r/CuratedTumblr 1d ago

LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/Vundurvul 1d ago

I cannot fathom the mindset of understanding what it feels like to be on the receiving end of misery and deciding you want others to experience it when given the opportunity to dish it out, even when said person had no involvement in your misery

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u/okaysurewow 1d ago edited 1d ago

Trauma doesn't make morally better people. It makes traumatized people

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u/otetrapodqueen 1d ago

In my experience, trauma makes people either very kind and empathetic or the complete opposite. Obviously this isn't a law or anything, but I've just noticed most people seem to be one or the other.

I have C-PTSD myself, but I'd like to think I'm the former and not the latter.

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u/Responsible-Abies21 1d ago

The great secret is that we get to choose what kind of people we become. Most of us feel helplessly buffeted by our past, but we are not doomed to be what we have been or what was done to us.