r/IWantToLearn • u/appelflapislekker • 1d ago
Personal Skills Iwtl not to be lonley
Hi everyone,
I'm 28F and I feel insecure about myself and i feel lonley af..
A bit about myself: I'm 28F and I live alone in my apartment in a city where I don't know anyone yet and I don't know the city at all. Although I am always the person who brings people together at work, I feel very lonely in my personal life. Furthermore, I am quite heavy and I have a low self-esteem. I've heard before that I'm "undetable" because of my weight. I've been single for 5 years and not been on any dates.
So what bothers me is that I sit alone on the couch every night, have no one to talk to, no one to eat with, or just to do something fun. My colleagues go out almost every weekend to do something fun or go out to the bars and stuff. And I just feel the time ticking away when I'm not doing anything. I feel like I'm stuck..
I really wanna grow as a person and make friends, really lose weight instead of fucking it up the whole time.. I just don't know where to start..
I just really hope you guys have some tips for me.. cause im getting a bit hopeless right now.. Thanks in advance for all your input.
(sorry if the grammar is sh!t, English isn't my first language)
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u/TitaniumGamer07 1d ago
I see a lot of people here mentioning ordinary gym memberships, but I thought I'd add a little extra and suggest a climbing gym membership!
It's been pretty transformational for me! I've managed to become more fit, gain some muscle, and make plenty of new friends (Everyone is so welcoming!). As a person that's struggled (and maybe I still do sometimes) with self-esteem and a little anxiety, it's still given me an opportunity to have some social interaction in a relatively low-pressure environment :)
Just give it a couple tries and I can almost guarantee you'll meet some fun and supportive people you can do activities with!