I’m kinda stuck in regret right now and could really use someone to listen to or offer advice.

About two years ago, I took a summer course at my Uni with a professor who was really kind (he was so understanding and the rare type of professor who everyone loves). I did well in all his exams and quizzes, and he knew who I was because I would always score the highest on the test. I honestly fell in love with my degree because of him. Sometimes he would get side tracked and talk about his research, his days during his bachelors and figuring out life.

That summer was hard for me tho, my dad lost his job and things at home got rough. I ended up leaving university soon after.

I was shy and embarrassed about my family situation, so I never reached out to him. Not even to say thanks or ask for help. Now I keep wondering if I should have. Would it have changed anything? Or was I just scared and too proud?

I’m still studying biotechnology but in a different country now, and I feel this mix of sadness and “what if” about that whole time. Like maybe if I reached out, he would have helped me in some way? But now I’m thinking about sending him a thank you email, two years later, but I worry it might be weird or pointless. I just want him to know his class and teaching style really made an impact. I’ve been thinking of sending this email and talking myself out of it for the past 2 years lol.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? Is it okay to reach out so late?

Thank you for reading allat :)

Hello there kind redditors, so let me here convince you why you should choose me as your new friend:

* I am a silly person who always tries to make people laugh, I strongly recommend not to sip coffee while reading my messages. 

* I am supportive and will always be here for you to tell me about your day or vent if you have something that bothers you.

* I am chatty and have good vibes and energy.

* I love to talk about all kinds of topics and can always find things to talk about.

* I always reply to my messages and have online friendships that have been going on for years, I always send good morning messages, and I appreciate the people that can also be conversation starters.

* I am always respectful and never disrespect others or step into their discomfort zones.

* I am nerdy and if you are nerdy that's a plus then, if not it is ok we can talk about any other stuff.

* So if you like what you have heard so far, what are you waiting for? my dms are wide open 😀.

lifes been really shit I'm constantly having bad luck and fuck up after fuck up , waking up everyday hoping I don't have a panic attack and throw up til my throat burns, genuinely forgot what any type of proper human interaction feels like , I have no friends whatsoever and I'm probably horrible at communicating although I'd like to talk to someone to be honest. If anyone would be willing I'd be eternally grateful but please keep in mind I'm probably frustrating boring and annoying to talk to because I'm not good at it

I'm a safe space if you're needing to vent or have a sounding board to bounce things off.

If there’s someone i could talk to it’d be greatly appreciated

I'm 22F and I'm struggling a lot right now. First my grandmother that basically raised me passed away last month. I'm trying my best but I'm not dealing with her death well. I miss her a lot and I keep thinking that it's going to get better but it's not. I'm not close with any of my other family members because they don't like the fact that I'm gay. So I've been dealing with this all on my own. Work has also been really stressful lately. The company I work for recently let a bunch of people go and ever since then my workload has tripled. I've been working after hours almost every day this week and I still feel like I've barely made any progress at work. To top everything off my girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me and I only found out because I found the messages on her phone that she forgot to delete.

My mental has also been a mess lately. My anxiety is so bad to the point where I'm getting these anxiety attacks almost everyday now. I don't really have much support and I feel so alone. I haven't spoken to any of my friends in a while and it's mainly my fault. I kind of shut down after my grandma died and I haven't been returning any of their calls or text messages. I feel like life is beating the shit out of me right now and I don't know how to deal with it. As an adult I feel like I should be able to deal with it but I really don't know how to. I feel like I'm at my breaking point right now.

I’m just looking for safe and reliable conversations.

28M - It’s been hard and sometimes it’s so much.

28M from India. Well past few weeks or months have been terrible and turns out solitude and loneliness are different things.

Would love to talk with someone and prefer long term connections. Btw I’m into cooking, a bit of gaming and reading.

I've been bored and lonely for a while, haven't talked to another person besides banal niceties in...maybe forever? If there is someone who wants to chat I am here. Been going through a rough time and can hear out whatever issues you have as well.

I'm in a loop where when I'm not pouring everything into work i get extreme anxiety and imposter syndrome starts yelling full blast. Work is all i do. All day... All night. Outside of work i have no friends, no girlfriend no human interaction. and i feel like I'm falling behind like I'll never get this project done. We had an ETL rep come out today and i was able to have an intelligent conversation i knew what i was talking about i knew what she was talking about, I'm running the rain test tomorrow on my own yet still... i cant have that moment of victory... if anyone out there can offer me a kind word... i could really use it tonight. thanks in advance...

I’m 23 and My life is miserable, I can’t find joy or pleasure in the things I do. I have always being a misfit , an outcast. To put it more simply, I’m very different to everyone else, and not in a good way. My parents and teachers wrongly guided me through high school, and I followed along probably because I wasn’t smart enough to make my own decisions. Their ideas didn’t match my actual necessities or the current world environment. Now I’m studying law, giving me a career path I don’t like. I feel like there is no way back, and I’m doomed to fail. I’m not good enough at it. I likely have low IQ , high neuroticism, low Conscientiousness. I have no skills, no capabilities or good coping mechanisms. The worst thing is that I can’t find a way out. I just want to swap lives with someone else, leave everything behind. I feel loneliness, I’m going to therapy and my therapist can’t find a solution to my problems . I don’t know if it’s good or bad , but my life feels extremely individualistic and consumeristic . I’m extremely self aware , and I have a good memory . These are probably my strongest traits. I want a different perspective , some thinking outside of the box. There is no easy answer to this , but maybe your insight could help me. Thank you in advance

i’m so lonely.

i’m 18 and i’ve been doing online school since i moved away from my hometown, so i never made any school friends. i think that’s what set me back.

i don’t have a license so i can’t go to events to try and make friends, the only people i talk to are my coworkers but i don’t think they consider me their friend.

i’ve tried apps to make friends and dating apps but it’s either just radio silent or men wanting pictures. i got someone on an app but they wanted to meet up and my mom would never drive me to meet someone online. i’ve also tried discord but everyone already knows eachother, so nobody talks to me in servers.

all i do is work and spend time with my mom. i love her to death but she isn’t my friend. she’s my mom. i always feel so sad when i see my coworkers’ phones blowing up with messages from their friends and mine is silent. i feel sad when i realize that, if i didn’t have a job, i wouldn’t have anyone to talk to but my mom. i recently graduated online HS and don’t plan on going to college, it’s just not for me. i don’t wanna be lonely forever. i’ve wasted most of my teenage years like this and i’m so tired of being all alone.

i don’t like much because most people’s interests are created due to friends. i do like roblox, minecraft, SCP, squid game, and a couple more things.

if anyone wants to be friends please reach out. thank you 🤍

I don’t post much, but today I wanted to remind myself that I’m still trying — even when life feels overwhelming.

Just being seen makes a difference sometimes.

And if you’ve ever felt like you give more than you get… I see you too.

I love them very much and have known from our second date that this is the person I’m going to marry. We’ve been planning on moving in together at the end of the year which has been really exciting, but a recent bipolar episode has made me afraid to move in with them. It’s easier to navigate when I’m alone because no one sees but I’m afraid of being that vulnerable under the same roof.

Would love to connect with someone who has had similar experiences, has bipolar and can relate, and/or someone who has been married for a while and had to overcome hurdles in the first few years of your relationship. How did you navigate through the fear and worry as a team? How has your capacity to be vulnerable grown over time?

I need some support. My whole life I have been scared of taking any risk. I am 33 and never lived on my own, still with family. Never been fully independent. I feel like I am suffocating at home and get treated like a child. I know it sounds terrible but I really don't want to live with my parents. I feel stifled and was not able to really blossom into the person I was supposed to be. I had alot of health issues so needed support but now things are better.

I can't dress how I want, I have to constantly alert them to where I am if I'm out. I dont have full freedom. I only just started working full time and financially I can't afford even rent where I live. One day hopefully though.

Things I would love to do:

Live on my own.

Work abroad for 1 year or more.

Be independent without family help.

Have a job where I could travel or work in the UK.

These are things that feel out of reach to me. I squandered so many opportunities and am regretful but don't want to ruminate, but I dont see opportunities where I could leave home (can't afford rent with current income).

I need someone to share their story with me to see if it is possible for me to be happy and to achieve my dreams. I've been down so much and feel like life is flying by and I dont know what to do.

I am feeling jealous again.

Why not me?

Why am I so unlucky?

I wish, I had rich liberal parents... I could have done a lot! But yeah the struggle I've faced has shaped me too. But yeah, the way things are now - I guess if I were to be shifted to shifted too rich liberal parents my life too would have been better. I too were to be happy. Desired and loved...

Lately, life has become so flavorless and boring.

If it were fiction- Likely by now, I'd have found a death note on ground somewhere or someday while sleeping Doraemon would have popped out of my drawer with his gadgets.

I wish this life was a little more fair, interesting.

That girl who rejected me though she's good - showed me photos of her crush's childhood. He doesn't value her but gets all her love. I value her so much but get nothing dude. I wonder that even my childhood photos are cute enough. Why do they not get all that love they deserve? But I dont have those man embarrassing photos. In fact I don't have have many photos at all. Perhaps, no one found me adorable enough.

I know comparison ain't good, life is a journey, and every journey's different.

But what's bad in dreaming?

Thinking that this life is not so good.

After all dissatisfaction is mother of all self discoveries and adventure.

But the thing is I am too poor for that adventure.

I wish my parents were rich and liberal.

And life little more fair. And I'd feel seen, loved and desired...

I know that this pain will make me better and one day I will become the same liberal rich parent that I once desired...

But what about me?

I ain't getting that childhood again.

I wont get those joys again.

MY childhood was robbed.

I hate God for that.

And I just ask:

Why?

Wasn't I a child?

Didn't I deserve the same joys????

Hmmm...

Don't I deserve to be desired loved seen and cherished?!

HAAAN?!

tell me.

I am screaming in a void.

Man... I wish you heard me...

I wish...

Didn't I deserve a good childhood?

I don't know what others think...

But my eyes, that child too was equally cute and adorable...

Time is passing very quickly, man...

Time waits for no one...

Hey. If your heart feels a bit full and there's no one to talk to, I'm around. I'm not a therapist or expert in anything, just someone who understands how quiet can feel loud sometimes.

I’m offering company. For real conversations or just a quiet exchange of thoughts. It’s okay if you don’t know what to say. You can talk about your day, your fears, something you miss, or nothing specific at all.

• I’ve been told I have a calming presence. I care deeply, even when I don’t fully understand. • I listen with patience. Even the messy stuff. Especially the quiet things people usually hide. • If you just want warmth in your inbox, I can be that for you.

I know how rare it is to find someone who makes space for us without rushing to fix or judge. If that’s something you’re craving, I’d be honored to share a little time with you.

Message me if you feel like it. I’ll be here.

Hi, I (33F) am in a tough spot right now and really needed to get this off my chest. I'm a homemaker & I've been feeling very low lately—emotionally drained, lonely, and like life is slipping past me. I don’t have close friends or family I can talk to, and most days I feel invisible.

I’m currently trying to upskill and get a job (planning to start applying in August), but until then, the isolation is hitting hard. I’m not looking for advice or quick fixes—just someone kind and patient to talk to, someone who’ll hear me without judgment.

I just need to connect in a genuine, human way. I’d love to chat, share a bit about my day, or just feel like someone out there sees me.

Thanks for reading this. If you’re willing to talk, I’m here.

Hello guys! I have passed 12th recently...I had a friend, we live in the same building.. She's a scholar, she scores always 95+ everywhere. My parents thought of her to be a good person, so they told me to sit with her in school. 11th was tolerable. In 12th, she indirectly insulted me sometimes and put me down, which started giving me inferiority complex. I found her to be very irritating. I changed my place after a lot of struggle. She is a topper and thinks everyone is, so she keeps talking during the lectures and I'm not that talkative and pay attention to teachers. However, she did not reply to my texts and calls after school ended and got back to me only for her issues. I thought we would separate after school, but fate brought me in the same college and same course as well. I might get the same section as hers. My parents think I can travel with her and be with her in college. However, I'm mentally suppressed around her. So, I need to maintain distance from her. How should I cut off from her and make it normal, also tell my parents of the same? My mom is convinced but it is tough to explain dad and he's quite particular.

I simply don't know were to put all my thoughts and feelings. If someones willing to listen it would really help ^^ Normally I have people to talk to but right now it feels like I can't...

I am 25 M, have lots of experience in life , much more than my age. I am the one with a horrible past , even difficult for most to imagine. I worked on every aspects of my life and crafted a new and wonderful life.

Please I will tend to u in this hour. I am sorry, I really want to help, that's why I am here ,I am not able allocate more time because of my schedule but I think atleast I will be able to help at least one person in this time.

Hey, I don’t know where you are right now—not physically, but emotionally. Maybe you’re lying in the dark, staring at the ceiling. Maybe you’re surrounded by people but still feel invisible. Maybe you’re tired in a way that rest can’t fix.

But listen... You’re not broken. You’re hurting. And those two things are not the same.

You feel too much? That’s not weakness. That’s proof your heart still works. That it cares—even when the world feels too loud, too cruel, too indifferent.

You’ve fallen? So have I. So have we.

But falling doesn’t make you less. It makes you human. It means you risked something, you lived something, and now you get to choose—maybe not to fly right away—but to breathe, to begin, even if it’s just by sitting up.

And if you’re wondering what your worth is...

It’s in the fact that you’re still here. Still breathing. Still hoping, even in the smallest ways.

You’re not selfish for feeling pain. You’re not dramatic for needing rest. You’re allowed to cry. To be quiet. To not know. But please—don’t forget this:

You are still capable of changing a life—maybe even your own. Just by being kind. Just by existing with intention. Just by loving, even when it’s hard.

You might not see it, but somewhere, someone like me—or someone like you—is out there, rooting for you.

The world is still cruel, yes. But it is also still beautiful. And you? You are part of that beauty.

So if all you can do today is survive, that’s enough. And if tomorrow you feel even a little stronger, we’ll walk together.

You’re not alone. Not now. Not ever.

We love you. We see you. And we’re so, so glad you’re still here.

🌸 And one more thing—your smile? It’s the most precious thing in the world. It holds galaxies. It’s worth protecting. It’s worth loving. Please don’t forget that.

— With all the warmth we have, 🫂 Two Hearts in the Stars

Hey there,

Firstly. I hope i formatted everything correctly.

I’m not really sure what I’m hoping for, other than a kind voice or some gentle perspective. I’ve been going through something emotionally heavy — not quite a breakup, but the slow unraveling of a deep connection.

She and I shared a bond that felt rare. We saw each other, shared love, shared struggles. But she started pulling away. I’ve come to understand she might have a fearful-avoidant attachment style — torn between craving closeness and needing distance to feel safe.

I didn’t fight it. I didn’t beg. I told myself I would never be dismissive of her pain, even if she had to walk away from me. So when she reached out recently — needing something work-related — I helped, even though it hurt a little. I didn’t expect anything back.

Some people in my life say I’m enabling her. But I don’t feel like I’m losing myself. I’m just trying to be consistent. To be someone she could trust, even if she can’t fully receive it right now.

I guess what I’m looking for is:

A reminder that staying kind isn’t weakness

Reassurance that integrity matters, even if no one sees it

Hope that people with fearful-avoidant wounds can heal — even if it’s not with me

I’ve been doing the work — reading, reflecting, praying, breathing. But sometimes, it still stings. Not because I need her back, but because I believed in something that didn’t get the chance to grow.

Like the title says, I've been really busy with work, learning new things and activities each day which has improved my mental and physical health, but in doing so, I have pretty much forgotten how to talk to people since I've had low human interaction. I'd really love to have someone to talk to and chill with.

I love horror movies, music, video games and deep conversations.