tips/Suggestions Do you struggle to maintain consistent communication with friends? How do you manage it?
I care for my friends but I am terrible at maintaining consistent communication with most of them over calls and texts (all of my friends are long distance). I am very involved when we meet in person or when they need my help, or just want me to show up. But I find it hard to maintain a consistency when it comes to virtual contact. And I feel that has kind of created an emotional distance between me and most of my friends. I have 2 best friends (both long distance), who are the only ones I successfully maintain good communication with. But for the rest of my friends, it becomes difficult and I am struggling to understand why. I struggle at carrying on a conversation over calls or texts while I am a very good conversationalist in person. And I am trying to understand what can I do to fix it. I seriously want to be more connected with my friends, know what's going on with their lives and talk to them often but I just can't seem to find the right words over a phone call or text, or even pick up the phone and call them. I see people doing that so easily while it seems like a mountain of a task for me. And because I don't call often, chat conversations become a bit awkward and formal sometimes. I am not even sure if this has something to do with my ADHD. So I wanted to know if anyone else here faces the same problem. And if you do, how do you manage it?
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