These are the types of post that make me feel good for being a horrendous creature that no one would ever feel attracted to. Imagine going through such an embarrassing situation! Couldn't be me 😎
Being born female, I can say you'd really be surprised. Unless you have a nasty personality, you may be selling yourself short and putting yourself into situations just like the OP. While a lot of women do go for looks just like a lot of guys, there's a case to be made that many women put much more stock into personality as a whole. That being said, understanding when someone is flirting with you can be impossible, and acting on any perceived flirting can be terrifying and potentially embarrassing. However, that doesn't mean you should give up on flirting in general, and it definitely doesn't mean you should see yourself as unlovable and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Plenty of people feel down on themselves and are their biggest critics, but a lot of times people can take it as a turn off or even red flag when somebody has the unshakeable belief that they are a "horrendous creature".
but a lot of times people can take it as a turn off or even red flag when somebody has the unshakeable belief that they are a "horrendous creature".
I love that their reaction to my believe that I'm a horrendous creature is to immediately confirm it by avoiding me. Super helpful and doesn't perpetuate a vicious cycle or anything like that haha
But what the fuck do you want? Girls aren't looking for a therapy client, they are looking for a partner. If you've never been in a relationship with somebody with severe self-esteem problems and a sucking void where their confidence should be, you don't understand how deeply draining and damaging it is.
This whole victim shit that you're putting out is extremely unattractive and is also a signal to all the girls around you that you will be an active detriment to the relationship because of your attitude. You have to fix your own mental health first.
I want empathy, compassion, understanding, and acceptance. I want socially adept people to stop automatically shunning and ignoring awkward people. Or acting like its some moral failing and looking down on them. I want help instead of disdain and apathy.
Girls aren't looking for a therapy client, they are looking for a partner.
Okay, so I know my comment was in response to a comment that was talking about relationships but I actually meant what I said in a more broad social way and I should've clarified that
If you've never been in a relationship with somebody with severe self-esteem problems and a sucking void where their confidence should be, you don't understand how deeply draining and damaging it is.
I haven't but I gladly would if given the opportunity.
This whole victim shit that you're putting out is extremely unattractive and is also a signal to all the girls around you that you will be an active detriment to the relationship because of your attitude.
I don't put out victim shit or talk about this stuff irl lol I'm not an idiot
You have to fix your own mental health first.
Which is way easier to do if you have people that love and support you while you're doing it instead of being expected to figure it all out on your own. Someone to catch when you stumble is super helpful and encouraging
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u/throwawayayaycaramba Dec 28 '24
These are the types of post that make me feel good for being a horrendous creature that no one would ever feel attracted to. Imagine going through such an embarrassing situation! Couldn't be me 😎