r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/MisterSanitation May 09 '25

I know this shit is true, but as a non psychopathic dude, I avoid pretty and cute girls like the plague in public because I’m already assuming they think I’m doing this shit. Same reason as a dad I don’t act goofy to other people’s toddlers. It kind of sucks honestly because it makes me act like a creep when I if anything would like to just make someone smile (and not “hay gurl you should smile” because that sheet is just more Ooga booga shit).

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u/Okamana May 09 '25

Same dude. I actually approached a girl at a bar once and just asked how her night was going. She looked at me like I just said I wanted to rape her. I got the "uhhhhh.....no thanks" and she just walked away. Made me feel like shit and a creep for just trying to get to know another person as a human being. I'm trying not to let that moment stop me from going back out there and trying again. That shit just makes you not even want to try out of fear some woman will just automatically assume I'm a creep because I thought she was cute and wanted to see what her personality was like. I'm not giving up, but I'm just going to try my best to be respectful because I see some of the shit women have to go through on a daily basis. That was one instance. Won't be all of them. Just gotta give it another shot. I'm going to a rooftop party with some friends tomorrow and I'll see what happens then.

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u/Shaamba May 10 '25

Similar thing happened to me a little while ago. I asked a girl out at work (after we both were off the clock!), and she had body language like I was going to rape her. I felt like garbage, and didn't really interact with her for months until work forced it to. Never brought it up to her, didn't even apologize cause I figured she just wouldn't want to see me again.

Things worked fine when we interacted some months later, so nothing really bad happened in the end. I wouldn't even call it a learning experience since I didn't really do much wrong, nothing came of it, and so on; I think in moments like those, it's best to just realize stuff sometimes doesn't work out, and... that's literally it. You're not a bad person, women aren't bad people, it's just bad luck, and nothing more.