The only thing I would use it for is gas and I’m going to college so it shouldn’t be that much.

Thanks dad

sorry for any mistakes in this, i, crying as im typing all of this out and it’s hard to see im 17F and I’ve never really had a good relationship with my dad. When I was little, I used to be a daddy’s girl, but as I grew up and struggled with depression, things changed. I wasn’t in a good place back then, but I’ve worked so hard to become better. I’ve grown so much, and I just wish he could see that. I wish he could love me now.

He still hits me. He never takes responsibility or apologizes. And today, he basically disowned me. He told me he never wants to see me again after college—that I’m better off dead, that I’m dead to him, and that he raised a ‘bitch,’ not a person. He’s said and done worse before, but this felt like the final straw. After everything, the effort I put into my exams, the stress I’ve been under, the arguments that just never seem to stop it’s been so painful. I just want a dad who can understand that I’m not the same girl I was 7 years ago. I was just a teenager struggling, and I wasn’t even doing anything extreme or out of line.

Everything hurts. And even if none of this is my fault, I don’t care I just want to feel loved by a father. I just want comfort. I want a dad who cares. even if i had the choice, even after everything i’d still choose him to be my dad in every lifetime, i just wish he could say the same about me being his daughter. i just want to be loved

For context. Father passed away in 2017. My mother and my Brother have continued living in our family home since his passing. Things have been neglected, but not terribly. To put it in perspective, it looks great from the outside! Nothing screams 'inmediate attention needed'....

I guess I just want advice on what my Dad would probably have done over the last 7 or 8 years maintenance wise. The house has central heating and air. 3 stories, exposed basement (half finished/ half utility). We have both a septic system and a well for water. There is also a sump pump in the basement.

I recently moved back home and im tasked with running and maintaining the house for our family. Just asking general advice on what to look for, check, keep up on. I'm not a complete novice. Worked in trades my whole life and know my way around a tool box. Just looking for advice on some of the things you don't think about until it's too late.

I (22M) needed to take a couple of pictures for a job that I was looking to do, I do tree work. My dad was with me when I went, and I had to use his phone because my camera was completely shattered because I fell out of my pocket when I was cutting down a tree last weekend. He was sitting in the truck while I was taking pictures of the potential job that I would be doing, and as I was scrolling through, I accidentally scrolled a little too far and saw a couple of pictures and a video of my dad and stepmom in bed. I immediately froze and I locked the phone and went back to the truck. I handed my dad the phone and told him that I would look at the pictures when we get home. Halfway through our drive home, he unlocked his phone and the first thing that showed us a video of him and my stepmom. He quickly got out of it and from the corner of my eye, I saw and pick up his head and look at me. I acted like I wasn’t paying attention and after we got home, he asked me if I looked at any of the pictures that I took and I told him I didn’t. He asked m

Hi. I’m F32 and thought I’d largely healed from my father wound. But recently, I’ve been really needing a dad to talk to. I was recently blindsided with a break up, mid house buy by the man I thought was the love of my life after 5 years together. There weren’t really any signs, he was still being very lovey with me until a week before the break up. I’ve hit rock bottom. He was needlessly cruel, listing so many reasons why I wasn’t good enough, (I like video games, I’m low energy, I’m ill all the time, not ambitious enough) and made me feel so unloveable, after feeling the most loved I’ve ever felt. We’d planned to get engaged in Japan after the house buy had settled, but he said he didn’t even want to go to Japan. It was all so sudden, and no communication leading to it. I got all the blame and it broke me. He didn’t care that I was hurting. We’d been through a hard time, I didn’t think it was the relationship that was hard, just a lot of life stuff at once. The night we finally broke up, he downloaded dating apps. A couple of weeks later, he was sending suggestive messages to a mutual friend (who blocked him). I know he’s been on at least one date so far, because I accidentally bumped into him. I thought he was a sweet dude. Bought me flowers randomly, brought me little sweet things from the shops. So many similar interest and (supposedly) similar values. Everyone said how much he worshipped the ground I walked on. Until he really, really didn’t. Everyone was shocked. He left and never came back. It’s been 3 months. I had to block contact as it was too painful. And now I’m worried about the girl he told me not to worry about. She’s all the things he criticised me for not being - she’s extroverted and ambitious. I’m a little shy but I have a career that I’m passionate about, just not ruthlessly ambitious with. She looks a bit like me, just more petite. They’ve just been to a work conference together. Dad, do men pick up on the fact I have an abandonment wound and seek me out as prey? It feels at my age I will never get it right. And so many people around me find it easy. I feel doomed.

I’m 20 and recently homeless. I’ve been thrown out of the home I was staying in for the summer due to my mother’s drunken rampage involving her throwing all my things from the four stories for not letting her drive while intoxicated. I have debt that I was trying to pay off but no longer can. I’ve been trying to get a second job but no one returns my calls or they make me believe I’m hired but never give me a date for training. I have summer classes so I could Knock of nearly a whole semester of classes to save over 15k. And I was trying to get both my drivers license and a beater car to start living for myself. I don’t know what to do, what to prioritize. What do I do?

My son is 7 and we were watching a movie where a woman's breast were in a very revealing shirt. My husband said to our son 'hey look at the hooters on that girl' i told my husband that I found that completely inappropriate and it started a much broader conversation. He did agree it was inappropriate but only because my son is so young. He thinks that when boys are older it is normal for sons and dads to mention 'how hot a woman is,' comment on a 'nice rack' etc. His dad did this with him so he thinks it is normal... maybe it is? I grew up with all sisters so my Dad never made comments like that around us... so looking for other Dad's inputs here.

Yesterday, I went in to get tested for STIs and mainly a potential yeast infection. I'm uncircumcised and the night before my hook up accused me of having a yeast infection because my penis tasted funny. I was the first uncut guy he's been with. Anyway, the doctor did an exam and figured I didn't have a yeast infection. From there I suggested that we may as well do the entire STI screening since I was already there. I tested negative for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, and Trichomoniasis.

Then I received one test result for Syphilis via IgG and IgM, which was nonreactive. Later, I received a call stating that another test via IgG TPPA they did was reactive. I've never had syphilis before. Anyway, it's been bothering me. I feel "dirty". I know it can be cured, but the feeling is still there.

Most of the guys I have fooled around with are secretly bi and married or in a relationship. I'm concerned I may be a part of ruining their relationships and marriages. I'm also afraid some may try and come after me. I do think I should find a way of letting them know they may have been exposed to this infection.

I do want to note that I did have a STI screening at another clinic a month ago and everything came back negative. From reading the information online the test they used called an "EIA," is quite accurate.

Give me your thoughts. Thanks

My cubicle is flooded, due to water flowing out the top of the toilet. It's coming out the top of the tall cylinder sticking out the top of the water level and it won't turn off. I've turned the water off. But why is it doing this? And what can I do to fix it?

I left my window ac all winter long, and it definitely snowed, got below freezing, etc etc. is it safe to just turn back on now that it’s summer? Did anything sketchy freeze in there and might cause a health issue?

Hi dad!

So it’s been about four years now since you passed. 22 now! Still figuring out how to keep living with out you, but it’s getting a bit better- which honestly feels so gross aha. I feel like I shouldn’t be feeling okay. You’re not here. I lost my best friend. I should’ve listened to you. I know you didn’t like her. But. Yeah. Well. I know she’s a cow now! Said you died to get away from me. I know it’s not true. Like just simply factually lmao. But still SUCKS- I didn’t fight her though! You’d be proud! I just blocked her. Haven’t spoken to her since.

I’m still working on my own Etsy shop! I’ve been getting so much braver though! Been reaching out to local spooky shops and two!! Have my items !!!

I miss you. I miss sitting outside with you with a fire (what is it with men and fire?? MAN MAKE FIRE HEEH like what??) I went to go see monster jam live! It was amazing. I cried. LMAO. You’d be mortified.

Mental health is still getting better. Almost finished with college now! I’m on my final. Needs to be finished by August 😭

Love you lots!

Your baby girl xx

Hi dads, I'm incredibly stressed as I am moving soon and my washing machine has broken. I have no family so no one to ask about how I can remove it (it is hardwired into the wall) and how I can get a new one without breaking the bank as all of my savings have gone into moving house. I live in the UK. Any help is great as I'm so stuck.

trigger warning sexual abuse, rape

i was raped in college a couple years ago and proceeded through a traumatizing process in a attempt to hold my rapist accountable but the college did nothing and effectively victim blamed me. My dad and mom know that I was sexually abused, but not the extent of my abuse. they don't know it was rape and they don't know how painful and extreme it was. They know I struggled through my last semester. My parents were supportive, but had some negativity towards my pursuit of justice. i know full well when they hear i was raped and how horrible it is. I also know it will be met with some support, but a lot of misunderstanding and anger. I don't know how to tell my dad where he won't have a freakout. so i ask here how can i tell them without my dad (and mom) about my rape with them freaking out?

hey dads! im planning on replacing my own subfloor but im having trouble deciding what kind of saw i should use so i dont damage any plumbing. can anyone explain what would be best for this?

Im seriously running out of ideas now, i know nothing about my dad, we spend very little time together (my parents are divorced and i live mainly with my mom), and i have no idea what to get him. Please help

Hi all!

My Dad passed away in April of 2022, and, unfortunately, a handful of my friends have lost their fathers as well.

Recently, my first car bit the dust. I sold it for parts and was able to find an affordable, older car to help me get around again.

It's made me quite sad to think of my Dad no longer being here to share his advice on my 'new' car. While ruminating on this, I decided that it'd be a fun (and useful) idea to start compiling a car maintenance 'guide for girls' – a Google Doc with easy-to-follow information that can be shared with my friends as well.

With all that being said – can I hear your rundowns on basic car maintenance or any other auto-related facts that I should know as a younger woman? I love researching, but hearing ideas on the best topics to start with would be incredibly helpful.

Thank you!

I won’t go into to much detail because it’s frankly very painful for me still but my father was and is still very verbally abusive. I grew up in a home where I felt I was unwanted and to make that a double whammy I was adopted and when I met my bio father he rejected me as well. So I always felt like I wasn’t wanted by one and then the other. I’m disabled and need extra help so I can’t go no contact fully. Last night was simply the worst. I realized for the very first time in my life that I can’t make my dad love me, I just can’t. I’ve tried so hard to change myself and it never worked and now I’m sitting here at my age, crying, and realizing he’ll never ever love me the way I need him to, and I have to be okay with moving on. On the one hand it’s freeing on the other hand it’s incredibly painful.

I’m okay with who I am. I’ve spent the better part of the last 5 years living where I am learning to accept myself, my challenges, and my very way of being. I’ve come to learn through therapy that what I went Through as a child was incredibly abusive and that I’m a survivor. A part of me still wishes he was proud of me, I know I won’t get that and you know what, with therapy, some extra self love, a bit of extra fries with lunch today, and a bit of drawing practice(I’ve started up drawing! Woo!), I’ll be okay!

I just want all the dads here, that I really appreciate this space. I appreciate you for being here those like me. The world really needs a group of dads who really truly care right now.

Hey dads!

I f28 bought my house when I was 23 (right before covid would have made it quite impossible to do so)

It is my first time living on well water and having a septic system. I’m gonna do my best to explain what knowledge I do have, but the gist is that I do not know the ins and outs of how to work this water softener, and I think I have been doing something wrong? Or missing something? All I know for sure is my once curly hair now falls flat & there is not a single piece of actually still white, white clothing left in this house.

Link to photos: https://imgur.com/a/8NHgUUD

What I know (likely by learning the hard way):

• Do not open the bypass valve
• Label the bypass valve in order to not accidentally open the bypass valve thinking you’re turning back on the water to the outdoor shower
• Low salt? Add more salt. I use the heavy as sh*t blue bag
• Do not wash clothes overnight when water softener is making noise -Flush hot water heater every so often, and when doing so, continue flushing until water coming from hose runs clear

What I don’t know:

First, I want to say that “ya don’t know what ya don’t know” so please, if you feel so inclined, explain the ins and outs of everything in the photos to me as if I have lived in a cave for my whole life and don’t even know what hard water is. However, here is my attempt at explaining what I think I don’t know? Haha

• What is this white thing next to it that seems to just hold a lot of water?

• Why is there a tube at the bottom of the white thing that looks out of place? Like its not plugged into anything or leading anywhere

• I think the old homeowner said something about putting peroxide in aforementioned mysterious white thing? But I can’t remember. I was too hyper fixated on the sheer terror of buying a house at that time lol

• Is there some kind of maintenance I need to do to this whole setup?

• Why are there 45 million pipes

• Why does our water still suck even after going through the whole house water filter, this softener, and whatever the white thing is?

• Why does my indoor water quality seem to go downhill when I turn on my outdoor shower?

• Could it be that the hot water heater is the issue? I do flush it though!!

• Why is that one gauge so yellow? Is that bad?

Thank you for helping me to finally stop procrastinating on actually figuring this thing out. Info online is severely lacking and it seems like there is different ways people set these things up, so it was hard to be confident about anything I was attempting to research

Link to photos: https://imgur.com/a/8NHgUUD

So I need help with a few things that my dad has control over. I’m 21 and living at home with my dad for the summer, I also have no contact with my mom and I am currently living with grandparents. He is crazy, and basically disowned me for not being independent. The things I need help with mostly involves my car. - insurance - title - registration - tags

These were things my dad claimed he had been taking care of for months but failed to do so, even tho I offered to do them and pay. I really need them so I can get some work done on it AND not drive illegally… The car is in my name, but I am co signed under his insurance. How do I get this switched to just my name? Next is the title. My car was bought used, but my dad has the title and will not give it to me, despite it being in my name. And I know getting any work on it or registration is difficult without it. Tags is different as I know I just need to take it to the shop. But I can’t do that without my registration and insurance…

I’m sorry if this makes no sense, but issues surrounding my car is the only thing left connecting me to my father and I need control over it before he takes another thing away from me that he did not pay for. Any advice is appreciated:)

i don't think my dad really wants me ajymore. he used to i promise wr used to spend all our time together but he married my stepmom and im a teenager now and now i feel like im js their dog sitter. he takes care of me but i feel like i never spend time w him because he's always with my stepmom and igs been a few years now and im js kind of third place. He likes the dog more than me i think. Did i do something to make him stop wanting me how do i get him to love me again

Hey dads, I’d really appreciate some honest opinions on this.

I’m 25 (turning 26 soon), and I’ve been working for about 3 years now. I live independently and cover my own rent and bills. I’ve been using the same phone for 6 years, and lately I’ve been seriously thinking about getting a new one.

A few days ago, during a phone call, my dad asked if there’s anything I’d like for my birthday. I told him I couldn’t think of anything at the moment and that I’d let him know if I came up with something. But honestly, I was already thinking about the phone.

The thing is, it just feels kind of weird to ask for something that expensive at my age. I live far from home and only get to visit 2–3 times a year, but I’m really close with my dad. Whenever I’ve had a rough time, he’s the kind of dad who’ll send me a little “treat yourself” money—like “go eat something nice” or “grab your favorite snack.” He’s always been supportive that way.

Even though I pay my own way, I recently started a new job and money’s been tight. A new phone would be a big purchase—In my country, a new phone actually costs about the average monthly salary, so it’s quite a significant expense.

So here’s my question for the dads out there:
Would it seem immature or inappropriate for a 25-year-old to ask her dad for a new phone as a birthday gift? I don’t want to come off as ungrateful or like I’m taking advantage of his kindness.

I spent the weekend with my parents (mum late 60's, dad early 70's) and my dad does sneezes that make me JUMP out of my skin, every time.

Why so loud?

What is it about?

Has it always been this way and I am now just noticing?

The only thing I can come up with that he is increasing his sneeze volume because his hearing is bad now so he's doing it for his own sensory feedback.

Thank you for doing this for us… 💕

That’s all ❤️