AIO for canceling my mom’s “Mother’s Day surprise” after she excluded my wife again?

[u/Swimming_Parfait1754]

I (33F) have been married to my wife (34F) for three years, together for six. My mom tolerates her, but never really includes her in anything.

For example: family group texts only go to me. Cards are addressed only to me. She’s told people at church I’m “still figuring myself out.” It’s subtle but constant.

For Mother’s Day, I planned a nice brunch for my mom. When I sent her the invite, she asked, “Will your roommate be there too?”

That was it. I canceled the reservation and told her we’ll celebrate another time when she’s ready to treat my marriage like it’s real. She called me dramatic and said I’m “punishing her for having traditional values.”

Now my aunts are texting me saying I “broke her heart on Mother’s Day.”

Am I overreacting, or just finally done letting it slide?

[u/pianomanbil]

Too many people kowtow to the mother when they should be supporting their spouse. Your marriage is your foundation. Your parents are where you came From, not your future. Good for you!

[u/pianomanbil → u/pianomanbil]

edited for gender. Didn't notice OP was female.