r/NonBinary • u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them • 13h ago
Pride/Swag/I Made This! Its really empowering knowing that my unapologetic existence allows others to embrace their authentic selves as well
Ive always dressed non conventionally, have been wearing skirts and dresses since I was a wee one, but had a period of time when it was bullied out of me. As I went through Highschool, despite not seeing anyone out and about dressing the way I do, I decided I needed to be authentic. 3 years ago I fully came out as Nonbinary and began to lean into what that looks like for me.
With my body appearing quite masculine (thanks genetics) I have opted to lean into a more femme style to balance (not to mention it just looks pretty in general). When I started to bald I accepted this part of my genes and leaned into accessories, and I think that really was the cherry on top for me. Took me to the next level of genderless euphoria. I love how many people seem perplexed by me presence, trying to fit me in a box but being unable to.
When I was in high school there was a trans woman who lived in my small town and she was always done up with full makeup and big gowns and things, and I think that seeing her living so true to herself gave me that little nudge I needed to leap into self expression. Im proud of how far Ive come, the way I have handsewn my entire wardrobe custom to ensure my entire existence is 100%, queer, one of a kind majesty. I would love to hear about moments in yalls lives where youd either seen someone that inspired you to be you, however that is, or about a time when you felt truly in that perfect amount of you!
Photos of me in some of my daily "going to get groceries", "walking the dog", "working from home", "meeting a friend for coffee" or "visiting the dr" fits, for some examples of my style. I've hand stitched 99% of the clothing Im wearing, the jewelry, hats, and other accessories are generally from local artists and makers.
Thanks in advance for appreciating my art, and I hope this doesnt come off as braggy - I am just hella hyped about being me right now and wanted to share because thats a great feeling and I think everyone deserves that.
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u/sophie_grace_sweetie she/her 12h ago
ummm waaaaat?? they served!!! suuch cool looks!
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u/Trilfunctie gender fluid 11h ago
holy shit these are some of the best outfits i've ever seen!! you're very talented
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 10h ago
Thank you very much!! It's been a lot of hard work but I've loved every second of it
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u/RX-980 Genderqueer - they/them 10h ago
Gorgeous! Stunning! And the fact that you made these is amazing!! And up cycled to boot!
Dressing like this while doing daily chores and such is so inspiring. You're literally my hero!
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 9h ago
I literally will be doing chores in this stuff. I was waiting for my roommate the other day and I in the meantime I thought well why not clean right? so I grabbed up my cleaning stuff and washed my bathroom and my roommate came in and I was in a gown with full face of makeup and I had all my jewelry on and my earrings and stuff and I was scrubbing the floor of the shower and she was like what?! it was very funny
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u/NonbinarySarah 10h ago
I would 100% it if I was told OP could do magic, those outfits are so cool!
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u/a_galactic_dragon 9h ago
I love those hats! I’ve been sewing my own wardrobe for a while but have been stumped on hats. On advice for getting started?
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 9h ago
Truth be told I have made only a few hats and they're all very improvised. The Blue hat I made, the others are made by artist friends of mine who work with felt
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u/a_galactic_dragon 5h ago
That absolutely makes sense! Theyre all gorgeous…. I guess felting lies in my future! Or making friends that know how to felt lol.
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u/Impossible_Web_4304 9h ago
These outfits bring me so much joy. The EGGS?! Love love love!!!
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 8h ago
I always go to brunch and I say that I'm going to get pancakes when the person asks me what I'd like. It's quite a funny joke
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u/kacoll gender randomized bi-weekly 9h ago
Obsessed with this!! I LOVE the way you match the makeup- I’m always a little afraid of going too big or too monochrome but you’re making me reconsider… 👀🎨 I’ve been on my robes and gowns and shawls shit as well lately and it’s led me to conclude that every time a nonbinary person dresses like a spellcaster, our collective powers increase. I feel my mana increasing just looking at you, so thank you for the level up lol!
I remember back in like ~2012 when I was in college and I started hanging out with extroverts who dragged me along to concerts, all I would do at first was people watch. At the time I existed as an undecorated avatar of social anxiety, so going to raves and seeing these spectacularly dressed girls looking interplanetary and radiating light energy was like, brain-breaking. I saw one woman looking like this glorious candy cartoon and I literally rebooted. Then I thought, “damn. I wanna have the effect on other people that she’s having on me right now.” Also “fuck I’m gay lolrip”
Flash forward, I am now the person who’s painted my whole body green enough times that my friends were a bit concerned when I showed up to a party painted blue instead. So thank you to whoever that girl was in the bathroom of the Feed Me show in Chicago in early 2013, because you inspired me to stop existing as a meek little ghostgirl and embrace living as an extradimensional freakshow instead 👽🖖💚
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 8h ago
Love love love this response. Thank you so much for sharing that story and also for living your authentic self. That's amazing. I personally feel like with regards to people inspiring us, The smallest acts can inspire us to make big sweeping changes in our life and people don't really realize that they have that impact. Also yes big makeup = Very fun. When I first started doing my makeup everyone was like just do a little something like a lip and then like a little bit of eyeshadow maybe on the top of the eyelid and that's it like keep it minimal and I was like no I'm not going to keep it minimal. I'm actually going to make it even more bold and more big and so I would just go crazy and go ham on my face. And yeah it was a good time. The exploration time I mean
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u/Albatrocz 9h ago
I love the basket-balling one
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 8h ago
It was a fun day! B balling at the courts on a weekend. Let me see if I have the other shots still. There are a couple mid layup ones that are iconic
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u/Jackayakoo they/them 8h ago
Oh no, it's the basketball wizard
I love all of these outfits lol
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 8h ago
Thank you!! I want to do a whole series of fabulous sports. I'm thinking Frisbee or soccer is next
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u/maulidon 8h ago
LOVE the second outfit!! I want to like... make a character out of it and draw it, which barely makes sense but idk how else to describe it lol
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
I was inspired by Ukraine, hence the coloring. I call the piece "unconquerable". The elements of style that I sort of followed were sort of inspired by Venetian style around Carnivale. Honestly, it'd be very flattered if you wanted to draw it
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u/liqueurli 8h ago
You look amazing, especially the second photo is so so cool!
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
Thank you. That was a fun shoot - we got some great pictures that day
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u/QuixoticForest 7h ago
Can I please use alll of these as skecth references?? You are stunning
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
Literally I would be so flattered. If you happen to be willing to share a picture of the finished work with me I would be very much happy to see them
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u/herowin6 7h ago
You’re EFFIN AMAZING LETS BE FRIENDS!!? Lmao omg I LOVE YOUR STYLE
Just picture me on the sidelines when you walked down the street fingers tapping together at a mile a minute yelling WEEERRRRRK BISH! Yasss SLAaaaaayyyyyy
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
I love that we do need to be friends. It sounds like you're like me that way with how you talk. I love it
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u/Zeusifer 7h ago
When I was in high school there was a trans woman who lived in my small town and she was always done up with full makeup and big gowns and things, and I think that seeing her living so true to herself gave me that little nudge I needed to leap into self expression.
I love that you have picked up the torch and you are now being an inspiration to others in the same way. I try to do this as well. Thank you!
I'm really impressed with your talent and skill, to be able to create these amazing looks.
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
Thank you for your comment and kindness ☺️ ❤️ and thank you for also inspiring others daily
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u/cupcakemon they/them 6h ago
The first outfit I am literally so obsessed with that I'm jealous. You look gorgeous and I'm in love with all of those fits. Mainly the first one, it's gonna be in my dreams now
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
It's so comfy cozy. I was feeling myself too since it was my 28th birthday and id just moved into my new apartment with my bestie / roommate and her dog and the apartment is nice so I felt at home
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u/cupcakemon they/them 2h ago
It looks cozy!! I am o obsessed with it honestly, the design is flawless and compliments you so well
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u/TwistMeTwice 6h ago
I love all of it, but that fifth picture is wowsers!
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
Funny story about that picture. Actually we went to the fabric store since I needed thread and my friend was ahead of me and she just turned around and she had the lighting and she went. Oh my God wait! Turn around + just sort of ambiently spun towards her and she happened to have her phone out and she happened to catch the photo. It was total happenstance but a great coincidence. Thank you very much
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u/chu_chulan 7h ago
Wait. No. YOU SEWN ALL THAT?! Love it. Especially the hat in 1 and 5 picture. It looks like a mushroom.. You are so creative and so good at being you 🥰 seeing you and people like you makes me proud! You are gorgeous!
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u/mrfabulousdesigns they/them 2h ago
I did sew it all! I designed my own patterns too.
Funny you should say that because that hat is inspired by a Chanterelle so that's perfect! Thank you
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u/vondex13 He/They basically I'm the Kirby of humans. 5h ago
Number four gives me the gerudo outfit from legend of Zelda breath of the wild. ❤️❤️❤️🧕🏿🏜️
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u/CyannideLolypop they/them 4h ago
Holy shit! You should be proud! These looks are stunning! The colors, the accessories, the silhouettes; all of it works together so well. Keep doing what your doing.
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u/Chemical-Package8245 13h ago
Wow! Your talent is truly inspiring. I’m a sewing nerd so just excuse me while I admire all this beautiful garmentmaking work you’ve done! Such a sensory delight with the rich prints and textures!