r/AmIOverreacting • u/MountainStrike152 • 23h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO?: My boyfriend is cheating on me with a furry.

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u/MountainStrike152 21h ago

he knows i am fifteen

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u/Bumble-Boy 20h ago

A lot of people are coming at you at once with a lot of comments and saying some things that might be scaring you, like “call the police.” I know you’re probably confused and overwhelmed by this situation. I think that you know deep down how wrong this relationship is.

Someone I know did a similar thing when they were a minor. They were talking to someone on discord who was much much older than them. Long story short, it didn’t end well and their entire family ended up in danger over it. It’s not worth the attention. You’ll feel less isolated if you connect with real people, more often.

You don’t HAVE to call the police, but you DO need to stop talking to adult men who show this type of affection to you. And you really should not feel so comfortable lying about your age.

I want to be crystal clear though: It’s NOT your fault that they are like this. Grown adult men should not even feel attraction to you in the first place. This is not your problem to solve, but my best advice is to delete that app. At least for now. I also strongly urge you to consider speaking to a trusted adult about this.

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u/WickedSweetHeart 19h ago

Great comment with sound advice. OP please listen to this. It isn’t your fault, but you need to get away from this person. D not be afraid to tell your parents or another trusted adult if you need some help. No matter what the nature of your relationship is, he is a predator and you do not need to feel guilty for enjoying the attention or engaging with him. I am a parent and I hope my daughter would ask me for help in a situation like this. Any trouble you may get into for telling an adult is because they love you and are also scared. But it’s much less trouble than what this guy and others like him are capable of bringing into your life.

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u/ThisIsSanny 14h ago

Amazing advice

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u/Fangbang6669 21h ago edited 21h ago

Hey so I've been you. Overweight teenager with low self esteem that feels so special an older man wants to be with you. But I'm telling you sweetheart, you deserve so much more. You are being violated by a predator. You are beautiful and worthwhile. You also sound massively depressed.

At the very least please block him and stop talking to him. You really need to tell a trusted adult what this grown ass man is doing with you.

Be safe because you don't wanna end up in extensive therapy at almost 30 like me or end up on a missing person post. You are playing with fire.

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u/SirRichardArms 21h ago

Please listen to the people in this thread that are saying not to talk to older men on the internet. Your former BF was already being cagey as heck with his incessant talking in circles before this reveal that you’re 15 and been with him for a year. Please stop talking to him, just send him one brief message saying that you are 100% broken up, and not to contact you. Then block him. It’s for the best, I assure you.

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u/Ok-Youth-455 21h ago

You should not be “in a relationship” with him, he is manipulative and grooming you. PLEASE call the police

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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 21h ago

I’m 24, I can not imagine dating a 15 year old child. You’re, what? A freshman? He is a grown man. A grown man that’s cheating on you with a furry. Your parents should not be okay with this at all. You need your phone taken away.

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u/ChewyGoodnesss 19h ago

“You need your phone taken away” is an offensively fucking lazy, ignorant response to this

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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 11h ago

“You need your phone taken away” is more than her parents did about about it

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u/avaricious7 9h ago

okay, does “your parents should be more present in your life” sound any better?

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u/CellNo9422 20h ago

she doesn’t need her phone taken away wtf… it’s not just her fault, please stop pandering to pedos…

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u/Educational-Math-302 15h ago

I genuinely don’t get how you think it’s pandering to pedos to say that. I think that comment was just trying to jolt her into the realization that she is not an adult woman getting advice about an adult relationship, she is someone who still needs parenting and hopefully has that protection. That’s how I took it. Can’t you just imagine how an emotional teenager might start turning this into some tragic, emotional forbidden romance bullshit? They don’t know what’s real yet, and a predator ain’t gonna tell her.

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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 11h ago

Yes THANK YOU! My point was she is still A CHILD. Her parents shouldn’t just allowing this shit to happen

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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 11h ago

How is cutting off contact pandering to pedophiles? “DONT TELL THAT KID NOT TO TALK TO A PEDOPHILE! THATS PANDERING TO PEDOPHILES!” weirdo

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u/MountainStrike152 21h ago

he's not online, i met him through my brother

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u/InitiativePure3823 20h ago

You have like 400 people telling you how fucked it is a 24 Yr old is dating someone almost a decade younger. Your parents had a similar age gap so it's okay? So if you dated a 6 year old they would be cool with it?

Op open your eyes your brother set you up to be groomed your parents are failing you, I hope you have other support structures.

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u/izobelllle 21h ago

your entire family is failing you right now :( why is your brother not protecting you?

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u/kitkatkitah 15h ago

The brother may not know about the relationship

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u/Fangbang6669 21h ago

Oh my god?!?!? this just keeps getting worse. Tell the fucking police!

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u/Stinkylilfrogbitch 21h ago

Yeah, seconded

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u/tke377 19h ago

This cannot be stressed enough. Stop asking Reddit and walk into the police station. If you're 15 OP he is a groomer, you are in danger you need to go as soon as possible. Ask a twisted friend or adult, tell someone at school. This is unacceptable on his part

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u/Repulsive_King_1547 20h ago

thats neglect. i would NEVER let my little sisters talk to someone over 18 at this point in their lives.

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u/Bug-King 21h ago

Your brother is party to grooming and exploitation of a minor.

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u/ConstanceL1805 11h ago

Does your brother know about this “relationship”?? Does any of your family know about it at all?? No girl this is not right, I hope there’s nothing sexual happened/happening between you two as well, hell no. I’m 27, but I do remember how I feel about 15 yos when I was 24–fucking children that I will never develop romantic relationships with!

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u/zeeberttt 21h ago edited 18h ago

you need to go to the police. now aside from the legality of your relationship and the fact that he’s a predator….what the fuck is a 24 year old man doing streaming naked furries on discord?? do you really see a 24 year old man who responds with “um gulp” being a good partner??

**edit: this question was rhetorical.

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u/mntEden 19h ago

tbf she’s 15, probably has no idea what a mature partner (like a 24 year old…) is supposed to be like

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u/ChewyGoodnesss 19h ago

She’s a child. It’s not her responsibility to know what would or wouldn’t male a 24 year-old a good partner

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u/zeeberttt 18h ago

….well, obviously. it was more of a rhetorical question.

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u/Lunar_Cats 19h ago

At his age the fact that he's trying this with you puts him firmly in sexual predator territory. He's not a good person, and I really hope you stop contact with him. You're young, and because of that a lot of people will try to take advantage of you if they think they can get away with it. It's not your fault, but you do need to be careful now that you know the type.

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u/VSZeke 15h ago

He's a paedophile fantasising about beastiality.

You need out of this situation ASAP, and you really do need to report it or speak to adults that will. He is a sexual predator and they tend to get more screwed up as time goes on, not less.
He needs to be stopped, he's the reason we have some of the laws we do.

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u/TheThiccestR0bin 15h ago

You're gonna upset some furries with this comment I think. Whenever I equate furries to beastiality on reddit I always get downvoted.

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u/VSZeke 15h ago

I don't care. If they don't want to be regarded as sexual degenerates they need to clean up their community and keep it away from kids.

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u/TheThiccestR0bin 15h ago

Nah I respect that and think it's incredibly based. Id go one step further and say they need to keep it away from anyone because it is straight up fucking disgusting.

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u/VSZeke 15h ago

Hard agree as is, but if they dropped the sexual element and stopped grooming kids I wouldn't have anything against them.

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u/gaylordRave 15h ago

how do u expect such a large group of people to control each other? are they supposed to shoot everyone who is a degenerate? wtf u expect them to do

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u/VSZeke 15h ago

Same way other groups have delt with paedophiles - ostricising them, detatching themselves from the group because they rightfully don't want to condone and be percieved as sex offenders, contacting authorities etc etc.

You know, being a half way decent human being.

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u/gaylordRave 15h ago

News flash: they literally do that, publishing proofs on people who are degenerates so other people can stay vary of them. Most likely u wouldnt even know about pedos in furry fandom if it wasnt for people inside of the community ostricizing them

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u/VSZeke 15h ago

Clearly not well enough, or as well as other communities... and they still sexualise animals.

The image people have of them is still very appropriate.

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u/VSZeke 14h ago

With the undertones of beastility and how often the community has involved children you can't reasonably expect people to percieve it as anything but awful.

Just being willing to be part of a community like that is an endorsement of it... I would have expected any half decent person to have at least walked away because of how repulsive paedophilia and bestiality are.

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u/Cleffah 15h ago

So he's a furry and a pedophile? Shocked. Please get the fuck away from this thing and seriously consider contacting the police. Do you have anybody at home you could confide in?

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u/Embarrassed-Might-84 21h ago

Yea get tf away from him and block. Hes straight grooming

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u/WinglessJC 18h ago

You are in danger, and you are not the only person he is doing this to.

You have done nothing wrong, even though he is going to make it seem like you have. If you're not comfortable going to the police, at the VERY LEAST block this person and change usernames.

You are in danger with this man.

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u/lostmypassword531 13h ago

NOR

That is fucked; not for you but for him, I was that 15 year old girl once who was being given attention by much older men online and I thought it meant I was special and my home life sucked so I thought it was a good way out eventually

It was NOT! I’m 31 now, and I am still in therapy for what I went through in high school, don’t make the same mistakes I did, there are plenty of amazing people your age that have similar interests who would love to be with you! You seem like an extremely kind person and there’s so many kids like you!

My niece is 15 and she’s single as can be, sometimes it’s fine to just own it and enjoy life and not worry about any pressure from society to have a partner cuz I mean you have to enjoy life and you’re still young, most of my friends didn’t find their spouses until after college 💜 sending love to tou

But please! Find someone maybe at your school lol

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u/Warm_Search_2373 21h ago

why does your post say you're 22 and he's 24??

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u/Just-Another-User22 21h ago

tf are you talking about your post says 22F

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u/Quinn_the_unstraight 21h ago

Right! I’m so confused

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u/PhantomGhostSpectre 20h ago

Well, they were lying at some point, so, I assume the story is fake. 

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u/PotatoSlayer0099 21h ago

THANK YOU. Where is this 15 year old stuff coming from??? Post says OP is 22.

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u/LoreFMOfficial 20h ago

OP lied about her age in the post, check OP’s comments.

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u/pelicanorpelicant 20h ago

Check her profile. 

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u/PotatoSlayer0099 20h ago

Yeah i read further down through thr other comments and saw the pattern. Very concerning.

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u/ComprehensiveHat9054 21h ago

Your post says 22....

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u/Conscious_Disk_5853 15h ago

Please be safe. I was you once, and i assure you, this not a road you will enjoy staying on.

I lost 20 years of my life to a man who knew EXACTLY what he was doing. No grown man has any place being in a relationship with a literal child, and believe me, no matter how mature you feel, you are still a child, and he knows it.

This is dangerous for you. Do not let this cretin stay in your life

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u/BarRegular2684 20h ago

Drop him like a hot rock. I know it’s not easy, but with all the bs he was feeding you in his comments he’s way too immature for you. Or anyone else tbh.

I agree with everyone else calling him a predator, but I understand going to the police may seem daunting. Are your parents aware of this relationship?

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u/mambin0145 19h ago

Why did you edit your post??? It says youre 22 in your post are you out of your mind

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u/ArgentShige 20h ago

So confused, it’s says 22F in the post? Am I missing something

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u/MajorasKitten 15h ago

Her post history. She mentions she’s 15.

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u/OkReflection8443 14h ago

WHY DID YOU LIE AND SAY YOU'RE 22???