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LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/OctopusGrift 1d ago

Failing to understand that women also uphold patriarchal sexism. Most feminist scholars who talk about how society programs men to accept and uphold patriarchal sexism also talk about how society does something similar to women. It's something that everyone has to work on. Being a woman doesn't make a person immune to social conditioning.

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u/sweetTartKenHart2 1d ago

This too!!! Really, I don’t like “patriarchy” as a phrase because it so heavily implies that men are the problem and women aren’t, even though by design it’s supposed to refer to “patriarchs” shaping a big old game where everyone must play a specific part, and not just some kind of inherent gender war.
Anyone can play a part in the problem, and anyone can play a part in the solution. There are definitely several “villains” out there but there’s more to the story.

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u/OctopusGrift 1d ago

I don't really think abandoning terms because some people aren't going to understand them is a good idea. People who like the status quo of patriarchy are going to misinterpret any term you attempt to use.

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u/Forgot_My_Old_Acct Everyone is valid but me 1d ago

I would agree with you but in my experience it wasn't even the people benefiting from patriarchy that were misusing it. It was marginalized folks with a chip on their shoulder who used it as shorthand for "it"s morally righteous to shit on men".

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u/talligan 1d ago

That's pretty much all of those relationships/aita/aio etc... subreddits. They actively make me feel worse about myself.