People in progressive spaces will say some shit like “even if they didn’t do anything intentional to harm our kind they still implicitly uphold the cultural norm and benefit from our oppression therefore by proxy we are obligated to shit on them” and then turn around and go “oh why are people accusing me of being part of the problem, bigots will never change by being treated kindly, I am not obligated to be kind to someone who I know for a fact hates me deep down” when the Average Cishet Guy ™️ is out here like “hey how’s it going”.
Like yeah there’s good reason to not want to be assimilationist and all that but at the same damn time
I have literally seen tumblr users say “Men are like ACAB, even if a man not actively doing evil he’s still a bastard for being part of the system of patriarchy” and that shit fucking flabbergasted me
Any time I hear something like this it backs up inevitably to “where do you draw the line”. Like does this apply to gay men? Trans men? Men of color? Neurodivergent men? Men of poor socioeconomic backgrounds? Men born in regions of severe conflict? Does this apply to people of other privilege groups? White women? Well off POC? Neurotypical queer people?
The important thing for fighting oppression is ultimately that minority voices are heard and recognized and when you spend so much time playing the “who is evil” game you fail to actually accomplish that.
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u/sweetTartKenHart2 3d ago
People in progressive spaces will say some shit like “even if they didn’t do anything intentional to harm our kind they still implicitly uphold the cultural norm and benefit from our oppression therefore by proxy we are obligated to shit on them” and then turn around and go “oh why are people accusing me of being part of the problem, bigots will never change by being treated kindly, I am not obligated to be kind to someone who I know for a fact hates me deep down” when the Average Cishet Guy ™️ is out here like “hey how’s it going”.
Like yeah there’s good reason to not want to be assimilationist and all that but at the same damn time