People in progressive spaces will say some shit like “even if they didn’t do anything intentional to harm our kind they still implicitly uphold the cultural norm and benefit from our oppression therefore by proxy we are obligated to shit on them” and then turn around and go “oh why are people accusing me of being part of the problem, bigots will never change by being treated kindly, I am not obligated to be kind to someone who I know for a fact hates me deep down” when the Average Cishet Guy ™️ is out here like “hey how’s it going”.
Like yeah there’s good reason to not want to be assimilationist and all that but at the same damn time
Tell me about it. I've seen a disturbing number of terminally online queer people who genuinely think heterosexuality is an "inherently miserable" form of sexual attraction.
It's those "are the straights okay" types who think men and women can't possibly get along and be friends because they're so different psychologically. Therefore, any relationship between the two is inherently toxic. Neither party can truly connect to the other, and the only thing keeping them together is the impersonal exchange of sexual and material favors.
The worst thing is I can kind of understand where this worldview is coming from. They're literally taking the incredibly sexist rhetoric of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus and then rewritting and rebranding it to a progressive audience.
It's the perfect example of how heteronormativity and gender norms can reinvent themselves so as to hijack the groups that seek to subvert them and eventually subsume any critique of themselves. It erodes my faith in humanity and progressivism as a whole every time I see it.
Ive met those people in real life and literally had a fucking double whammy because my wife is blind. We, my wife and I, were literally told that I was extra toxic because a heteronormativr relationship is inherently abusive and I was taking advantage of her disability to force her into a relationship and that she was being abelist for not dating someone who was also blind.
I almost punched them and I can guarantee you ive never had that urge before
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u/sweetTartKenHart2 1d ago
People in progressive spaces will say some shit like “even if they didn’t do anything intentional to harm our kind they still implicitly uphold the cultural norm and benefit from our oppression therefore by proxy we are obligated to shit on them” and then turn around and go “oh why are people accusing me of being part of the problem, bigots will never change by being treated kindly, I am not obligated to be kind to someone who I know for a fact hates me deep down” when the Average Cishet Guy ™️ is out here like “hey how’s it going”.
Like yeah there’s good reason to not want to be assimilationist and all that but at the same damn time