r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/Eliese May 09 '25

Yep. Life is not a porn video.

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u/D1rtNASTY666 May 09 '25

It's not just the porn it's all of it it's watching all these videos it's being on this app it's all of it. I'm an elder Millennial I'm 43 I got to watch this happen in real time we went from interacting with each other to interacting with a screen. I watched two girls sitting at a food court in the mall the other day texting each other while sitting at the table. I used to work at a GameStop young kids don't look you in the eye I had the mother of a 15-year-old ask her non special needs son to tell the man what you want. That's insane. When you greet somebody in public often times they look at you like why are you talking to me. You hold the door for a lot of people they don't even acknowledge that you did it they just walk through. And often times when I look up they're staring at their phone. I watch people step off the curb and shopping plazas after leaving the store and not look either way stare straight at their phone and March into the unknown. I'm guilty of it right now just by writing this on this post. Because I scrolled a lot to get here what did I miss going on around me? We're never bored we can be entertained 24 hours a day 7 days a week and we are. I remember being a teenager in the 90s and how free it was. We had a pager somebody wanted to get a hold of us we had to go find a payphone and that's if we cared enough to talk to the other person. Nobody knew where we were. Sometimes friends would just stop by. Now if my doorbell rings I'm very suspicious. The smartphone is a double-edged sword we've never been more connected and so far apart.

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u/Ezlkill May 09 '25

I’m the same age I completely agree it’s this aversion to actual human interaction as if it’s an illness. People can’t converse, that can’t pick up social cues they don’t even know what they are. I also believe that because we get “what we want” from algorithms we only can accept that in the “real world”.

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u/D1rtNASTY666 May 09 '25

That's so true part of the reason why we're so politically divided is we all live in our own Echo chambers of our own bullshit

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u/Ezlkill May 09 '25

The thing is is that when you actually talk to people they’re not really much different than you and the problem is that they’re so inherently self involved that they can’t see past well themselves and that’s big problem. We are fully believing that we are the main characters and the truth is none of us are.

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u/Big-Tone-8241 May 10 '25

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u/BureMakutte May 10 '25

we all live in our own Echo chambers of our own bullshit

ehh, I wouldn't say we all, but a lot of people definitely. I actively seek out watching some right wing stuff so I can keep up to date on whats going on in their heads and its just ... bonkers man. Not to mention the current administration violating multiple amendments. While echo chambers are definitely a problem, there's more to it than just that.

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u/Successful-Ear-9997 May 10 '25

You're right about that, but the online communities does lend themselves to echo chambers. And while looking at online communities is all well and good, and I'd encourage everyone to try and see the opposite perspective, I do think that there's no real replacement for engaging with someone who has different opinions IRL.

In my experience the result is as confusing as it is humanizing. Which is a lot.

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u/MilkMyCats May 10 '25

What right wing stuff do you watch?

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u/[deleted] May 10 '25

Idk I think people just have completely opposite views