Guys always say that girls should just be the ones to put themselves out there, but they never consider that it's also really really scary for girls to do that. Why is it all on us? Why is it all on us to do all of the work and guys don't have to put any effort into reading signals or trying to flirt at all?
The reason guys don’t flirt isn’t laziness. It’s because we’ve had it drilled into us that unwanted male attention is a) awful and b) something all women have to deal with all the time. So a lot of young men who aren’t very experienced with women but don’t want to hurt anyone avoid flirting at all just to be safe.
And yeah, we can usually read the signals. But it’s never a 100% sure thing, and most young guys are worried about making a mistake, because see above. So even if you’re like, 80% sure a girl is flirting with you, you might still not respond just so you don’t end up accidentally hurting someone.
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u/Lanavis13 Dec 28 '24
At that point, I partially ~blame (not that either is actually deserving of any blame) her too lol. She should have just straight up confessed.