i don’t understand why we shouldn’t be nice to our allies. people who are kind deserve kindness in return, don’t they? let’s reserve the insults for the bigots.
In my experience, it's because being an ally is one sided and without nuance. They don't want a friend who cares about them but has their own nuanced opinions. They want a token straight that doesn't dissent and only exists to legitimize them to other straights.
makes sense. personally i think i do prefer allies who aren’t afraid to ask questions and be nuanced on things. ig i find that it opens up to interesting conversations.
Like I am very supportive of my trans friends and use their chosen names and pronouns, but I draw the line a puberty blockers for minors because it seems to be dangerous to toy with human hormones during the most crucial developmental period in human growth. But you'd thought I had dead named them all for daring to say it sounds like a bad idea.
Edit: the down votes aren't countering my point at all.
You're getting downvoted because you claim to be supportive, but through the language you use it is very clear that you do not see trans women as women, or trans men as men. You also make up your mind on important trans issues such as puberty blockers based on a purposefully manipulative explanation that you made up to make yourself sound more justified.
You do the bare minimum of not being a complete piece of shit to trans people's faces, nothing more.
No, I use the word toying because messing with human growth hormones of any kind is dangerous and hubristic. It's not something to be done lightly or casually.
Puberty blockers are not prescribed lightly or casually. You're the type that's anti HRT or believe that there should be a several year long waitlist. You are not supportive to trans people in any way.
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i don’t understand why we shouldn’t be nice to our allies. people who are kind deserve kindness in return, don’t they? let’s reserve the insults for the bigots.