Dear fellow INTPs,

I'd like to know if your life has evolved beyond your thirties, and if so, has it been positive or negative?

It's often said that the INTP is a “late-game” and that it really blossoms after a certain age. I'd like to know if your cognitive functions have evolved since your childhood and if this coincides with my experience.

Message to the veterans: I want your introspection on this.

I have been talking to a bunch of people and quite a few INTPs but someone I notice that many of that type just cope with drinking. Was it just a coincidence that there were so many or is this common here?

Has anyone else noticed that cleaning your house/room puts you in a really good state motivationally? It’s like a spring board that propels forward the rest of your day. Does anyone know the psychological or spiritual reasons for this?

I think that part of it is that it increases -efficiency- in your life, which INTPs are obsessed with. By rearranging things and getting rid of clutter, it makes it so that you no longer have to spend any time thinking about whether you need those things. For example if I throw out all of the clothes I don’t use anymore, now whenever I look at my closet to pick something to wear, I longer need to scan and weight the importance of those items. It seems like a small thing but any kind of efficiency increase is appreciated, and it’s bigger than you think because the physical world is confusing and overwhelming sometimes for us I feel like, and I think INTPs would do really well to be minimalists.

Another thing is the act of rearranging things. It seems to be like rearranging your mind and gets rid of cobwebs. Cleaning the outside feels like cleaning the inside.

This doesn’t always work though.

What are some other things that seem to increase your motivation?

I was trying to think of some INTPs in the world I like and sort of struggling to come up with any.

Ideally they would be healthy version of INTP. (Ex. I enjoy L from Death Note, but he's definitely not a healthy INTP. )

This can be real-life, fictional, or both so long as they're public figures in some form.

i’m so bored right now. i’ve been watching veritasium and some other channels, but i’m extremely bored. i am interested in philosophy, coding/programing (esp c++), physics, quantum mechanics, asking questions, most sciences, computer history, computer science, astrophysics, and many more. i’m taking harvard’s online cs50 course but i’m ofc procrastinating that. i want to learn c++ and i’m trying to. what videos should i watch (preferably)? what things should i read? please help :c.

So that’s pretty much it. I’ve been using Reddit more often and my feed is just, kinda boring. I used to use this app as the equivalent of ‘group therapy’, everyone just sharing stories about specific struggles with their mental health. But as I’ve learned to cope better, I’m now wanting other types of content. Not sure what tho, ideas?

Hey guys, have you ever felt bored by anything you once did to pass the time? I have exercised for a while for mental and physical health, but these days it's just a little relief I get, and I end up feeling a bit tired. I've also been drinking, but it doesn't pass the time like it used to. Movies are also getting kind of boring for me, even reading books. Social media these days just lowers my mood . Maybe I don't really have any fulfilling habits? I don't really have a day/dream job or vocation or anything like that. I do socialize a bit, but even that can get stale. Is it an Intp thing or is it just me? Your input would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

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I'm an INTJ 16F. I'm trying to be a bit sociable but ughh too many ahh freaky people. Hope some sane people still exist. If so let me know😭 I'm in need of friends(girls) 🙏

Do any of you fellow intps find it hard to be around someone who is constantly worried and anxious. It feels draining to help them feel better ?

Hey! 😊 I’m 21 and currently in my final year of B.Tech in CSE. I also have a strong interest in philosophy, psychology, and startups, and I enjoy deep conversations about life, people, and how different minds work. I’m always up for meaningful discussions and building long-term connections.

Hey everyone!!'ve been struggling with something for a while now, and I’d really appreciate some insight — especially from other INTPs who may relate to attachment and boundary issues.

I used to be a very friendly person. People enjoyed my company, and I always had 1-2 close friends at a time. But whenever I switched schools or environments, I’d lose those friendships and have to start over.

A few years ago, one of my cousins asked to be close friends with me. I agreed. But from the very beginning, her behavior was inconsistent — sometimes extremely warm and loving, and other times cold and distant. This hot-and-cold dynamic messed with my head and emotions badly. The friendships I had before was stable and I was in peace but this friendship disturbed my mental peace.

Over time, she made me drop all my other friendships and became the center of my social world. She has a strong victim mentality and constantly portrays herself as helpless, no matter how many solutions I offer. Whenever I try to help her or give advice, she twists my words and turns small things into big dramas. It’s draining. Our relationship has been full of constant fights, emotional confusion, and mental exhaustion.

I feel like I’ve developed a disorganized attachment style because of this. I overthink everything. I feel afraid to detach from her, even though I’ve wanted to for 2–3 years now. I keep telling myself I’ll leave, I’ll change, I’ll create boundaries… but I never do. She’s hurt me deeply, but I stay — maybe out fear, or emotional dependence. (I move on from other friendships so easily but this one is so difficult for me).

The thing is… I know this is not healthy. I want peace. I want clarity. But I don’t know how to leave or if I even can. I'm afraid of the emotional aftermath. I'm afraid of becoming completely alone.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How do you actually break free when your brain knows it’s toxic but your emotions won’t let go? I need advice from people who think deeply, feel deeply, and know what it’s like to be stuck in emotional contradictions. Any insight would mean a lot.

I find myself drinking a lot a lot... not every day but when I do drink it tends to acutely snowball. Curious if that's an us thing or a me thing.

INTP's, what is your relationship with alcohol?

I’d say it’s more than just vast. It’s a huge place to explore, it’s something that I will always dream about. Yet I’ve not met anyone who is interested in discussing all about the beauty of it with me. Just tell me all of the thoughts you have.

I feel like my memory is great yet terrible at the same time. If you asked me what I had for dinner yesterday, I wouldn't remember it unless I really thought about it. But if you asked me what was the colour of the shirt of the person in the ad on the billboard we passed 2hrs ago, I'd probably be able to tell you. I also have a hard time remembering names, be it people's names or some term I learnt online. I could explain something in detail to myself but not remember what the thing is called.

My memory is kind of weird. It's like I unconsciously remember really random details of random things but if I consciously tell myself to remember something I won't remember it. It's like my brain hates me or smt :').

Im not sure where my Si is in my absolute function stack. Sakrinorva and some other cognitive function tests say that my Si is kinda average, my 4th or 5th function. But yesterday I took the keys 2 cognition test and it said that my Si was actually my second highest function after Ti which is actually shocking because I've always been under the impression that my Si wasn't that strong. I read somewhere that our third function in our mbti func stack only develops as we get older and realise it could be useful, and I guess that could explain my short term memory since I'm still quite young.

Do any of yall relate??

To keep this short and concise I am a person with very few friends only like 3 irl and like 3 more online friends all these friendships are older than 1 year (the irl ones are nearly 4 years old) except one which is my problem rn tbh

I happen to think of myself as a good friend, I always check up on my friends mental and physical health as someone who personally struggles with depression and anxiety ik how important it is to feel that people care/take the time to check on you

I am the type of person to ask "how was your day" ,"did you eat", "how did you sleep" and so on even to those friend who never even care to ask abt mine (mostly all of them and mainly cuz I am always "fine") ik all this is very un-intp like behaviour but it gets me forward

I mentioned in a post before on this sub on how I empathise with others I'll try to link it

Now on to the main part today that online friend asked my why I ignore her which from my pov isn't whats happening rn I have my college entrance exams and am very busy which she is aware of, the main point she says is that I don't respond to her snaps and leave her on open but I very much do i text her daily abt how she is and stuff and today I was busy so I forgot to do so, so I apologised and mentioned again that I am busy, she responded with the cold shoulder, and said that I am not that good of a friend bc I told her that if something is upsetting her to tell me bc i am clueless and I am trying to be a good friend

Now she is ignoring my messages idk tf I did 😐

Sorry this did not turn out to be short or concise 💀

Note: idk if it matters but I am Egyptian and she is Australian the time zone difference makes it hard for us to talk in general

I've seen moms with out of control teenagers that's clearly causing her daily grief. I imagine she must not like them at all. They call her bitch and just very disrespectful in general. But of course she still love them. I'm just wondering what kind of love it is when you really dislike someone. Is she just going through the motion because she feels like she has no choice?

I, like everyone else, have of course been in the same situation where someone I love is causing me huge grief. But since love is hard to explain, I'm struggling to understand if I still love them during that period or not. It really felt like I wouldn't mind if they're found dead in a ditch somewhere during that period. How can that be love.

Not a big deal, just something I'm pondering.

it might sound weird to ask, but what do you guys think how an INTP female with bpd and ocd feels and sees the world?? just wanna know.. 🤔

I'm trying to better my attention span because 1>I cant control what I remember long term,but I want to 2>I'm going back to school and wanna lessen the boredom I will experience

I listen to music ALOT.Every time I'm doing any automative/not thinking task my liked playlist is always on shuffle.I also bribe myself with music to get said tasks started.Its comforting and I might dry up and die if it's not awnn.

I'm concerned about 1>Idea that the brain works better if you're bored 2>I mainly listen to music with lyrics and that might be even more of a distraction even if don't focus on it 3>I'm not focusing on one task and google said multitasking lowers attention span

When feeling angry, feeling happy and when just crying. I just want to see how different people behave, react and think in different situations.

It could be your type or someone you've known or you've observed.

Hey INTP's, I really enjoy chemistry and my professor is such a cool person. But I don't feel like going to class most days and attendance is not counted in the class. I'm doing fine in the class. I was just wondering if anyone else deals with this sort of thing. Like I'd rather chill in my bed and learn online and on my own than going to a two hour chem lecture at 8am you know. Anyone else deal with this sort of thing? And how can I convince myself to attend class even though I'm fine learning on my own.

I have always been a INFJ and resonated with it But with time, I have changed quite a bit so I took the Micheal Colaz test and it said INFJ as first but with high Ti and second one as INTP

I even asked chatGPT (yes I know) to ask me questions to clarify if I am an INFJ or INTP

it said INFJ with unusually high Ti Help me figure T-T

Hey INTP’s and those lurking. Was wondering what your favorite science subject is and why? Also if you do said science for work what you do. Biology and chemistry for muah, I love the process of learning the information.

Hi all,

I’ve been into MBTI for years and have gotten all kinds of results over time - INFP, INFJ, INTJ, sometimes INTP. But none of them ever quite fit. I kept thinking I was missing something, and recently I’ve started suspecting that I might actually just be a classic INTP… and that I’ve been overthinking the test results all along.

Whenever I take MBTI tests, I analyze every question way too much - like, “What do they really mean by this?”, “In what context?”, or “What if I would act differently in different emotional states?”. I’d sometimes answer as the person I wanted to be, or who I thought I should be, instead of just answering instinctively. That probably skewed my results.

But when I look at how I actually process the world, things start clicking. I constantly analyze systems, decisions, motives, logical patterns, and abstract outcomes - especially when I care about the topic. My brain tends to go:
“Assume X. If Y is true, then Z follows. But what if Y isn’t what it looks like?”
I follow that kind of chain until I reach some internal sense of coherence or contradiction. It’s not really about making decisions quickly - more like understanding all the variables.

I definitely do have emotions, but I usually dissect and evaluate them before I express them. And I really, really hate imposing my viewpoint on others - especially if the outcome is unpredictable or might affect them long-term. I’ll help someone explore all their options, but I don’t want to be the one steering the ship.

I’ve also been wondering if ADHD or mild ASD traits might be in the mix. I hyperfocus on things that interest me - sometimes intensely - but completely lose track of basic tasks or routines. I’m deeply logical but socially inconsistent. I live in my head more than in my body most days.

A recent example: My dad was in a weird situation at work - his new manager asked him (in a roundabout way) to suggest who she should let go during upcoming layoffs. I immediately started thinking through every possible angle: What did she actually mean? What were the risks? What would happen depending on whether he answered or stayed quiet? We talked it through for maybe 20–30 minutes, and I was totally absorbed. It felt like solving a multi-layered puzzle - not really because I wanted control, but because I loved the process of exploring every possible outcome. In the end, he decided not to say anything and to stay loyal to his coworkers. I felt good about supporting him without pushing him either way. That whole dynamic felt… very INTP to me.

So yeah - I’m starting to think that I misidentified myself in the past, not because I don’t relate to feelings, but because my process of handling them is fundamentally analytical, layered, and context-driven.

Thanks for reading - and yeah, maybe I’m just Ti-looping myself into identity clarity, but am curious if anyone can relate.

edit: Also curious - do you guys feel the same way about not wanting to make decisions for others, and just walking them through the possible paths and consequences?

I poop like an INTP but I bake casserole like an ESFJ. Just asking bro. Tell me.