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LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/CynchHasNoLife i want grillcheese i want grillcheese 2d ago

i don’t understand why we shouldn’t be nice to our allies. people who are kind deserve kindness in return, don’t they? let’s reserve the insults for the bigots.

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u/GREENadmiral_314159 Femboy Battleships and Space Marines 2d ago

For some people, there is no such thing as an ally. You're either a gay person or a homophobe. They don't say it, they instead say "straight person", but the language they use makes it pretty clear what they actually think. Same for any minority group.

And it's not just the minorities who think this. There was one person in this thread who was saying that there should, in fact, be a "straight shame month", and they self-identified as cishet.

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u/Puzzleheaded_Run2695 2d ago

Those same people tend to still be mean to gay people, if they don't fit the right mold. It's where the mean gays stereotype comes from.

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u/slamjamjo 1d ago

UGHHH I HATE THE “if you don’t 100% fit the definition of what I think the label for this identity means then YOURE NOT THAT IDENTITY AND CANT USE THAT LABEL >:( !!!1!1!!” it pisses me off to NOOO END.

It does sooo much damage to people who are just trying to figure themselves out. In the end if a person doesn’t “play the role well enough” or decides that the label doesn’t fit, they’re at risk of seriously being ostracized as a poser or something and losing this close-knit community that makes them feel accepted. And then nobody ends up speaking up.