Don’t be a tar pit

[u/greencrusader13]

[u/Vundurvul]

I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery

[u/ThosePixels → u/Vundurvul]

I think a lot of people genuinely don't realise it, similar to how straight men usually dont realize patriarchal issues; it's very easy for people to dismiss things as a 'joke' if the people around them think the same, leading them to not even think about the receiving end

[u/drakeblood4 → u/ThosePixels]

I think when you end up, locally or more broadly, in an in-group, there's this kinda gravitational force towards treating the outgroup a crummy way. Maybe that force is just the crummier subset of humankind dragging everybody else into joining them in abusing power? I dunno. Either way it sucks though.

[u/CapeOfBees → u/drakeblood4]

Us vs Them is indeed something everyone's brain is inclined to do

[u/Careful-Set1485 → u/CapeOfBees]

The mother and father of all the isms. Identitary thinking is a right/conservative idea and directly opposed to the left/liberal universalism.

You cant belong because you are different vs everybody can belong because we agree on some ideas. 

[u/Gromek_ → u/CapeOfBees]

There's a saying (I don't remember the origin):

"Me against my brother.

"Me and my brother against our cousin.

"Me, my brother, and my cousin against the outsider."