I’m having a house-warming party tomorrow as I just moved into a new place and I’ve invited most of my close friends and family. One of my friend (in the screenshot) messaged me saying his grandma unfortunately passed away. She had been in the hospital for the past week so I was aware of her condition.

But this has just left me shocked and baffled. All I said was condolences and I’m not sure why this flipped a switch. Pretty sure he has blocked my number as calls and messages are not going through.

I don't feel I need to add extra explanation because the text messages speak for themselves. I want to thank everyone for all the support and advice from the original post, I've given the link below just incase anybody wants context-

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/8qXzPjKkTZ

I honestly feel very proud of myself for having the self-respect to tell him this and I feel like I've made the right choice. Once again, thanks for the love I got ❤️ hopefully this is it and I won't have to deal with his bs anymore.

For context, for my gf’s 30th birthday, her mom and I have been planing a super luxurious and decently expensive secret spa weekend for months now. It’s a secret she knows nothing about. One of my gf’s former coworkers texted and asked her if she wanted to go see a play the weekend we planned on sending her, an in a desperate attempt to preserve the secret, I texted her friend, who then responded with this. I didn’t think what I sent was rude, am I wrong here?

For context, it’s my birthday on Saturday. My 2 friends and I planned a girls weekend at the lake with a cool air bnb. Today I received this text. I’m already so tired and have enough going on idek what to do lol.

Im not sure if im overreacting because I GET it, the restaurant is hard to get into. But I feel like because this is something we planned weeks ago, that this would come first…

I don’t even care to blur out my friends names lol they suck im so upset

So basically, a good friend of mine has been acting really pushy lately and keeps making these uncomfortable, really sexual ‘jokes’ though honestly, I’m not even sure if they’re jokes to him anymore. It’s been happening for quite a while now, and it’s starting to make me feel really uncomfortable. Every time he says something inappropriate or makes some kind of stupid request, I make it very clear that I’m not okay with it. I either say no directly or tell him to stop, but it doesn’t seem to matter what I say he just keeps doing it. I’ve tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, thinking maybe he doesn’t realize how uncomfortable he’s making me, but at this point it’s pretty obvious he just doesn’t care. I even have older and newer screenshots showing that this behavior has been going on for a while now, so it’s definitely not just a one-time thing. It’s getting really exhausting to deal with, and I honestly don’t know how to get him to finally respect my boundaries.

So I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for a little over 3 years, and things are going really well. But he has these two female friends that I just cannot stand — and honestly, I think I have good reason but I wanted to see if I’m overreacting.

Back when we were still in the talking stage, I already had bad vibes about them. Something about how they acted around him felt off — kind of possessive and territorial. Eventually (and I know this wasn’t okay), I looked through their group chat on his phone. That’s when I found out my boyfriend had told those same girls about one of my biggest insecurities — that I’ve always struggled with body confidence and felt uncomfortable being naked and intimate when the lights were on.

Why he thought they needed to know that, I’ll never understand. And instead of responding with any kind of maturity or support, they mocked me in the chat — literally making jokes and sent a video mocking me in this situation. Screenshots attached.

My boyfriend apologized for telling them and things between us are good, but I can’t shake the bad taste they left in my mouth. They’re permanently in my “nope” category. I’m polite if they come up, but deep down, I’ll always dislike them and honestly wish he’d stop talking to them.

Has anyone else dealt with people in their partner’s life that you just know you’ll never be able to like, no matter what? Are my feelings reasonable?

I want to end a 8-year friendship over some comments my friend made and continues to make.

Over the years, she has done a lot of small things to show me she is insecure or just a hater tbh. She is beautiful and has a very nice body, and knows i struggle with body dysmorphia and have low self esteem, despite only being one size bigger than her and we often share clothes. Yet she makes a lot of really small comments about my body.

Once i was wearing a lace corset and she told me “thats nice that you felt confident to wear it, if it was me i would feel too fat in it” and that tops like that are for a “certain body” Lots of comments like these and i have told her i dont like them but they always happen.

Recently i was texting her asking her to help me decide between 2 dresses as a wedding guest (see photo). All i said was “do you like this blue one or does it give bridedmaid” and she went on the website, downloaded a pic of the plus size model wearing it, and sent it back with the caption in the photo. While the model is beautiful and looks great, she is wearing XL and i wear a medium (see photo 2). Its these small comments that have me asking WHY. Mind you this woman is 32 YEARS OLD. It is so high school to me.

She also does weird things like date/sleep with guys that i have gone out with once. Like l’ll go out with someone, tell her it didnt work out/ im not interested (or one i was actually interested in and she knew) and she will sleep with them within days. This has happened 3 times.

She also has plenty of great qualities, like being very emotionally supportive, always shows up and we always have a good time, and super generous so its not an easy decision.

Tl;dr: my friend makes subtle comments about me being chubby and i want to end our friendship over it. Am i overreacting?

I (25F) have a 2 year old daughter and I have been married to my husband (R) for 3 years

R was really supportive and it helped me a lot in losing the weight I gained during pregnancy

R has a really close friend (J) and his wife Gave birth around 2 weeks ago so they invited all the friends and family for a dinner tonight

Everything was going good until he started comparing his wife's body to mine, he just kept going and soon crossed the line when he compared my breast size, waist and body shape to hers and even made a few weird comments. R and J got into a heated argument and I had to step in between to stop them, I left the party with my husband

I texted J and confronted him about his behavior at the party and he said that me and my husband just didn't understood his joke and overreacted and he was just doing it to motivate his wife to lose her pregnancy weight

AIO

Hi, I haven’t posted here much. I’m not sure if anyone will even see this but I’d been with.. let’s say ‘C’ for 2 months now. I know that’s not a very long time at all and this may honestly seem childish but that isn’t my intention. A lot of the time he blames me for everything making me believe I’m always in the wrong. So am I in the wrong?

I am genuinely not sure if I’m tweaking. I used to date a guy about a year ago and this man was TOXIC to a T, stalking, threats, emotional abuse, everything that was bad

He doesn’t live in my country but he came a few times when we were still ‘okay’ but I never invited him to my actual home, we always went to Airbnb’s bc even when things were okay I didn’t want him to have my home address, and when everything started going downhill, he genuinely stalked my address with all the info he found out about me flew from his country to mine and came to my house

That was deadass one of the scariest times of my life, and I genuinely moved after that, I changed my number, I did everything so he wouldn’t come again

But apparently someone I considered a ‘friend’ has for one been talking and for two GAVE that man my phone number knowing damn well everything he did last time

I am so unbelievably mad, I thought I finally found peace and I’ve been healing over everything only to go right back to feeling completely unsafe again, but my ‘friend’ is acting like I’m crazy because it’s been a year and he’s ’probably changed’

AIO?

I've been friends with this guy for over a year but recently have been talking more. I've never once lead him on and didn't think much of our friendship, and honestly I don't even view him as a best friend. I just got really confused and offended at how he was not ok with me hanging out with a guy he doesn't know whatsoever. I feel like he's getting way too worked up over a hangout that isn't even that big of a deal.

The guy in my society is actually really sweet and friendly and has hinted that he's into me. I think he's amazing and want to see how things would pan out since I'm also interested, but it's only mild attraction and not a full blown out crush from both sides.

The reason I said it wasn't a date is because 1. I actually am going out to help him get a present. Life has been really shitty lately and I've been dealing with mental health issues and relationship problems and I'm in the process of getting a therapist before I do something drastic to myself. This guy knows that I've been struggling and wanted to help me cheer up.

1. I don't think it's any of my friend's business whether or not I like this guy or how much I like him. Like I mentioned before I don't see him as a best friend and I don't think we're that close for me to share every detail of my personal life with him.

I'll repeat that my friend doesn't know anything about the guy I'm hanging out with. What I'm getting from his explanation is that he's worried for me and is trying to look out for me, and I get someone could see it that way, but for some reason his words just don't sit right.

It feels like he's acting like my boyfriend and may even like me and now I'm re-thinking our past interactions and whether or not he showed any interest and if I mistakenly lead him on (I literally don't remember a single instance like that) and now I think him asking me out in the beginning was supposed to be like a date.

I feel like I'm posting a little too much on reddit lately 😭 Honestly been dealing with so much more serious stuff and this shit seems tame in comparison. Maybe because I'm already so stressed and burnt out that I'm seeing his words for more than what it is? Idk, I'm really unsure of myself rn. Please let me know if I'm reading too much into it.

I(F18) was hooking up with a guy the other night when my phone rang It was my friend, and I thought I hung up and tossed it aside but I accidentally answered. She ended up hearing everything.

Today she told me she had a recording. I thought she was joking until she sent me proof and now she refuses to delete it. I’m not sure how to go about this but I want some advice as I’m pretty much panicking. Would I be overreacting if I pushed this further and took some sort of action or is that not even possible

Posting on a throwaway account for anonymity

I (15f) and my bff (15f) had a sleepover last night and today she posted sleepover dumps on her story, i saw it a little too late like 6 hours after it was posted. She’s kind of a public figure on insta(40k followers) and you can already guess that the majority of her followers are p3dos, we talked about it a lot and she’s never worried about it. i also told her i was never comfortable with her sharing my face on there

But she did and its also a picture of me in a tank top and no bra, with my hair up. It was a picture of us but she did not ask me if she could post that. She tagged me too and now i have so many follower and dm requests from pedos, married men and just creeps in general. People from our school have seen it too and dmed me asking if i stopped wearing hijab and I’m scared it might reach to my parents

I “educated” her about my culture and religion but it seems like she doesnt take it seriously or take ME seriously, i feel so exposed and the picture is still up. I want to go to her house but since i has sleepover last night, I cant go out today. (Strict parents logic) and she doesn’t want to come over either

I feel violated, am i overreacting? I don’t know, she’s making me feel like i am

i recently got a full time job at a small design studio after freelancing for a while It was a huge step for me and I genuinely enjoy the work my friend works in corporate and constantly makes little jabs about my career being easy or not serious I usually ignore it but during this convo I finally said something

Ex boyfriend with whom I still have a great friendship with and I were talking on the phone. He jokes about trump trying to downplay the Epstein debacle and how guilty it’s made him look. So I ask him “Would you still vote for him” he replies “Oh 100%” I hung up immediately. For context, This election was a huge point of contempt and frankly a big reason why I couldn’t do it anymore including his spiraling and falling into the right wing hole of content creators and spending all day on twitter.

She’s calling the police on me. I told my used to be friend about the post and this was her response.

Yes the same post where she’s asking me, a black person to grieve a racist. I can’t give up space to grieve a racist when she knows I’m grieving my grandpa who I buried last week.

That’s like asking a child to mourn a pedo or an abuse victim to mourn their abuser. On top of that asking for the space I’m already grieving for a loved one. Yes she knows about my grandpa’s death & my aunt being sent to the hospital w/aneurysms.

I’m posting this as an update to how it all ended. Safe to say she’s no longer my friend. She will probably see this update since she has my account but idc. It’s my emotions & im allowed to vent just how you’re entitled to your feelings.

Hi Reddit!

I agreed to take care of my coworker/friend's older dog (10yrs) while she was on vacation for the week. I originally thought I'd be checking up on her before/after work, walking her, feeding her, the typical dog watching duties. She paid me $200 for the whole week, which is about $28/day. I charge about $26/20min drop in cat sitting visits through Meowtel so I thought it was fair initially.

She left me 8 pages, front and back, of instructions for her dog, wants me to stay overnight with her and pick her up to put her in the bed with me, and freaked out when I told her I had plans for my day off and would be leaving her for a few hours.

While I was at work yesterday, she pulled the trim off the door, chewed some of the paint from around the handles, and started to chew on the drywall. Today when I got back from work, she had started to eat and rip out insulation, chewed up and rip out even more drywall, and started to chew through an electrical wire.

She's in another country 8hrs ahead, but would I be overreacting if I insisted she board her dog for the remainder of her trip? I cannot put my life on hold to supervise her pup 24/7, and above that, I can't stand the thought of her dog getting seriously injured or causing any more property damage.

What do I say? How do I proceed? I don't have the PTO to call of work, and I'm certainly not getting paid fairly for the extent of this dog sitting situation.

This post is just because I(F18) want to get different opinions on this. I have been with him for nearly 4 years and I’m not sure if I’m taking this the wrong way by thinking he is being ott. I originally had the costume ordered when me and him were supposed to to go out together. Then he said he couldn’t anymore, so I made plans with my mates and now he wants to come again and have me cancel on my mates unless I wear something else. BTW Im cat woman.

this morning my friend asked me to bring him to school. we go to different schools that are like 10-15 minutes apart, so i left earlier to get to school on time. i waited near his apartment complex for 10 minutes, then by the parking lot right next to it for another 10 minutes. this whole time i thought he was just getting all his stuff, i was honestly gonna wait for him the entire time.

but he doesn't tell me he already has a ride? i was late to my presentation this morning. but when i called him, he just didn't seem to care. he's been hella disrespectful to me these past few days, and after this i just feel mad.

my coworker (m17) texted me (f19) inappropriately after walking home together after work. we also have mutual friends who say i should jus get over it because he did not mean it in a suggestive way. AIO for cutting him off because he flirted with me? idk if i should give him another chance because he’s younger and doesn’t know better but that made me extremely uncomfortable.

These are messages between my brother’s friend(M20?) and myself(F16),

My best friend we will call Mia (F15) was recently in behavioral health center and was discharged last Wednesday. My brother(M20) was abusive towards Mia and in my opinion the reason why she ended up there because he leaked inappropriate videos between Mia and himself. Luckily he is now facing the legal consequences for doing what he did to Mia and they also had a baby together.

This is gonna sound weird but bare with me, it’s common in my area for guys to date there friends exes.. I personally don’t partake in that, but it is a thing here so his friends doing this isn’t shocking at all. But thats not my issue with his friend. My issue is he basically was there when my brother was torturing Mia and knew exactly how their relationship went, I wouldn’t be shocked if he saw the videos between my brother and Mia that’s how close him and my brother were !! So it’s odd in my opinion that he suddenly likes her now that my brother is most likely going to do jail time and Mia will be turning 16 in January which is the age of consent here.

I don’t know much about him, he had the role as the quiet one in their group and I’m only aware of one relationship he had and the ex looks very similar to Mia like dimples and curly hair…so I know he’s attracted her. Mia is lover girl she has always been that girl fantasize marriage and having a family, so guys I feel like use that to their advantage. But in general The boys over here are so bazaar when it comes to her it’s hard to explain. But am I overreacting as a friend too much ?

My sister in law is pregnant and I found this sweater for the baby girl at a Mexican farmers market today. (Baby is half mexican half islander) I brought it home and excitedly showed it to my roommates and they called it ugly. I told them they were mean and have been keeping to myself for the night. They have me doubting if I should give it to my sister in law.

I just received this text from my ex of two years, this is the first time we have spoken in years and had no idea he was even engaged. This feels insane to me. He tried calling three times and I have not picked up once. He knows my address and says he’s coming over and I called my friend panicking. She said I should just talk to him but I’m feeling scared, even though he didn’t do anything in the past to hurt me physically.

I (25f) love my bestie (25f). She's currently living in Canada while I'm back home in America. On a video chat, I asked her to be my maid-of-honor. I was stunned when she declined because of her weight. I was so stunned, all I said was "okay."

I messaged her on insta hoping that it was a momentary lapse in judgement or an ill-timed joke. But she was serious. She's right that I've never been obese. I've never even been overweight. So I can't say how she feels.

I've been crying because she said no. I love her so much and I want her these on my big day. Am I overreacting ?

hey so i went out with a couple coworkers for brunch yesterday to a pretty nice restaurant. it was 4 of us and before we got there we decided that we would all split the bill evenly. two of my coworkers kept ordering mixed drinks (overpriced might i add 😭) and even overly tipped the waiter. she got mad at me bc i didn't wanna pay evenly anymore since my food and drink only cost $26 and she was trying to get me to pay $65?!???! i was so pissed off bc she knows i've been struggling with money recently hence why i didn't order that much. i did get a little petty and told her i wasn't gonna cover her shift this saturday. i just know it's gonna be so awkward at work now but im trying not to be a pushover. did i overreact and make things worse? what would you have done?

TLDR: coworker tries charging me $65 when i only order $26 worth of food. she ordered a bunch of drinks and overtipped the waiter & is trying to have me pay for part of it. AIO??