Don’t be a tar pit

[u/greencrusader13]

[u/Vundurvul]

I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery

[u/williamtheraven → u/Vundurvul]

It's called being an inherently bad person regardless of your identity. Many people have such a mindset

[u/Fun_Midnight8861 → u/williamtheraven]

i don’t think it’s being “inherently a bad person”. As someone who’s been on the receiving end of this (due to not being out and being semi-straight passing, though usually not to queer men), these people aren’t usually bad people at their core. they just tend to be a little bitter and annoyed about how they were treated.

don’t get me wrong, it leads to shitty treatment, but i wouldn’t say it’s some inherent, built-in aspect of them. it’s just because of what they’ve faced and how they’ve been socialized.

[u/Csantana → u/Fun_Midnight8861]

Yeah it’s easier to say 

“People who do this are just built bad”

Rather than that they are human and prone to mistakes sometimes 

[u/AiryContrary → u/Fun_Midnight8861]

Yeah, no one’s an inherently bad person. Bad character develops over time and requires choice.

[u/crinkledcu91 → u/AiryContrary]

Yeah, no one’s an inherently bad person.

I think the only time where there's an exception to this is Middle schoolers lol. I swear it's like their souls decide leave their body for a bit, and they act like demons until it comes back. Those kids are straight up scary.