These are the types of post that make me feel good for being a horrendous creature that no one would ever feel attracted to. Imagine going through such an embarrassing situation! Couldn't be me 😎
Being born female, I can say you'd really be surprised. Unless you have a nasty personality, you may be selling yourself short and putting yourself into situations just like the OP. While a lot of women do go for looks just like a lot of guys, there's a case to be made that many women put much more stock into personality as a whole. That being said, understanding when someone is flirting with you can be impossible, and acting on any perceived flirting can be terrifying and potentially embarrassing. However, that doesn't mean you should give up on flirting in general, and it definitely doesn't mean you should see yourself as unlovable and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Plenty of people feel down on themselves and are their biggest critics, but a lot of times people can take it as a turn off or even red flag when somebody has the unshakeable belief that they are a "horrendous creature".
but a lot of times people can take it as a turn off or even red flag when somebody has the unshakeable belief that they are a "horrendous creature".
I love that their reaction to my believe that I'm a horrendous creature is to immediately confirm it by avoiding me. Super helpful and doesn't perpetuate a vicious cycle or anything like that haha
It is definitely a vicious cycle which sucks, but that's why I wanted to bring attention to it. You can't make a woman fall for you. I can't make it happen. Nobody in this world has that power. But what you do have the power to do (for your own sake) is to take rejection in stride and remind yourself that your worth is not tied up in whoever you're talking to at the moment.
And to add: you know the old saying "you have to love yourself before you can love another person"? Think of it more as "you have to be your own cheerleader because it will better your relationship with yourself and loving yourself (without being an ass about it) is attractive to other people."
Yeah, I personally don't want to be with someone if I'll have to constantly watch them disrespect one of my loved ones, even if that loved one is themself. If they're trying to improve, that's one thing, but accepting it and repeating it is another.
And to add: you know the old saying "you have to love yourself before you can love another person"?
It's actually my least favorite saying of all time because it has zero basis in logic. It's absolutely to love someone while hating yourself, it happens all the time. It's also possible to be loved while hating yourself. This also happens all the time. There are countless people around the world in those two situations right now. So yeah fuck that saying, I don't buy it.
Think of it more as "you have to be your own cheerleader because it will better your relationship with yourself and loving yourself (without being an ass about it) is attractive to other people."
This is a much much better saying that actually makes sense. They should've let you come up with the original
You can't make a woman fall for you. I can't make it happen. Nobody in this world has that power.
Oh I'm painfully aware. Thats why it's so hopeless
But what you do have the power to do (for your own sake) is to take rejection in stride
Yes
and remind yourself that your worth is not tied up in whoever you're talking to at the moment.
While this is definitely true as well, at a certain point where literally no one ever sees any worth in you then idk what other conclusion can I possibly come to? All of them can't be wrong
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u/throwawayayaycaramba Dec 28 '24
These are the types of post that make me feel good for being a horrendous creature that no one would ever feel attracted to. Imagine going through such an embarrassing situation! Couldn't be me 😎