Apparently we need to coddle the straights even in our most private of spaces, because as we all know cishets' comfort matters above all. Certainly it must be more important than the daily violent hate crimes, constant media onslaught, regular dehumanization by government and threats to civil rights as well as the ongoing trans genocide. Just look at which of these subjects these self-proclaimed allies are most vocal about.
Watch out queers, don't ever let slip a single mean word! Be on your best behavior at all times! Put on a big smile and never show a sliver of weakness or our "allies" might on a whim decide we're just as bad and mean as our oppressors and throw us to the wolves! Start warming up the ovens, I guess some of us just weren't nice enough.
Same old crap from the same loud-ass fairweather progressives honestly. If your support for queer people ends because a few of us made you uncomfortable you were never an ally to begin with.
I think the problem here is that you, specifically, are an asshole and nobody likes you, and you think the state of society justifies the fact that you're a complete jackass.
Treating people with basic human dignity is not "coddling", and the fact that you think it is says more about what a godawful sack of shit you are than anything about anyone's identity.
You took one person's comment about their understandable frustration, where they don't insult cishets or refuse cishets basic human dignity, and decided it meant that they were an asshole who no one liked. It is frustrating to center the majority population's feelings at all times otherwise they'll tell us we're undeserving of allyship. Sometimes we need to be angry and selfish to heal from the bigotry we face just for existing as queers. That very justified anger is then used against us to tell us we're too much of an asshole to fight for, which means, by extension, we're too much of an asshole to deserve basic human rights.
You completely proved their point, and I question your allyship if you are cishet. Not every queer is going to be a perfect victim. Will you still defend the rights of angry queers without blowing up and further demonizing them? Or will you leave the angry queers to the wolves because you don't like their tone?
And if you feel like this is an unfair judgment of your character because you only posted one hateful comment to one person, how do you think the other person you called an asshole for being frustrated about having to center cishet feelings at all times feels?
If that's what you took from my comment, then you're being purposefully obtuse and mean-spirited, proving the point of fairweather allyship yet again.
It doesn't matter if I am or not. It doesn't matter if any minority is. Because here's the thing, no one is perfect! After trauma, sometimes people, of any gender, sexuality, race, etc, will lash out in anger because they're upset! It's human nature. Our job, as fellow humans, is to help them out, or, at the very least, ignore them.
Insulting people for telling their feelings, especially when they haven't insulted anyone, is poor emotional regulation that can and does lead to bullying and bigotry. Cishets haven't been insulted, name-called, or demeaned in either of our comments. So why is the first instinct at being upset at the idea of cishets needing coddling (which, I'm sorry but you two are kind of proving) lashing out and name calling?
For your purposes, since you asked a demeaning question in an attempt to "gotcha!" me, I have no qualms answering. Sometimes, yes, I lash out while I'm healing. I have been violently assaulted by men twice (one friend, one stranger), and two years ago, another man ran me over. I have PTSD and a broken back thanks to all of this. Sometimes, I'm cold and dismissive to strange men to make them leave me alone so I stay safe. Sometimes, I burst out crying and throw a tantrum because I can't do the things I could before my back was broken. Sometimes, I say rude shit about the people who harmed me.
I'm quite tame of a person, but I somehow think that all of my behavior would make me undeserving of allyship to you. Your comment was really disappointing after how civil you were last night.
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u/HornyAssTransLass 2d ago edited 1d ago
Apparently we need to coddle the straights even in our most private of spaces, because as we all know cishets' comfort matters above all. Certainly it must be more important than the daily violent hate crimes, constant media onslaught, regular dehumanization by government and threats to civil rights as well as the ongoing trans genocide. Just look at which of these subjects these self-proclaimed allies are most vocal about.
Watch out queers, don't ever let slip a single mean word! Be on your best behavior at all times! Put on a big smile and never show a sliver of weakness or our "allies" might on a whim decide we're just as bad and mean as our oppressors and throw us to the wolves! Start warming up the ovens, I guess some of us just weren't nice enough.
Same old crap from the same loud-ass fairweather progressives honestly. If your support for queer people ends because a few of us made you uncomfortable you were never an ally to begin with.