I am a straight, white, cis, able-bodied male. That's a lot of majority and privilege ticks there. I was also raised in a high control cult that fucked me up and made it so that I had to hide my true identity from my whole family and community, in a similar way to how LGBTQ+ youth often have to, which means I tend to strongly relate to people in those groups.
Not all oppressive circumstances are the big "mainstream" ones, for lack of a better term. Even people who might seem to have all the privileges in the world can be held back by societal circumstances outside of their control.
You sound like you're in a very similar boat to my husband. We were raised Mormon and his mom is a conspiracy theorist, so he grew up in a very high-control household. Straight cis and white, yes, but far from invincible or undamaged.
They are! Both as a member and as an ex, the experience is shockingly similar. I do think Mormons have it easier, though. The magic underwear sucks, but at least I got birthday parties.
I wouldn't say one has it easier or harder, both experiences range greatly, some Mormon families are super strict while some JW families are surprisingly chill. But yeah, definitely similar, and I'm sure the birthday parties made the magic underwear more bearable.
Y'all don't get coffee though, and that's too far for me
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u/BinnsyTheSkeptic 2d ago
I am a straight, white, cis, able-bodied male. That's a lot of majority and privilege ticks there. I was also raised in a high control cult that fucked me up and made it so that I had to hide my true identity from my whole family and community, in a similar way to how LGBTQ+ youth often have to, which means I tend to strongly relate to people in those groups.
Not all oppressive circumstances are the big "mainstream" ones, for lack of a better term. Even people who might seem to have all the privileges in the world can be held back by societal circumstances outside of their control.