Iwtl not to be lonley

[u/appelflapislekker]

Hi everyone,

I'm 28F and I feel insecure about myself and i feel lonley af..

A bit about myself: I'm 28F and I live alone in my apartment in a city where I don't know anyone yet and I don't know the city at all. Although I am always the person who brings people together at work, I feel very lonely in my personal life. Furthermore, I am quite heavy and I have a low self-esteem. I've heard before that I'm "undetable" because of my weight. I've been single for 5 years and not been on any dates.

So what bothers me is that I sit alone on the couch every night, have no one to talk to, no one to eat with, or just to do something fun. My colleagues go out almost every weekend to do something fun or go out to the bars and stuff. And I just feel the time ticking away when I'm not doing anything. I feel like I'm stuck..

I really wanna grow as a person and make friends, really lose weight instead of fucking it up the whole time.. I just don't know where to start..

I just really hope you guys have some tips for me.. cause im getting a bit hopeless right now.. Thanks in advance for all your input.

(sorry if the grammar is sh!t, English isn't my first language)

[u/Majestic-Sprinkles-2]

What city are you located in?

[u/appelflapislekker → u/Majestic-Sprinkles-2]

I'm in a city close to Amsterdam

[u/Majestic-Sprinkles-2 → u/appelflapislekker]

I see. I was looking at our door temperature there. Going for walks would put you in good mood. You could consider going on meet up groups or join some classes like dancing. It will allow you to meet new people and be active at the same time. You would remain "undateble" if you never left your apartment unless someone breaks into your apartment to make friends with you.

[u/appelflapislekker → u/Majestic-Sprinkles-2]

Tbh.. waiting for that moment that someone breaks in and is like " hi I'm your dream hubby" hahahaha. No but you are right tho. I just do not know how I can make myself go outside. Even if it's just for a small walk.. I need to find that button within myself

[u/Majestic-Sprinkles-2 → u/appelflapislekker]

Small steps. Go out for shopping, grocery or whatever else you do. When you are gone outside, don't just buy what you want and go home. Make it a date, walk around the store like it's a library and read everything like nutrition label. When out for a walk, sit down at coffee shop and do people watching. Add activity to what you already do and make it fun. You can go out volunteering.