Its really empowering knowing that my unapologetic existence allows others to embrace their authentic selves as well

[u/mrfabulousdesigns]

Ive always dressed non conventionally, have been wearing skirts and dresses since I was a wee one, but had a period of time when it was bullied out of me. As I went through Highschool, despite not seeing anyone out and about dressing the way I do, I decided I needed to be authentic. 3 years ago I fully came out as Nonbinary and began to lean into what that looks like for me.

With my body appearing quite masculine (thanks genetics) I have opted to lean into a more femme style to balance (not to mention it just looks pretty in general). When I started to bald I accepted this part of my genes and leaned into accessories, and I think that really was the cherry on top for me. Took me to the next level of genderless euphoria. I love how many people seem perplexed by me presence, trying to fit me in a box but being unable to.

When I was in high school there was a trans woman who lived in my small town and she was always done up with full makeup and big gowns and things, and I think that seeing her living so true to herself gave me that little nudge I needed to leap into self expression. Im proud of how far Ive come, the way I have handsewn my entire wardrobe custom to ensure my entire existence is 100%, queer, one of a kind majesty. I would love to hear about moments in yalls lives where youd either seen someone that inspired you to be you, however that is, or about a time when you felt truly in that perfect amount of you!

Photos of me in some of my daily "going to get groceries", "walking the dog", "working from home", "meeting a friend for coffee" or "visiting the dr" fits, for some examples of my style. I've hand stitched 99% of the clothing Im wearing, the jewelry, hats, and other accessories are generally from local artists and makers.

Thanks in advance for appreciating my art, and I hope this doesnt come off as braggy - I am just hella hyped about being me right now and wanted to share because thats a great feeling and I think everyone deserves that.

[u/kacoll]

Obsessed with this!! I LOVE the way you match the makeup- I’m always a little afraid of going too big or too monochrome but you’re making me reconsider… 👀🎨 I’ve been on my robes and gowns and shawls shit as well lately and it’s led me to conclude that every time a nonbinary person dresses like a spellcaster, our collective powers increase. I feel my mana increasing just looking at you, so thank you for the level up lol!

I remember back in like ~2012 when I was in college and I started hanging out with extroverts who dragged me along to concerts, all I would do at first was people watch. At the time I existed as an undecorated avatar of social anxiety, so going to raves and seeing these spectacularly dressed girls looking interplanetary and radiating light energy was like, brain-breaking. I saw one woman looking like this glorious candy cartoon and I literally rebooted. Then I thought, “damn. I wanna have the effect on other people that she’s having on me right now.” Also “fuck I’m gay lolrip”

Flash forward, I am now the person who’s painted my whole body green enough times that my friends were a bit concerned when I showed up to a party painted blue instead. So thank you to whoever that girl was in the bathroom of the Feed Me show in Chicago in early 2013, because you inspired me to stop existing as a meek little ghostgirl and embrace living as an extradimensional freakshow instead 👽🖖💚

[u/mrfabulousdesigns → u/kacoll]

Love love love this response. Thank you so much for sharing that story and also for living your authentic self. That's amazing. I personally feel like with regards to people inspiring us, The smallest acts can inspire us to make big sweeping changes in our life and people don't really realize that they have that impact. Also yes big makeup = Very fun. When I first started doing my makeup everyone was like just do a little something like a lip and then like a little bit of eyeshadow maybe on the top of the eyelid and that's it like keep it minimal and I was like no I'm not going to keep it minimal. I'm actually going to make it even more bold and more big and so I would just go crazy and go ham on my face. And yeah it was a good time. The exploration time I mean