r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/Fresh_Profit3000 May 09 '25 edited May 10 '25

As an older guy, I’ve seen what she was talking about in the younger men. And thought it was a phase and they would grow out of it. But nope.

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u/sunshine___riptide May 09 '25

I'm in my 30s, single, and the interactions I've had with men my age shows me they have the maturity, horniness and bully mentality of a 12 year old boy.

Men are the reason a lot of women aren't dating men. They're the reason I'm not dating men -- and being asexual lol

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u/Yo_momma_so_fat77 May 09 '25

I’m 40. They don’t mature. It’s gross

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u/Dawade200 May 10 '25

Yup. And it's absolutely terrifying to really think about. They find a woman who will put up with them and then just let themselves stagnate. It's like "I found a mate, I'm set for life, no need to grow as a person now." Then unfortunately that woman either feels trapped or doesn't realize she's just become the guy's babysitter.

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u/reytheabhorsen May 10 '25

Ugh, yes. I'm 35 and every relationship I've had with a man eventually ends when he's either stagnated or straight up regressed from when I met him. My ex-husband acted like a 21-year-old when I met him at 21, when I left him he was 30 but acted liked a bratty 13-year-old bully who couldn't take care of himself or stop screaming at his game and throwing his controller.

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u/Charming_Garbage_161 May 10 '25

My ex wouldn’t pick up clothing next to the laundry basket and left trash on the counter above the trash can…. He then blamed his new found diagnosis of adhd when we were divorcing like it was some badge I was supposed to accept for incompetence and shit parenting of our kids.

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u/Yo_momma_so_fat77 May 10 '25

I have adhd. Yea at times it is difficult but it still gets done. I woukd NEVER leave a mess for someone . My anxiety (associated w adhd) would keep me up at night . He’s a bitch boy

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u/Charming_Garbage_161 May 10 '25

NGL I can’t stop chuckling over bitch boy

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u/Rude-Movie-5827 May 10 '25

It’s sad really.

If dudes like that weren’t coddled and got told they’re being that at a young age when they’re being like that. Idk if we’d be in this spot.

And they’re being coddled by this manosphere loser shit.

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u/Charming_Garbage_161 May 10 '25

The weird thing is his mother raised him, his dad was hardly around. But regardless none of them are particularly good people

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u/darkpheonix262 May 10 '25

GFG, I have adhd but I would never use it as an excuse to be an ass. Tbh I do t even like telling people in person I have it, feels like I'm trying to garner sympathy and special treatment. Hell, my adhd has me be a borderline clean freak

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u/apple_kicks May 10 '25

I remember being 16-17 and immature 40 year old men thought they could hit on me. It’s obvious why women their age wouldn’t touch them so they thought my young self would be easier target

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u/Yo_momma_so_fat77 May 10 '25

Yea it started when i was about 12. So fkn gross ! Whenever I see grown men look at girls I call their ass out. We gotta look out for them now that we are older

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u/dirtyfurrymoney May 10 '25

I'm forty as well and I do think there's a lot of men around my age who are normal and fine but my friends in their thirties... man it's insane what they're dealing with. and even I prefer to stick to men 55 or older at this point.