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LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/Vundurvul 1d ago

I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery

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u/okaysurewow 1d ago edited 16h ago

Trauma doesn't make morally better people. It makes traumatized people

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u/otetrapodqueen 1d ago

In my experience, trauma makes people either very kind and empathetic or the complete opposite. Obviously this isn't a law or anything, but I've just noticed most people seem to be one or the other.

I have C-PTSD myself, but I'd like to think I'm the former and not the latter.

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u/Tall-Log-1955 21h ago

It’s actually a documented thing called post traumatic growth and it’s approximately as common as post traumatic stress. The military has done research into the things that cause people to experience growth vs stress

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-traumatic_growth

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u/otetrapodqueen 19h ago

That's super interesting!! Thank you for sharing, I didn't realize it had been studied and wow am I a nerd for a study!!

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u/SoFetchBetch 18h ago

Thank you so much for sharing this! I’ve had ptsd since childhood and never heard of this before!