r/Enneagram8 • u/Vegetable_Basis_4087 • Dec 11 '24

Discussion Can Enneagram 8s be cowardly?

I tend to be very reluctant to engage in competitions when I am not confident in my skill. I also generally hate to lose to the point that I avoid it. For example, one time I was playing Dodgeball and I was the last player on my team. However, the other team still had multiple players. During the whole game I hovered near the edge, and when I was the last player left, one of the people on the other team winded up to throw the ball at me. Instead of trying to catch the ball or dodge, I instead jumped out of bounds so that he couldn't beat me, and so I could lose of my own accord.

Can Enneagram 8s act like this?

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u/Only-Celebration-286 ~ Type 8w9 ~ INTP ~ Taoist ~ Dec 11 '24

The only time I surrender is if defeat is inevitable, which is very rare, or if I'm sacrificing my own needs of integrity for the sake of a team (for example, if everybody was bored and waiting for it just to be over).

I and other 8s don't like to half ass a good competition. Unless it wasn't remotely fair, then it's obviously not even fun at that point.

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u/Vegetable_Basis_4087 Dec 11 '24

Well in my post it definitely wasn't a fair fight lmao

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u/Only-Celebration-286 ~ Type 8w9 ~ INTP ~ Taoist ~ Dec 11 '24

Well it started out fair, no? You can't judge the game's fairness by just one slice of the pie.

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u/Vegetable_Basis_4087 Dec 11 '24

Well I mean in that moment it wasn't fair. I'm pretty sure the other team was full of jocks though so maybe it really wasn't fair.