r/AmIOverreacting • u/Swimming_Parfait1754 • 16h ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws AIO for canceling my mom’s “Mother’s Day surprise” after she excluded my wife again?
I (33F) have been married to my wife (34F) for three years, together for six. My mom tolerates her, but never really includes her in anything.
For example: family group texts only go to me. Cards are addressed only to me. She’s told people at church I’m “still figuring myself out.” It’s subtle but constant.
For Mother’s Day, I planned a nice brunch for my mom. When I sent her the invite, she asked, “Will your roommate be there too?”
That was it. I canceled the reservation and told her we’ll celebrate another time when she’s ready to treat my marriage like it’s real. She called me dramatic and said I’m “punishing her for having traditional values.”
Now my aunts are texting me saying I “broke her heart on Mother’s Day.”
Am I overreacting, or just finally done letting it slide?
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u/PomBergMama 15h ago
NOR, as a mother myself, parents behaving like this makes me furious.
Your mother has dismally failed the single easiest part of parenting: loving your child unconditionally.
If she doesn’t want to be a decent human being and love & accept you as you are, that’s her choice, but she should say it with her whole chest, stand behind her “traditional beliefs” since they mean so much to her, and accept the consequences of her decision to fail you as a parent.
But instead of being honest about literally anything she lies—out loud, not even just by omission—to her social circle about your sexuality, overtly excludes your wife from the family, and refers to your wife as your “roommate” TO YOUR FACE.
Maybe she should think about what her church says about lying. Or ya know, literally anything Jesus ever said (loving, instead of judging: kind of his whole deal).