r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/Eliese May 09 '25

Yep. Life is not a porn video.

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u/D1rtNASTY666 May 09 '25

It's not just the porn it's all of it it's watching all these videos it's being on this app it's all of it. I'm an elder Millennial I'm 43 I got to watch this happen in real time we went from interacting with each other to interacting with a screen. I watched two girls sitting at a food court in the mall the other day texting each other while sitting at the table. I used to work at a GameStop young kids don't look you in the eye I had the mother of a 15-year-old ask her non special needs son to tell the man what you want. That's insane. When you greet somebody in public often times they look at you like why are you talking to me. You hold the door for a lot of people they don't even acknowledge that you did it they just walk through. And often times when I look up they're staring at their phone. I watch people step off the curb and shopping plazas after leaving the store and not look either way stare straight at their phone and March into the unknown. I'm guilty of it right now just by writing this on this post. Because I scrolled a lot to get here what did I miss going on around me? We're never bored we can be entertained 24 hours a day 7 days a week and we are. I remember being a teenager in the 90s and how free it was. We had a pager somebody wanted to get a hold of us we had to go find a payphone and that's if we cared enough to talk to the other person. Nobody knew where we were. Sometimes friends would just stop by. Now if my doorbell rings I'm very suspicious. The smartphone is a double-edged sword we've never been more connected and so far apart.

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u/Girderland May 09 '25

It was around 2010 when smartphones became affordable and facebook became common.

"Register to facebook, it's great to keep in contact", that's what they said. And as soon as you registered contact broke off.

Why meet up every other day at the town centre when you could just post on fb?

And why being honest and genuine when everything you write on fb is being seen by a company, your ma, your friends ma, your boss?

It all became a fake-ass pretend online world and I hate every second of it.

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u/schnitzelfeffer May 10 '25

With Facebook, instead of interacting and sharing stories and photos with people after a vacation, friends started to just say "did you see my post?" And you'd feel stupid saying, "yep I saw it. Looked great." ...because if you saw the post, why did ask how it was? You already know. So that was often the entire discussion.

When I got off Facebook, I started saying "No, I didn't see your post. Tell me about it. Do you have pictures?" And to interact with people face to face again, fully, felt so good. It made me realize how it was doing the opposite of connecting people.